E41 - PIBYR: Not a Crisis. A Second Act. What Midlife Is Actually Doing to Your Body - and Why That's Good News

E41 - PIBYR: Not a Crisis. A Second Act. What Midlife Is Actually Doing to Your Body - and Why That's Good News

Not a Crisis. A Second Act. What Midlife Is Actually Doing to Your Body - and Why That's Good News. With Tamara Koval — Gynecologist, Longevity Advisor, Founder of Longevity for Her What if the hormonal changes of midlife are not something to manage around — but something to move with? Tamara Koval [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamarakoval/]is a gynecologist by training, a serial career reinventor by choice, and the founder of Longevity for Her on Substack. She has been in clinical practice in Europe, worked in the pharmaceutical industry, advised government agencies in the US, and built her own company — all driven by one belief: that the second act of a woman's life (and a man's) is not a decline. It is a different kind of power. In this conversation, we go into the biology, the psychology, and the practical reality of what midlife hormonal changes actually look like — and why most workplaces and most leaders have no script for it. What we cover: * Why perimenopause starts in your 30s — and what the first signs actually look like * The cortisol-sleep-weight-mood cycle: why it is all connected, and what to address first * What the research says about hormone therapy — and why the message changed after 2023 * The alcohol question: why two glasses hit differently now, and what to do about it * The 12-hour intermittent fasting hack you are probably already doing without knowing it * Why resistance amplifies suffering — and how acceptance breaks the cycle * Bore-out and menopause: the surprising connection between hormonal transition and disconnection from work * What Tamara means by unlearning smallness — and why the second act can be the most powerful chapter yet   Quick-Fire Burst: One belief she had to drop Obedience A place that cracked something open Zurich One thing she had to unlearn Smallness Her non-negotiable right now Independence. Sovereignty. Boldest risk that paid off Reinventing herself. Multiple times. One word for leadership in this chapter Kindness — understanding the position of others The ripple she hopes her story creates Permission — to be beautiful, wise, and powerful in this stage   Resources mentioned: * Tamara Substack: Longevity for Her: https://longevitylounge42.substack.com/p/you-dont-need-a-tribe-to-live-long * Meggi free Recalibration Baseline Assessment: https://meggi-pjyicln1.scoreapp.com/ If this episode landed — share it with someone who needs to hear it.

E40 - PIBYR: Don’t Ask AI for Answers. Use It to Find Your Why.

We’re getting very good at asking technology for answers. But what if a more powerful way to use AI isn’t to let it think for us - but to let it guide our thinking? To help us sit with better questions. In this episode of Play It By Your Rules, I sit down with entrepreneur, impact investor, and author Florian Kemmerich [https://www.linkedin.com/in/floriankemmerich/] to explore a different conversation about AI - one that is less about productivity and automation, and more about reflection, vocation, and understanding ourselves better. Florian believes one of the biggest opportunities of AI isn’t replacing human thinking. It’s helping us think more deeply. Through his work and his new venture, he is using AI to help people - particularly young people entering the world of work, but also people in midlife asking “what’s next?” - discover their vocation: the place where personal calling, strengths, and profession come together to create meaningful contribution. Finding your vocation isn’t about being handed answers. It’s about becoming more conscious of your motivations, and unique contribution - so you can build a working life that is not only more fulfilling, but also more relevant in a rapidly changing world. This conversation explores purpose, education, identity, experimentation, and how we can use technology to become more intentional - not less. We covered: * Why the future may require more self-awareness, not just more knowledge * The difference between a career, a job, and a vocation * How AI can support reflection instead of replacing thinking * Why experimentation matters when exploring your next chapter * How education and work may evolve in a rapidly changing world Practical Takeaways: * Use AI to ask yourself better questions, not to get quick answers * Treat your career as an experiment rather than a fixed path * Pay attention to what gives you energy and meaning * Build self-awareness before seeking external validation * Focus on contribution and curiosity, not only credentials This episode is for leaders, parents, entrepreneurs, and anyone at a crossroads - especially if you’re wondering what comes next and want to stay intentional in a world increasingly shaped by algorithms. AI can help us process more information and recognize patterns faster. The deeper work of discovering your why still belongs to us. Explore More: 🔗 Learn more about Florian and his work: On Vocation [https://on-vocation.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.com] 🚀 Explore Florian’s AI-powered vocation platform: Vocating AI [https://vocating.ai/?utm_source=chatgpt.com] 🎓 Join the vocation challenge: Vocating Challenge [https://vocating.ai/challenge?utm_source=chatgpt.com] Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.

E39 - PIBYR: Turn Down the Volume: The Leadership Skill Nobody Taught You

Many high performers are so used to functioning under pressure that they no longer realize how much stress they’re carrying - until their body forces them to pay attention. In this episode of Play It By Your Rules, I sit down with Dr. Lizette Warner [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizettewarner/] - executive coach, keynote speaker, healthcare executive, and former Chief Science Officer - to explore the hidden cost of chronic stress in high performers. After being diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease, Lizette began examining not just the stress she felt in the moment - but the long-term, chronic stress running in the background of her life. That discovery became an obsession: why are smart, capable leaders so good at adapting to pressure… that they stop noticing the damage it causes? This conversation dives into nervous systems, emotional awareness, chronic stress, and what Lizette calls “turning down the volume” — not to do less, but to increase capacity, clarity, and sustainable performance. Because over-adaptation may look productive from the outside. Until the body starts setting boundaries for you. We covered: * Why high performers often normalize unhealthy levels of stress * How chronic stress quietly impacts focus, memory, emotions, and leadership * The difference between hustle and true capacity * Why regulated leaders create calmer, stronger teams * How “closing loops” reduces cognitive load and nervous system overwhelm Practical Takeaways: * Audit your energy levels throughout the day - notice what drains or fuels you * Build small “volume-down” rituals like walking, pausing, or resetting between meetings * Close loops intentionally: clear tasks, notes, and mental tabs before moving on * Stop confusing constant activation with high performance * Prioritize capacity, not just productivity - sustainable energy changes everything This episode is for high achievers, people pleasers, and leaders who are used to coping brilliantly - but are starting to wonder about the long-term cost of always pushing through. Because leadership is about learning how to regulate, recover, and lead without losing yourself in the process. Explore More: 🔗 Follow Dr. Lizette Warner on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizettewarner/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizettewarner/] 🧠 Subscribe to Lizette’s LinkedIn newsletter: Your Growth Down to a Science 🎤 Interested in Lizette’s “Turn Down the Volume” workshop or keynote work? Connect with her directly on LinkedIn. Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.

E38 - PIBYR: The Best Leaders Don’t Pretend to Know. They Get Curious.

What if leadership isn’t about having the right answers - but asking better questions? In this episode of Play It By Your Rules, I sit down with entrepreneur, speaker and curiosity champion Tyler Chisholm [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tylerchisholm/] to explore why curiosity may be one of the most underrated leadership skills of our time. Tyler argues that the best leaders don’t perform certainty. They practice curiosity. And in a world shaped by uncertainty, rapid change, AI, and career reinvention, that may be a serious competitive advantage. Together we explore how curiosity helps us challenge old conditioning, run courageous experiments, build stronger relationships, and communicate more effectively - including a powerful idea Tyler shares: “The meaning of my communication is the result I get.” In other words: communication isn’t what you intended. It’s what landed. That insight opens up a radically more curious way of leading, listening, and speaking up. This conversation is playful, practical, and surprisingly deep - moving from leadership behaviours and team dynamics into mindset, identity, and what it means to experiment your way into the next chapter, rather than trying to have it all figured out. We covered: * Tyler’s three levels of curiosity: self, relational, and strategic * Why the best leaders ask better questions instead of pretending to know * How curiosity creates courage, psychological safety, and better communication * Why experimentation often beats certainty in times of change * How curiosity can turn career crossroads into possibility Practical Takeaways: * Run small curiosity experiments - ask more questions before chasing bigger answers * Notice which “version of you” shows up - and choose consciously * Use curiosity, not judgment, in tough conversations (“Tell me more…” is powerful) * Create more space for ideas in teams - without attachment to who said what * Treat your next chapter less like a decision to get right - and more like a series of experiments to explore This episode is for leaders, high achievers, and anyone at Basecamp wondering what comes next - and sensing the answer may not lie in pushing harder, but in getting more curious. Because courage doesn’t always begin with a leap. Sometimes it begins with a question. Explore More: 🔗 Connect with Tyler and explore his work: https://www.tylerchisholm.com/ [https://www.tylerchisholm.com/] Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.

E37 - PIBYR: Your Problem Isn’t Your Pitch. It’s Your Clarity.

What if your problem isn’t your pitch - but your clarity? In this episode of Play It By Your Rules, I sit down with speaker, coach, and former teacher Danny Brassell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannybrassell/], who has built a highly successful speaking and coaching business after multiple career pivots - and one major life setback that changed everything. From losing everything financially to rebuilding through speaking, Danny shares a simple but powerful shift: communication isn’t about impressing people - it’s about serving them. Because before you say anything, you need to know: Who do you help? And what problem do you solve? This is where many people get stuck. Instead of getting clear, they try to say more - listing experiences, achievements, and credentials - hoping something will land. But without clarity, it doesn’t. This conversation is practical, energising, and directly relevant for anyone navigating a career transition, preparing for interviews, or figuring out how to communicate their value in a way that actually connects. We covered: * Why most people struggle with messaging - and why it’s not their pitch * The “5 C’s” of a powerful message: clarity, connection, content, call to action, and close * How to build trust quickly using RAP: relatable, authority, purpose * Why sharing failures connects more than listing achievements * How everyday stories create stronger impact than “impressive” ones Practical Takeaways: * Get clear before you communicate - clarity beats cleverness * Stop selling yourself - focus on helping the other person * Build a “story bank” from your everyday experiences * Prioritise connection - people need to see themselves in you * Practice deliberately - confidence comes from repetition This episode is for anyone at Basecamp - successful, experienced, and now asking: How do I position myself for what’s next? Because the goal isn’t to say more. It’s to say what matters - clearly. Explore More: 🎁 Free Well-Crafted Story Guide (Danny’s framework to build powerful stories): https://freestoryguide.com [https://freestoryguide.com] Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.