Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

Betrayal trauma reshapes your nervous system — and anxiety is often the loudest signal of that change. In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener struggling with constant anxiety after discovering her husband's porn addiction. Carrie explains why anxiety after betrayal isn't a flaw but a survival response, and introduces a powerful reframe: instead of asking how do I make it stop, ask what is my anxiety trying to protect? David speaks honestly about how he mishandled Carrie's anxiety early on — and what actually helped. Practical somatic tools, a section for betrayers on what their partner's anxiety actually needs, and a candid look at what non-linear healing really looks like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

This week on the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie sits down with therapist and betrayal trauma specialist Jenae Lindsey for a powerful conversation about the hidden damage of deception, secrecy, and integrity abuse in relationships after betrayal. Together, they unpack the concept of the “secret sexual basement,” why the lies and manipulation often hurt more than the behavior itself, and how betrayal impacts the nervous system, self-trust, and reality itself. This episode offers validation, education, and hope for anyone navigating betrayal trauma... whether you’re struggling with hypervigilance, questioning your intuition, trying to rebuild trust, or simply wondering if healing is even possible. Carrie and Jenae explore topics like compartmentalization, betrayal blindness, attachment, self-trust, emotional safety, and why healing requires addressing both the compulsive behaviors and the integrity wounds underneath them. Connect with Janae: 📲 Instagram: @couchtalkers [https://www.instagram.com/couchtalkers/] https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/ [https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/]   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar] 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

In this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself.  They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before the mind can explain it, and what happens when a relationship is built on incomplete information. Whether you're the betrayed partner questioning if you have the whole truth or the person who caused harm and is struggling with fear, shame, and honesty, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope for what real healing requires.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Ep 42. Somatic Safety Session: Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does

In this episode, we slow down and explore that moment where your body knows before your mind catches up. We talk about how your nervous system is constantly reading for safety, how it communicates through sensation and reaction, and why those early signals are often more honest than the story your mind tries to build afterward. You’ll begin to understand how to recognize those subtle cues instead of overriding them or second-guessing them. And most importantly, how to start building trust with your own internal signals again—so you can move through life with more clarity, steadiness, and self-trust, even in moments that feel uncertain or overwhelming.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]  [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay   This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy, counseling, or medical advice. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or provide clinical care for any mental health condition. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional or a trusted provider for support.

Ep 41. WYW: "Since the Betrayal, I've Lost Myself. How Do I Get Me Back?"

In this episode, we’re talking about the painful experience of feeling like you’ve lost yourself after betrayal. We explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why survival mode can disconnect you from your own identity, and how healing often begins through small moments of reconnecting with your preferences, needs, and inner voice. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even feel like me anymore,” this conversation is meant to remind you that you are not broken… and that your way back to yourself is possible.  Connect with Carrie: Mental Health Bundle [https://www.thementalhealthbundle.com/tr/2/6914381/13593031702/31876817/260002759d1f600d4e3a9deeb4524612f89fdc974] 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay