Your Dad is Dead

Three Zeros?!

You can find the Question Wheel at howtotellsomeone.com/resources [https://www.howtotellsomeone.com/resources] Give it a spin and send your written answer to howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] or use the contact form (linked in the website footer) CREDITS: Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske All music composed and performed by: Hexteria Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria Discover more music: www.hexteriamusic.com [http://www.hexteriamusic.com] or any major streaming platform CONNECT WITH US: How to Tell Someone isn’t on social media by design. Please follow and engage here instead: Website: howtotellsomeone.com [http://howtotellsomeone.com] (merch and more) Substack: tonyapieske.substack.com [http://tonyapieske.substack.com] (free bonus, BTS, and companion content) YouTube: www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone [http://www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone] Email: howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] Available on all major streaming platforms This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tonyapieske.substack.com [https://tonyapieske.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Bonus Episode: The Question Wheel

SHARE YOUR STORY: You can find the Question Wheel at howtotellsomeone.com/resources [https://www.howtotellsomeone.com/resources] Give it a spin and send your written answer to howtotellsomeone@gmail.com CREDITS: Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske All music composed and performed by: Hexteria Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria Discover more music: www.hexteriamusic.com [http://www.hexteriamusic.com] or any major streaming platform CONNECT WITH US: How to Tell Someone isn’t on social media by design. Please follow and engage here instead: Website: howtotellsomeone.com [http://howtotellsomeone.com] (merch and more) Substack: tonyapieske.substack.com [http://tonyapieske.substack.com] (free bonus, BTS, and companion content) YouTube: www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone [http://www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone] Email: howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] Available on all major streaming platforms This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tonyapieske.substack.com [https://tonyapieske.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Your Dad is Dead

“It was the first time I’d ever known anyone that had died, and it was my dad. When you’re seven, you don’t even have the vocabulary or the reference points to start navigating that mentally. So, it’s just pure shock.” “One of the things I immediately started reflecting on was how could this have been avoided?…And this is really when the guilt came on…So now on top of it all, it’s my fault.” Key topics include losing a parent at a young age, navigating death and grief without mental health support, and living with an autoimmune disease. CONTENT WARNINGS: - Grief, death, and loss - Mentions of substance abuse CREDITS: Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske All music composed and performed by: Hexteria Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria Discover more music: www.hexteriamusic.com [http://www.hexteriamusic.com] or any major streaming platform CONNECT WITH US: How to Tell Someone isn’t on social media by design. Please follow and engage here instead: Website: howtotellsomeone.com [http://howtotellsomeone.com] (merch and more) Substack: tonyapieske.substack.com [http://tonyapieske.substack.com] (free bonus, BTS, and companion content) YouTube: www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone [http://www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone] Email: howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] Available on all major streaming platforms This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tonyapieske.substack.com [https://tonyapieske.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Your Dad is Dying

“The way she said it made it feel like I was the last one to understand because I just didn’t know what this word meant. I didn’t understand he was dying…It was so weird to feel like you missed something, and that thing is that you’re going to lose the person that means everything to you….It was like the world was ripped out from under me and I’ve been falling ever since.” Key topics include losing a parent at a young age, the impact of death and grief on family dynamics, and navigating life with a parent struggling with substance abuse. CONTENT WARNINGS: - Grief, death, and loss - Substance abuse - Mention of sexual assault CONNECT WITH LINDSEY: Learn more about Lindsey Strong’s tattoo work and booking info by following her on Instagram @lindseydreadfuls https://www.instagram.com/lindseydreadfuls/ [https://www.instagram.com/lindseydreadfuls/] CREDITS: Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske All music composed and performed by: Hexteria Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria Discover more music: www.hexteriamusic.com [http://www.hexteriamusic.com] or any major streaming platform CONNECT WITH US: How to Tell Someone isn’t on social media by design. Please follow and engage here instead: Website: howtotellsomeone.com [http://howtotellsomeone.com] (merch and more) Substack: tonyapieske.substack.com [http://tonyapieske.substack.com] (free bonus, BTS, and companion content) YouTube: www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone [http://www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone] Email: howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] Available on all major streaming platforms This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tonyapieske.substack.com [https://tonyapieske.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Your Partner is Trans

“There are ways you can mess up without even meaning to, and you don’t figure that out until it happens. And there’s only so much you can do to prepare and only so much you can do to educate yourself. And it’s also a very emotional thing. I think it was important to tell a story rather than to use terminology.” Key topics include queer relationships, supporting and advocating through gender transition, and relationship and family dynamics. CONTENT WARNINGS: - References to misgendering and misuse of pronouns - Brief mention of death and grief RESOURCES: The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ [https://www.thetrevorproject.org/] 24/7 crisis support for LGBTQ+ youth and young adults via text, chat, or phone. Trans Lifeline: https://translifeline.org/ [https://translifeline.org/] A peer-run hotline staffed entirely by trans people for trans people. They also offer name-change microgrants. PFLAG: https://pflag.org/ [https://pflag.org/] Support, education, and community for families, partners, and allies. GLAAD — Transgender FAQ: https://www.glaad.org/transgender/transfaq [https://www.glaad.org/transgender/transfaq] Clear, accessible explanations of terminology and respectful language. National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE): https://transequality.org/ [https://transequality.org/] Policy, rights information, and practical resources for navigating documentation changes. Gender Spectrum – Healthy Relationships: https://genderspectrum.org/ [https://genderspectrum.org/] Guidance on communication, identity, and navigating relationship changes. OurPath (formerly Straight Spouse Network): https://ourpath.org/ [https://ourpath.org/] Peer support for partners navigating shifts in understanding around gender and orientation. Transgender Law Center (TLC): https://transgenderlawcenter.org/ [https://transgenderlawcenter.org/] The largest trans-led civil rights organization in the U.S. offering legal support, advocacy, and community-led solutions. Black LGBTQIA+ Migrant Project (BLMP): https://blmp.org/ [https://blmp.org/] A Black trans- and queer-led collective supporting Black LGBTQ+ migrants through community building, organizing, and mutual aid. Human Rights Campaign (HRC) — Coming Out as Transgender: https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out-as-transgender [https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out-as-transgender] A practical, accessible guide for those navigating disclosure or supporting someone who is. PFLAG — Transgender Allies Guide: https://pflag.org/allies [https://pflag.org/allies] Straightforward, beginner-friendly guidance for anyone wanting to support a trans loved one with respect and care. CREDITS: Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske All music composed and performed by: Hexteria Main theme: “The Star” by Hexteria Discover more music: www.hexteriamusic.com [http://www.hexteriamusic.com] or any major streaming platform CONNECT WITH US: How to Tell Someone isn’t on social media by design. Please follow and engage here instead: Website: howtotellsomeone.com [http://howtotellsomeone.com] (merch and more) Substack: tonyapieske.substack.com [http://tonyapieske.substack.com] (free bonus, BTS, and companion content) YouTube: www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone [http://www.youtube.com/@HowtoTellSomeone] Email: howtotellsomeone@gmail.com [howtotellsomeone@gmail.com] Available on all major streaming platforms This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tonyapieske.substack.com [https://tonyapieske.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]