No Negative Energy Presents: The "Due To Expire" Podcast with Corey L. Kennard
Text Us With This Link And Let Us Know How You Feel About This Episode! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2592690/fan_mail/new] Most relationship blowups aren’t caused by one forgotten chore or one late text. They happen when two people are aiming for different outcomes with the same conversation and neither realizes it until the tension spikes. We walk through the real behavioral science behind those moments, including why “helpful” problem solving can feel like coldness, why silence can feel like abandonment, and what to do before a small pothole turns into a full roadside breakdown. We start by replacing the tired “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” idea with a smarter frame: we’re all from Earth, but we speak different dialects. Using findings from Dr. John Gottman’s research, we talk about why friendship is the base layer for lasting passion and how the fix it mode vs feel it mode clash creates the same arguments on repeat. You’ll get a simple script that changes everything: “Do you want me to listen or do you want me to fix it?” Then we get practical. We break down the four horsemen that predict relationship trouble criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling and explain what’s happening in the body during emotional flooding when heart rate jumps and logic goes offline. From there, we lay out real repair tools: structured timeouts with a return time, softened startups, accepting influence, and the five to one ratio that keeps conflict from bankrupting your emotional bank account. We even give five micro deposits you can use immediately, from a six-second hug to an appreciation text the next morning. If you want better relationship communication, healthier conflict resolution, and fewer fights that spiral, hit play and try one repair attempt today. Subscribe, share this with someone you love, leave a review, and tell us: which “pothole” shows up most in your relationship?
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