Trigger Warnings, Trauma, And The Skills To Tolerate Life

What If Midlife Is Where You Begin: Boundaries, Burnout & Reinvention

Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/fan_mail/new] If you’ve been the competent one for decades, you can get so good at holding everything together that you stop noticing you’re not actually inside your own life. Mary Rothwell opens with a personal turning point, leaving a career-defining job after it became unsafe, and the disorienting question that followed: who am I when my identity is no longer my role? Midlife coach Sandra Wood joins us with her own flashbulb moments, including a breast cancer diagnosis that sparked a life review and a clear internal message to show up for herself. We talk about what happens when you start setting boundaries after years of people-pleasing and overfunctioning: the system pushes back, conflict feels threatening, and labels like selfish or crazy can get thrown your way. Sandra shares how learning to tolerate discomfort and let other people have their feelings can become the most freeing boundary of all. We also dig into the messy middle: divorce, depression, rebuilding financial stability, and parenting daughters while reinventing yourself in real time. Along the way, we explore the difference between “managing” your life and inhabiting it, why kindness is a stronger compass than being “good,” and how the caregiving role can quietly erase your wants if you don’t stay present to them. Finally, we clear up a common point of confusion for women seeking support: coaching vs therapy, when you may need both, and how to vet a therapist or coach with confidence. If you’re at a crossroads with burnout, boundaries, identity, perimenopause stress, or caregiving pressure, this conversation offers language and next steps. Subscribe, share with a friend who’s carrying too much, and leave a review with the boundary you’re ready to practice next. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/support] Learn more about my book, Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants HERE [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook]. Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com.  Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550550204259&mibextid=LQQJ4d]and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maryrothwell_lpc?igsh=MWR1ZmgzYXBucGU1dQ==], and check out my website [https://maryrothwell.net/]!

Trigger Warnings, Trauma, And The Skills To Tolerate Life

Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/fan_mail/new] We explore why trigger warnings and the word trigger can feel both helpful and limiting, especially when avoidance starts to shape daily life. I share stories and nature-based metaphors to show how resilience grows when we build tolerance, not when we retreat from every uncomfortable reminder.  • why trigger warnings rose in classrooms and culture  • the difference between everyday irritations and trauma-based triggers  • trauma as an untreated injury that changes how we move through life  • the amygdala as a smoke detector that can misread present-day safety  • personal examples involving alcoholism, suicide, and lingering grief  • boundaries as protection versus avoidance as a life limiter  • nature metaphors for resilience, regrowth, and gradual strengthening  If you have thoughts about this, I would love to hear. There’s a link in the show notes where you can actually text me, or you can always email nsvpodcast at gmail.com. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/support] Learn more about my book, Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants HERE [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook]. Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com.  Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550550204259&mibextid=LQQJ4d]and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maryrothwell_lpc?igsh=MWR1ZmgzYXBucGU1dQ==], and check out my website [https://maryrothwell.net/]!

Comedy As Power: Gender and Trauma through the Lens of Humor

Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/fan_mail/new] When a woman makes people laugh, she is doing more than entertaining the room. She is taking up space, steering attention, and quietly testing the rules of what society says is “acceptable” for women to do, say, and even feel. Mary traces her own path from being the smart, introverted kid to using self-deprecating humor as a kind of social armor, then asks what happens when we stop shrinking and start using humor on purpose. Guest Lynn Harris, founder and CEO of Gold Comedy, award-winning journalist, and culture-shifting producer whose humor-forward advocacy has helped move conversations on gender equity and social justice. Lynn shares a teen flashbulb moment that exposed a brutal truth: boys could be sloppy and get applause, while girls would get eye rolls. From there, we dig into why women are still asked to “prove women are funny,” why comedy clubs treat “one woman on the lineup” as diversity, and how bias makes the entire industry worse for audiences and performers. We also get practical and personal about the craft. Lynn makes the case that funny can be taught, that there are many styles of humor, and that improv is a powerful way to build confidence and flexibility. Then we go to the deeper edge: joking about grief, trauma, and tough topics. We talk about “too soon,” how to aim the joke at power or culture instead of victims, and how humor can create enough distance for healing without minimizing pain. If you care about women in comedy, resilience, trauma recovery, and the real power of laughter, listen, share with a friend, and leave a review. You can find Gold Comedy HERE [https://goldcomedy.com/] https://goldcomedy.com You can find Lynn HERE [https://www.lynnharris.net/] https://www.lynnharris.net/ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/support] Learn more about my book, Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants HERE [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook]. Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com.  Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550550204259&mibextid=LQQJ4d]and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maryrothwell_lpc?igsh=MWR1ZmgzYXBucGU1dQ==], and check out my website [https://maryrothwell.net/]!

Nature Holds the Key to What You Need

Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/fan_mail/new] Nature isn’t something you “get to” after you finally have a free weekend, the right gear, or the energy for a long hike. Nature is already here, and we’re already part of it. In this mini episode of No Shrinking Violets, I share what my recent book launch stirred up for me and why so many people keep asking the same question: how do we start to access nature when life feels busy, digital, and disconnected? We talk about a practical, low pressure way to begin that works whether you live in the country or the middle of a city: go to a garden center, put your phone away, and simply notice what you’re drawn to. Color, texture, shape, and even the “vibe” of a plant can become a surprisingly clear signal about what your nervous system wants right now. I also explain why I love using a single plant as a mirror for self care, because when you pay attention to water, light, nutrients, and stress in a plant, you start to see where you’ve been postponing the same basics for yourself. From there, we zoom out to bigger themes like nature’s rhythms, rest cycles, and the truth that nothing blooms all year. If you’ve been judging your energy dips or pushing through a season that’s asking for recovery, this will land. We also touch on resilience through diversity and small experiments that help you grow, plus a quick local note about exploring Lancaster and what a no Wi-Fi coffee shop can teach us about boundaries and space. If you enjoy this, subscribe and share it with a friend who needs a gentle reset. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/support] Learn more about my book, Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants HERE [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook]. Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com.  Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550550204259&mibextid=LQQJ4d]and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maryrothwell_lpc?igsh=MWR1ZmgzYXBucGU1dQ==], and check out my website [https://maryrothwell.net/]!

The Trauma of Betrayal: How to Recover and Thrive

Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/fan_mail/new] Betrayal has a special kind of aftermath: you’re not only grieving what happened, you’re questioning your judgment, your sanity, and whether you can trust yourself at all. I open with two betrayals that shaped me in different ways, one in a relationship and one at work, and why those “old” moments can still flare up years later when something makes it feel official or undeniable. That lingering charge is a clue that betrayal trauma isn’t fully healed, even when life looks functional on the outside. Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute and host of From Betrayal to Breakthrough, breaks down what her research revealed about betrayal recovery. We talk through her five stages of betrayal, why most people get stuck in survival mode, and how “I’m fine” can actually mean you’re living behind walls, numbing, avoiding, and repeating patterns without realizing it. We also dig into the shame and silence that often follow infidelity, family betrayal, or workplace betrayal and why this trauma demands a more specific healing approach than generic “time will help” advice. We get practical about rebuilding trust after cheating or betrayal, including a clear way to picture trust as a brick wall and why it’s not your job to rebuild what you didn’t break. We also cover forgiveness versus reconciliation, how to tell if you’re truly healed, and how to turn your intuition back up by rebuilding self-trust through small daily choices. If you’ve been telling yourself you should be over it by now, this conversation offers a real roadmap forward. Subscribe for more conversations that help you stop shrinking and start thriving. You can find Dr Debi HERE [https://thepbtinstitute.com/]  https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Check out my book Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2426477/support] Learn more about my book, Nature Knows: Grow and Thrive through the Wisdom of Plants HERE [https://maryrothwell.net/natureknowsbook]. Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com.  Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550550204259&mibextid=LQQJ4d]and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/maryrothwell_lpc?igsh=MWR1ZmgzYXBucGU1dQ==], and check out my website [https://maryrothwell.net/]!