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From the Black Box to Central Office — Tony & Stetson on Addiction, Being Locked Up Out of State, and the People Who Reached In

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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2556884/fan_mail/new] This week on Reformed N Reel, host Mario Hernandez and co-host Wayne Burt sit down with Tony and Stetson — two of Mario's own Learning How 2 Live Media employees, both currently residents at the Treasure Valley Community Reentry Center. What follows is the part of the conversation that most "lock 'em up" coverage never gets to — the part about what actually moves the needle. Tony's blunt assessment of the warehouse model: "You take somebody like me and you give me seven years and I'm in a cell the whole time, after that seven years you're just hitting the pause button. You're going right back out to where you were." The fix isn't a longer sentence. The fix is what happened next: a friend pulling him to a minimum-custody facility, a CRC bed, a job at LH2L Media, a reason to show up. For Stetson, walking away from the gang in custody — months of what he calls psychological warfare on the tier — opened the door to a five-month leadership development course. He talks about his grandma, who he hadn't seen in years, walking into his graduation on a walker. His parents calling him "son" in front of his classmates. Breaking down crying in front of everybody he'd spent the last decade trying to look hard for. He now facilitates that same course for incoming students, and he stands at IDOC's Central Office during new-employee orientation telling his story to the staff who are about to spend their career working with people like him. The conversation lands somewhere people in corrections don't expect it to: on trust. When you have nothing to lose, no fence is high enough. When you have something to lose — a job, a wife and kids at home, a sergeant who treats you like a person, a manager who hired you on purpose — the fence stops doing the work. The motivation comes from inside. Stetson, paraphrasing the line that opens the back half: "Acquire what you admire." Tony, on what changed: "For somebody to reach in and give you an opportunity is kind of everything when you don't have anything." Content warning: This episode contains a first-person description of a suicide attempt. If you or someone you know is in crisis, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by call or text. Learning How 2 Live — learninghow2live.org [https://learninghow2live.org] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/ReformedNReal/support]

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episode From the Black Box to Central Office — Tony & Stetson on Addiction, Being Locked Up Out of State, and the People Who Reached In cover

From the Black Box to Central Office — Tony & Stetson on Addiction, Being Locked Up Out of State, and the People Who Reached In

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2556884/fan_mail/new] This week on Reformed N Reel, host Mario Hernandez and co-host Wayne Burt sit down with Tony and Stetson — two of Mario's own Learning How 2 Live Media employees, both currently residents at the Treasure Valley Community Reentry Center. What follows is the part of the conversation that most "lock 'em up" coverage never gets to — the part about what actually moves the needle. Tony's blunt assessment of the warehouse model: "You take somebody like me and you give me seven years and I'm in a cell the whole time, after that seven years you're just hitting the pause button. You're going right back out to where you were." The fix isn't a longer sentence. The fix is what happened next: a friend pulling him to a minimum-custody facility, a CRC bed, a job at LH2L Media, a reason to show up. For Stetson, walking away from the gang in custody — months of what he calls psychological warfare on the tier — opened the door to a five-month leadership development course. He talks about his grandma, who he hadn't seen in years, walking into his graduation on a walker. His parents calling him "son" in front of his classmates. Breaking down crying in front of everybody he'd spent the last decade trying to look hard for. He now facilitates that same course for incoming students, and he stands at IDOC's Central Office during new-employee orientation telling his story to the staff who are about to spend their career working with people like him. The conversation lands somewhere people in corrections don't expect it to: on trust. When you have nothing to lose, no fence is high enough. When you have something to lose — a job, a wife and kids at home, a sergeant who treats you like a person, a manager who hired you on purpose — the fence stops doing the work. The motivation comes from inside. Stetson, paraphrasing the line that opens the back half: "Acquire what you admire." Tony, on what changed: "For somebody to reach in and give you an opportunity is kind of everything when you don't have anything." Content warning: This episode contains a first-person description of a suicide attempt. If you or someone you know is in crisis, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by call or text. Learning How 2 Live — learninghow2live.org [https://learninghow2live.org] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/ReformedNReal/support]

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Tristen Maes on Addiction, Brotherhood, and Showing Up for His Daughters

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2556884/fan_mail/new] Tristan Maes is 43, lives in the Treasure Valley, runs his own painting business — and as of April 6, 2026, has been sober from the addiction that has tracked him since he was 12 years old. This week on Reformed N Reel, host Mario Hernandez sits down with co-host Wayne Burt and his old friend Tristan to talk about the long road from juvenile detention to a fresh sobriety date. They met inside Idaho's prison system around 2006 — both running with people they probably shouldn't have, both trying to "make a name." They've been in and out of each other's lives ever since. Tristan is candid about all of it: starting weed and drinking at 12, escalating through county jail and a prison stretch from 2006 to 2010, the relapse that came one day after he'd put together a month sober, the felony drug charge that finally got his attention, and the rehab program that started turning things around. And in the middle of it, a story he keeps coming back to — Mario, asking no questions, taking over Tristan's truck payment while he was in treatment so he wouldn't lose it. That kind of loyalty doesn't show up in the gangster movies. It shows up here. The conversation moves from prison stories to what real recovery looks like — his daughters Patience (18) and Malia, whitewater rafting on the river the Sunday before recording, jiu-jitsu training at 43, reading Psalms in the morning, and the two rules he's trying to live by: time, and consistency. If you're early in recovery, mid-relapse, or watching someone you love try to find their way out, this one's for you. "You learn more from a loss than you do a win. So just remember that — if you fall, don't give up." — Tristan Maes Need a paint quote in the Treasure Valley?   Tristan owns and operates Amazing Painting (interior + exterior, residential + commercial). Reach him at 208-761-8793. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/ReformedNReal/support]

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Mario's Worst Prison Story — and Why It Ended Up Being a Good Thing

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2556884/fan_mail/new] Most episodes of Reformed N Reel follow the climb back — addiction, prison, recovery, return. This one goes the other way: deep into what actually happens inside. Host Mario Hernandez tells co-host Wayne Burt the worst story of his last prison term — eight days in solitary at Orofino for something he didn't do. Mario was keeping his head down, working a video editing job in the prison school, aiming for a dorm placement. Then an inmate connected to the tier's correctional officer decided Mario "thought he was better than everyone." Days later he was surrounded, cuffed, and dropped in the hole on a fabricated disciplinary report — with no one willing to back the claim. He fought it the only way he could: by writing over the facility's head to IDOC Central Office, which investigated and dismissed the charge. It was the lowest point of his time inside — and the moment that proved standing on the truth, even from a cell, still works. The chapter that should have broken him ended up being the one that confirmed he was already on the way out. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/ReformedNReal/support]

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