Why You Keep Having The Same Fight (Attachment Styles)

EDC Missionary and the Raver Who Found Jesus

Philip Renner is a missionary and worship leader who walks into the world's darkest festivals, including EDC in Las Vegas, to preach the gospel. In this conversation he tells Jason and Malia Smylie what he actually sees when he steps onto that ground, the night God told him one word that changed everything, and how he leads total strangers to Jesus in the last place anyone would expect. He also gets honest about the part of his life that does not make the highlight reel. What it costs to be gone, why he refuses to be an absentee father, and the simple thing he and his wife do with their kids every single night to keep their own home anchored while he carries this calling. Jason opens up about his own years in the rave scene and what he realized the last time he stood at EDC. It turned into one of the most unexpected conversations we have had in our home. Timestamp: 00:00 – Introduction: Meeting Philip Renner 01:30 – Philip's Backstory: Growing up as a Missionary in Russia 09:37 – Shifting Seasons: Returning to America and Driving Uber in Tulsa 19:51 – Confronting Spiritual Darkness at Music Festivals and EDC 29:19 – Reaching Believers and Sharing the Simple Gospel with Love 35:18 – How to Train and Prepare for Street Ministry 44:33 – Discipleship and Staying Connected After the Encounter 47:13 – Daily Family Rhythms: Communion, Blessings, and Being a Present Parent If this episode moves you, the best next step is to find out where your own home actually stands.  Take the free assessment: ourhouse.faith/assessment Connect with Philip Renner Website: https://philiprenner.com Instagram: @philiprenner Book: A Fasted Life Our House with The Smylies helps families build rhythms that invite God's peace into their home, so they can stop surviving and start thriving together. Follow Our House Instagram: @ourhouse.faith Web: https://ourhouse.faith As for our house, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.

Pastors Are Now Talking About UFOs, Aliens & AI

The government just released undisclosed UFO files. Pastors are being privately briefed about what's coming. And AI is quietly becoming the new false "Holy Spirit" for millions of people. In this episode, Malia interviews Jason, a former atheist who spent decades exploring Eastern religions, new-age spirituality, and transhumanism before finding Jesus, on how Christians can navigate UFOs, AI, and the spiritual realm with discernment instead of fear.                        This isn't a fear-based take. It's not a UFO-hype take either. It's a conversation about how we anchor ourselves (and our kids) in Christ when the world is getting louder, weirder, and harder to ignore. We talk about:                                                                          • What this week's UFO disclosure actually means for Christians • Why AI is becoming a counterfeit source of wisdom, and what to do about it • The "forking of humanity" and the red line Jason refuses to cross                                                • How to raise kids who can discern truth in an AI-shaped world                                                  • Why signs and wonders without Jesus always lead somewhere dark                                                 • Where to find peace when the noise won't stop                                                                                   If you've ever felt embarrassed to ask whether UFOs are real, whether AI is dangerous, or how any of this fits into your faith, this one's for you.       CHAPTERS                                                                             00:00 – Introduction: The world is getting louder 03:37 – Jason’s Journey: Seeking transcendence before Jesus 06:23 – Why Christians should care about UFO disclosure 11:25 – Explaining AI in layman’s terms: What is it really? 16:45 – The "Forking of Humanity" and simulated realities 19:50 – Technology vs. the hope of the Gospel 21:13 – AI as a counterfeit source of wisdom and spiritual authority 24:28 – Do extraterrestrials fit into the Christian worldview? 29:20 – Spiritual warfare and the principalities of darkness 37:10 – Parenting: How to protect and guide your children 48:40 – Transhumanism: The promise of living forever vs. Eternal Life 56:15 – Final thoughts: Staying grounded in Jesus                                                                                    🔔 Subscribe for more conversations on bringing God to the center of your home.                                           👍 If this resonated, like the video, it helps other Christians find us.                                              💬 Drop a comment: what's the hardest part of staying grounded in a noisy world?                                                                                                                            CONNECT WITH US                                                                           Instagram: @ourhouse.faith  "As for our house, we will serve the Lord."      #OurHousePodcast #ChristianPodcast #UFOs #UAPDisclosure #AI #Christianity #Faith #Discernment #ChristianParenting #SpiritualWarfare #EndTimes #Jesus

Youth Pastor's 2 Questions Tell You If You're In God's Will

Most Christians live with quiet anxiety about whether they're in God's will. In this episode of the Our House Podcast, Jason and Malia Smylie sit down with Daniel Knapp, a pastor's kid and Christian youth teacher, who shares the two simple questions that diagnose whether you're walking in the will of God right now. The conversation unpacks a key reframe: scripture talks about God's will as character transformation and sanctification, but most Christians are anxiously asking about jobs, relationships, and timing. Daniel's two questions bridge that gap and replace anxiety with peace. The two questions Daniel walks through: 1.⁠ ⁠Am I genuinely pursuing Jesus? 2.⁠ ⁠Am I actively walking in disobedience anywhere? If both answers are honest, you've found your answer about God's will for your life. In this episode Jason, Malia, and Daniel discuss: 00:00 — Introduction: Meeting Daniel Knapp in the Dominican Republic 01:27 — Career vs. Calling: Daniel’s transition from business to ministry 04:40 — How to know if you are living in God’s will 12:15 — The importance of surrendering your plans to the Lord 26:08 — Understanding the two types of disobedience 29:30 — How to discern the voice of God vs. your own desires 41:10 — The impact of being raised in a ministry home (PK life) 53:55 — Encouragement for parents dealing with a rebellious child 56:20 — The power of prayer and faithful stewardship in the home 1:00:41 — Closing thoughts and how to support the podcast This conversation is for any Christian who has ever wondered if they are on the right path, any parent navigating faith with their kids, and any believer who wants a simpler, more biblical way to discern God's will without the anxiety. Daniel Knapp is a pastor's kid, Christian youth teacher at Cavalry Chapel in Las Vegas. He and his wife Zoe are expecting their first daughter, Eden. Scripture referenced in this episode: 1 Thessalonians 4 and 5 Romans 12:2 Hebrews 12:1-2 Philippians 4 Matthew 25 (Parable of the Talents) Joshua 24:15 Take the free 3-minute home assessment: ourhouse.faith/assessment Connect with us: Website: ourhouse.faith Instagram: @ourhouse.faith Subscribe to the Our House Podcast for weekly conversations with Jason and Malia Smylie on faith, marriage, parenting, and building a home centered on Christ. As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too. Joshua 24:15 #GodsWill #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndFamily #ChristianMarriage #ChristianParenting #YouthMinistry #PastorsKid #ChristianLiving #BiblicalWisdom #OurHousePodcast #JasonAndMaliaSmylie #DanielKnapp #ChristianFamily #FaithCenteredHome #SpiritualGrowth

Why You Keep Having The Same Fight (Attachment Styles)

Why do you keep having the same fight in your marriage? It might be your attachment style. And it’s quietly running your home. In this episode of Our House with the Smylies, we sit down and talk through attachment theory, the four attachment styles, and how the way you were cared for as a kid is shaping the way you love your spouse and parent your kids today. We get personal about the wounds we both walked into our marriage carrying, why anxious and avoidant partners are magnetized to each other, and how that magnet can quietly turn into a trap. We also talk about a fight we had recently and what it taught us about how stress pulls us right back into our oldest patterns. If you’ve ever felt abandoned every time your husband shuts down, or suffocated every time your wife pushes for resolution, this one’s for you. We close with what actually heals it. Earned secure attachment, the truth God speaks over our identity, and how understanding our own attachment styles changed the way we’re parenting our boys. Timestamp: 00:00 Introduction to Our House 00:24 What is Attachment Theory? 02:46 The History: Bowlby and the Strange Situation 07:39 Secure Attachment: The Goal for Every Home 10:30 Understanding Anxious Attachment 14:32 Understanding Avoidant Attachment 20:10 What is Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) Attachment? 26:22 Jason and Malia's Personal Stories 36:53 Can Your Style Change? (Earned Security) 41:52 How This Changes Your Parenting 45:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 👉 Take the How Broken Is Your Home assessment: ourhouse.faith/assessment 👉 Get the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: ourhouse.faith If this episode hit you, send it to your spouse. Subscribe so you don’t miss what’s coming. And comment below: anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between? WORK WITH US DM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where  your family is at. We'd love to hear from you. LISTEN ON THE GO Apple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle.  Search: Our House with The Smylies. Joshua 24:15. As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.

How to trust God when your marriage blows up

What if the 'wilderness' in your marriage isn't a sign of failure, but a sign of formation? In this episode, Alexis Smith (founder of Milk & Honey) our dear friend shares her journey from growing up in a secular household to discovering a bold, transformative faith. We dive deep into the 'wilderness' seasons of life. Navigating grief, divorce, and the pruning of old relationships, and how God uses those valleys to do a 'new thing.' If you are struggling with marriage exhaustion, seeking a Christian family rhythm, or wondering how to fix your marriage by leaning back in, this conversation offers grounded wisdom and hopeful realism for your journey. In this episode, we discuss: - Living Faith Boldly: How to naturally share your faith without it feeling like a performance. - The Power of Invitation: Why inviting someone to church is often the most effective form of evangelism. - Protecting Togetherness: The importance of being the friend who stands for marriage when things get hard. - The Wilderness Season: Trusting God’s promise from Isaiah 43 to 'make a way' in the middle of your mess. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to guest Alexis Smith and Milk & Honey 03:46 - From secular roots to Christmas Eve 2017: The start of faith 05:54 - Walking through the valley: Navigating grief and divorce in 2019-2020 07:04 - Bold vs. Subtle: Finding your approach to sharing faith 09:44 - The "Pruning" season: Letting go of old relationships for new growth 14:17 - Why your "Ordinary" life is your most powerful invitation 19:09 - Facing the unraveling: 16 months of marriage and the choice to endure 26:36 - Standing for marriage: Why Alexis told her friend "Lean back in" 34:51 - Rebuilding with intention: Meeting Matt and setting boundaries 41:42 - New Beginnings: Jason officiating Alexis’s upcoming wedding 50:43 - Isaiah 43: God making a way in the wilderness TAKE THE MARRIAGE TEMPERATURE CHECK A 4-minute home assessment to see where your marriage  actually stands. http://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment GET THE 3FM STARTUP GUIDE The Faith-Filled Family Meeting is the rhythm we use to  keep our marriage and family connected to God and each  other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faith WORK WITH US DM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where  your family is at. We'd love to hear from you. LISTEN ON THE GO Apple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle.  Search: Our House with The Smylies. As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray  you will too. #christianmarriage #christiancouples #christianfamily  #marriageadvice #christianmarriagecoaching #biblicalmarriage  #ourhousepodcast #christianpodcast #marriedcouples