Chapter Eleven - Radical Listening

Conclusion

Conflict is real for you and for me. These final thoughts on hard questions, myriad answers, and the possibility of wrestling with the tension rather than promising a simple answer where none exists. Compare your conclusions to mine and send them along as you wish. ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com [https://samardery.com] Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works [https://goodpodcasting.works] Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 [https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone] (marcozannone's [https://marcozannone's] Artist Page)

Chapter Thirteen - Standing Up For Yourself

Recognizing that you have an arsenal of tools provides the strength to know that standing up for yourself comes in all colors. Walking away and not caring what someone thinks can be standing up for yourself, saying no to someone in authority with a willingness to pay the price is standing up for yourself, having a conversation that terrifies you is a strong response to the uncertainty of engage in conflict. Just staying in the room while others are in conflict is yet another way to stand up for yourself and maybe for others. The rainbow contains a full spectrum of colors for you to stand up for yourself ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com [https://samardery.com] Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works [https://goodpodcasting.works] Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 [https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone] (marcozannone's [https://marcozannone's] Artist Page)

Chapter Twelve - Accepting Responsibility

Who among us has not made a mistake and hurt someone else? Even after recognizing it, isn't your mind working overtime to explain why it isn't all your fault? The story begins creating itself almost from the moment you realize what you did wrong. If you can own your part without minimizing it or talking at all about the fault of another, then you will have a magical power to engage conflict. Is it risky and does it make you vulnerable? Sure it does. But in chapter 12, you can consider it with eyes wide open. Maybe your vision will change ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com [https://samardery.com] Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works [https://goodpodcasting.works] Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 [https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone] (marcozannone's [https://marcozannone's] Artist Page)

Chapter Eleven - Radical Listening

When was the last time you listened solely for the purpose of listening? Nearly always, we listen with an agenda to get something we want or avoid losing something we already have. Radical listening is the powerful practice of listening solely for the sake of listening. When you get agitated or scared, listening leaves the building like a rat running from a fire. This is precisely the uncomfortable moment for you to pause and listen without preparing a response. As a coach once told me, practice makes permanent not perfect. If you want to listen better, then pause and practice differently. ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com [https://samardery.com] Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works [https://goodpodcasting.works] Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 [https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone] (marcozannone's [https://marcozannone's] Artist Page)

Chapter Ten - Embracing Discomfort

Living life on life's terms is just plain hard. Few things are more compelling than the desire to be comfortable in the United States. The market for pain relievers was estimated to be over $7 billion. This does not take into account illegal use of street and prescription drugs and the resulting addictions. Embracing discomfort is counterintuitive. Commercials and social influencers call you to the fantasy of an easy fix. Reaching for the first bit of relief whether it's food, alcohol, or possibly an unhealthy relationship, compels us. If we are going to address the reality of conflict in our lives, then embracing discomfort long enough to consider its causes and the best responses, is an essential ingredient ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com [https://samardery.com] Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works [https://goodpodcasting.works] Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 [https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone] (marcozannone's [https://marcozannone's] Artist Page)