Shame’s Disguise: People-Pleasing, Perfectionism & Proving Yourself

Shame’s Disguise: People-Pleasing, Perfectionism & Proving Yourself

10 Shame’s Disguise: People-Pleasing, Perfectionism & Proving Yourself Explicit Today’s episode is one that I think hits close to home for so many of us on this healing journey. We’re talking about shame—but not the loud, obvious kind. We’re talking about the quiet shame. The kind that hides in things we thought were just part of our personality: people-pleasing, perfectionism, and proving ourselves constantly. [00:50.178] What Shame actually is. [01:52.876] The ways Shame shows up. [02:04.276] People-Pleasing. [04:06.008] Perfectionism. [06:12.829] Proving. [08:52.018] Ways to help heal. [11:49.730] Affirmations for Healing [16:23.933] I Love You. Healing, Unfiltered: Real Life, Real Talk, Real Healing website [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Follow on Instagram [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/instagram] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Copyright 2025 Healing, Unfiltered Mentioned in this episode: Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe]

The Duality of Control - Part 2: The Illusion of Control

9 The Duality of Control - Part 2: The Illusion of Control Explicit Last week we started our discussion on The Duality of Control and what it looks like to be controlled in our relationships, and how it quietly steals pieces of who you are. This week we’re doing a 180. And we’re going to look in the mirror and see how being controlled, has turned us into trying to control everything. [01:23.786] The Illusion of Control [02:30.581] How Control Shows Up [04:03.233] What control looks like in my life. [12:12.402] How to learn to let go. [15:16.610] Affirmations for Healing [18:32.249] I Love You. Healing, Unfiltered: Real Life, Real Talk, Real Healing website [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Follow on Instagram [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/instagram] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Copyright 2025 Healing, Unfiltered Mentioned in this episode: Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review]

The Duality of Control - Part 1: Being Controlled

8 The Duality of Control - Part 1: Being Controlled Explicit This week we’re going to discuss what it looks like to be controlled in a relationship, how it affects us, and how we can heal from it. Next week, we’ll discuss how being controlled causes us to be controlling. [00:19.738] What does control look like in real life? [03:04.237] Red Flags & Subtle Signs [03:44.349] What control looked like in my life. [11:09.294] The damage being controlled cuases. [12:44.973] Affirmations for Healing [15:46.801] I Love You. Healing, Unfiltered: Real Life, Real Talk, Real Healing website [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Follow on Instagram [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/instagram] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Copyright 2025 Healing, Unfiltered Mentioned in this episode: Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review]

Healing the Heart

7 Healing the Heart Explicit In this episode I talk about healing your heart. My path to healing and the various methods of healing I have used. [00:01.448] Healing the Heart [00:50.810] My Hurts & Traumas [04:14.380] How Did My Healing Journey Begin [04:18.316] Side Note - I have aphantasia [05:13.909] EMDR Therapy [08:40.309] Iron Man Challenge / Indoor Triathlon [11:06.465] I Didn't Sabotage [13:04.077] It's Ok To Take Medicine [16:10.045] Talk Therapy Helps Too [17:37.070] Celebrate Recovery & Step Study [20:53.862] Art Quiets My Mind [22:07.221] The Start of My Spiritual Journey [23:00.574] Healing is Not Linear [24:01.743] Where Am I Today? [27:05.470] Affirmations for Healing [30:25.760] I Love You. * Celebrate Recovery [https://celebraterecovery.com/] - Information about the Celebrate Recovery program. * What is EMDR? [https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/] - A link to learn about what EMDR Therapy is and how those with PTSD can benefit from it. Healing, Unfiltered: Real Life, Real Talk, Real Healing website [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Follow on Instagram [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/instagram] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Copyright 2025 Healing, Unfiltered Mentioned in this episode: Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe]

The Small Miracles in Life

6 The Small Miracles in Life Explicit On this episode I'm talking about what I call miracles, in my life. I don’t mean the miracle of having kids, while yes that in & of itself is a miracle, that’s not what I want to talk about. I’m talking about the one where you look up & go “God, I could use a little help here” kind of miracles. And the ones that seem like coincidences but there is just no explanation for the event/outcome. [00:37.410] Miracle vs. Coincidence [01:42.439] Miracles in the Desert [05:46.136] Money's Tight [09:00.878] Health Miracles [10:36.475] I Prayed for Him [11:38.999] Work Miracles [17:03.491] House Miracle [18:37.007] Medical Emergency [19:58.497] Pregnancies [21:51.364] Albert Einstein [22:29.872] Guardian Angels [24:56.237] Manifestation Affirmations [27:48.313] I Love You. Healing, Unfiltered: Real Life, Real Talk, Real Healing website [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook] Follow on Instagram [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/instagram] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Copyright 2025 Healing, Unfiltered Mentioned in this episode: Subscribe [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/subscribe] Leave a Review [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/review] Follow on Facebook [https://healing-unfiltered.captivate.fm/facebook]