Refitting the HMS Defiance

Ten Week Integration Reset — Week 3: Stepping Into Practice

Here's what happens the moment you actually try to do the thing: ADHD shows up at the door. Not the just saboteurs this time — they came last week. This is the threshold moment, that gap between thinking and doing where ADHD does some of its best interference work. ADHD emboldened Saboteurs and we get he avoider rationalizing. The five-more-minutes loop. The conditions-aren't-quite-right perfectionism from Stickler. It's all waiting right there at the inflection point between intention and action. This week Cameron turns the spotlight on that threshold — and asks you to meet your ADHD there with curiosity and compassion, the same way you met your saboteurs last week. But first, a check-in with something worth sitting with: many of us carry a serious empathy imbalance. Plenty of compassion for others, almost none for ourselves. Cameron makes a direct request this week — try to extend to yourself even a fraction of the grace you'd offer anyone else. It matters more than it sounds. He also takes on healthy skepticism: why are we looking at emotions in a coaching model, and is Positive Intelligence just oversimplified neuroscience-lite? He doesn't dodge either question. And he walks through his own four-element example — inner space, outer space, context and lived experience, ADHD — with more honesty than strictly necessary, including a confession about the snack cabinet that may or may not get him Weight Watchers ads on YouTube. HMS Conviction is coming out of dry dock. It's time to step across the line.

Ten Week Integration Reset — Week 2: Saboteur Homecoming!

Here's what happens the moment you decide to make a change or commit to a ten week program of any kind: they show up. The inner critic. The judge. The avoider, the victim, the pleaser, the hyper-achiever. Every internal character who has ever told you you've tried this before, "fat chance, buddy!" — they're coming. So this week, instead of waiting for the jump scare, Cameron throws them a party. Saboteur Homecoming! Doing so, we actually integrate these unhelpful characters into the change we want to create. Drawing on the Positive Intelligence framework and Tamara Rozier's work on malicious motivators, Cameron unpacks the nine saboteur types, how ADHD amplifies each one by quietly removing limits and intensifying their message, and why wrestling with them is exactly what they want. The goal isn't to defeat them — it's to see them coming, tag them, and start listening to what they're actually trying to tell you. Because buried inside every saboteur message is data that can be turned into intention. Cameron also shares his own saboteur trifecta in action — including a pang of test anxiety he hadn't felt in years — and why Matthew McConaughey's "persist, pivot, or concede" is easier said than done when your hyper-achiever has never once considered conceding as an option. They're coming anyway. Might as well open the door.

Ten Week Integration Reset — Week 1: Making Space, Giving Grace

Week one. And it doesn't start with momentum — it starts with space. Before you can build anything new, you need to look at what's cluttering the deck. Unfinished things. Obligations that have quietly outlived their purpose. The constant low hum of stuff that's almost done but not quite. Cameron gets specific about his own list — the front porch, the training he's been grumbling about, the PT he's been skipping — and invites you to take stock of yours. This is what the integration reset is actually about: gently unraveling four elements that naturally weave together — your current context and living experience, your outer behaviors and reactions, your inner thoughts and narrative, and your ADHD — looking at each one clearly, and then reconfiguring them in a way that serves you more effectively. That's the integration. That's the reset. And the ship? It's your vehicle for navigating the map of change. Whether it's HMS Defiance, HMS Urgency, or a yellow submarine, what matters is that you're at the wheel — and choosing where you're headed. Then there's giving grace. This reset is not boot camp. It's not a hype-up. It's a deliberate choice to stop activating through adrenaline and urgency and find a different gear — one that doesn't grind you down before you've even started. You will falter around week three. That's not failure. That's where grace comes in. Get ready for Week 1!

Take Back Power

Some weeks the HMS Defiance isn't sailing alone. This week it's joined by HMS Despair, HMS Discouragement, and HMS Discourse — and Cameron is honest about feeling like a wood chip that's been in the mulch grinder a little too long. The uncertainty in the world is real. The forces reshaping ADHD coaching from the inside and out are real. A major professional pivot that arrived without warning is real. And the quiet grief of a first Mother's Day without his mom is real. But this episode isn't about staying in the grinder. It's a pivot. A deliberate one. Cameron introduces a 10-week integration reset — a coaching journey to unravel the things that have gotten woven together in unhelpful ways, look at them clearly, and put them back together with intention. Not to fix everything. To take back a sense of agency in a world that keeps moving the ground beneath us. He shares what he's working on personally — a mindset shift, a physical health intention, and an honest look at his own wood-chip moment — and lays out a simple structure to join him: one hour, two friends, three intentions. The sharpened wood chip looks like a diamond. Let's go.

Refitting the HMS Defiance

Cameron opens fresh off teaching a class on coaching neurodivergent leaders — and the insights on impact and awareness are still buzzing. As someone who learns by teaching, he brings that energy and learning straight to the podcast, picking up the thread from last week's conversation on navigating pushback in the context of change. This week, Cameron names something he noticed in his own tone last week: defiance. And while a little defiance can be fuel, too much of it keeps us isolated, alienates potential allies, and puts all our energy into fighting back rather than moving forward. Enter the HMS Defiance — a vessel worth refitting, not scrapping. Cameron explores the tricky dance between acknowledging others' valid frustrations with your ADHD and not losing sight of your own experience in the process. He digs into relationship dynamics — particularly in ADHD partnerships — where the focus so often lands on the impact of ADHD on others, rather than the storm happening inside the person with ADHD. Two things can be true, and real change starts from the inside out. The invitation this week: push your agenda forward not through anger or resentment, but by articulating your experience, advocating for support, and finding — or building — a community that sees you. Refit the ship. Choose your crew wisely. And decide what destination you're actually sailing toward.