Life By Design With Angela Weiss

The Most Toxic Relationship I Ever Had Was With Myself: Episode 40

9 min · 2. juni 2026
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How do you speak to yourself when you make a mistake… when confidence feels shaky… when you’re trying something new… when you’re scared… when you feel behind? The person who talks to you the most in your lifetime… is you. In this episode of Life By Design with Angela Weiss, we’re talking about the relationship we often discuss the least: the relationship we have with ourselves. Because many of us would never tolerate someone speaking to our daughter, our son, our best friend, our patient, or someone we deeply love the way we quietly speak to ourselves every day. Inspired by themes from my books Always Never: The Most Toxic Relationship I Ever Had Was With Myself and You Wouldn’t Let Someone Talk to Your Daughter That Way, this episode explores confidence, self-talk, the inner critic, and the language we normalize inside our own heads. In this episode, we discuss: • confidence and self-talk • the inner critic • perfectionism, people pleasing, burnout, caregiving, and strong women who are harder on themselves than anyone else • how language shapes our internal environment • why confidence is difficult to build inside emotional hostility • practical tools to begin changing the relationship you have with yourself Practical Tools Discussed: Catch the Critic Notice recurring internal scripts with curiosity rather than shame. The Daughter Test Ask: Would I allow someone I love to be spoken to this way? Rewrite the Script Move from harsh criticism toward truthful compassion. Learn to Cheer for Yourself Confidence is not always fearless. Sometimes confidence looks like encouraging yourself enough to take the next step anyway. Key Takeaway: Confidence is very difficult to build inside a hostile internal environment. Reflection Question: If the voice inside your head became the voice following your daughter through life… would you be comfortable with what she was hearing? Connect with Angela Weiss: Website / Books / Author Page: tertulia.authors.com/angelaweiss-drafterher4xo Instagram: @AngelaWeissAuthor Facebook: Life By Design Press Podcast: Life By Design with Angela Weiss If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who may need it. Important Disclaimer: The information shared on Life By Design with Angela Weiss is intended for educational, informational, and inspirational purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical, mental health, psychological, legal, or professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Listening to this podcast or engaging with related content does not establish a provider-patient, therapist-client, coaching, or professional relationship with Angela Weiss or any affiliated entity. If you are experiencing a medical emergency, mental health crisis, thoughts of harming yourself or someone else, or feel unable to keep yourself safe, call 911, go to your nearest emergency room, or seek immediate emergency assistance. If you are experiencing emotional distress or suicidal thoughts in the United States or Canada, call or text 988 for free, confidential 24/7 crisis support.

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