012: Put Down What Was Never Yours to Carry

012: Put Down What Was Never Yours to Carry

Host Kimberly Rash dives into the often invisible weight carried by the caretakers, fixers, and oldest siblings who became responsible long before they should have had to. She shares how being praised as “strong” can quietly turn into a cage that keeps women from admitting they are tired, and why so many learn early that resting and receiving help feel like forms of weakness. Pulling from her own experience raising a large family without a built-in support system, Kimberly walks through the difference between true strength and the exhausting performance of doing it all alone. She talks through love languages, boundaries, and the practice of letting other people bless you without guilt. This episode closes with a gentle challenge to find one thing you can put down this week, one thing you can delegate, and one thing you can finally stop carrying by yourself. FAITH AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH * Learning to receive blessings without guilt or resistance * What scripture says about rest and Sabbath for the overextended woman HEALING MODALITIES AND TOOLS * Using love languages as a healing and communication tool in relationships * Therapy, somatic release, and other tools for letting go of chronic overgiving IDENTITY AND SELF-WORTH * Unlearning the belief that worth is earned through how much you carry * Breaking free from the superwoman identity without losing your strength RELATIONSHIPS AND COMMUNITY * Building a safe support circle so no one has to carry everything alone * Setting boundaries with extended family without guilt EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH * invisible load mental load * boundaries without guilt * oldest daughter syndrome * superwoman complex * faith based self care * receiving help gracefully * rest is not selfish * love languages in relationships * women's mental health podcast * healing from overgiving * setting boundaries with family * self-worth beyond productivity * Christian women's podcast * refilling your own cup * support system for moms KEY TAKEAWAYS * Many women did not choose the caregiver role, they grew into it or were placed into it as children, becoming the oldest sibling or the one who anticipated everyone's needs. * Being called “strong” can quietly become a cage. When everyone sees you as strong, no one asks if you are tired or notices when you are struggling. * Needing support is not a weakness. Learning to receive help, gifts, and kindness without guilt is part of breaking the cycle of overgiving. * Knowing your own love language, and the love language of those around you, helps you recognize and appreciate the ways people actually try to care for you. * Strength is not carrying everything alone. Strength is asking for help, setting boundaries, admitting you are tired, and recognizing that your needs matter too. * The healthiest caregivers are the ones who learn to refill their own cup so they can show up from wholeness instead of depletion. MEMORABLE QUOTES * “You were never meant to carry it all. Strength isn’t carrying everything alone. Strength is knowing when to ask for help.” * “Somewhere along the way, many women learn that resting was selfish.” * “Stop blocking people’s blessing.” * “We’re not machines. You’re a human being, you’re a human doing, and you need care.” THEMES EXPLORED * How caregiving identity forms early in life and follows women into adulthood * The difference between true strength and the exhausting performance of being unbreakable * Recognizing the physical toll of chronic caregiving and burnout * Simple weekly rituals for refilling your own cup MOTHERHOOD AND HEALING * Raising kids who do not see overworking as a flex * How the oldest daughter role shapes mothering decades later

011: Outgrowing the Life You Used to Want

* Growth often feels confusing before it feels empowering, and restlessness can be a sign of expansion rather than something being wrong. * Outgrowing people is not about superiority. It happens because comfort with an old version of you can create distance when you change. * Releasing identities like the people pleaser, the overachiever, or the go to person is one of the hardest parts of growth. * Major life transitions, including parenting shifts and career changes, often trigger a deeper identity search. * Setting boundaries protects emotional and physical health, even when it disappoints people who benefited from the old version of you. * Judgment toward others who are changing is often more about our own unmet desires than about their choices. * Becoming who you are meant to be happens one small decision at a time, not through a single dramatic overhaul. Memorable Quotes * “Some identities protected us for a season, but eventually they become too heavy to keep wearing.” * “Only you can change you. No one else is gonna do it for you.” * “Some seasons aren't about finding yourself, they're about allowing yourself to become.” Themes Explored * Identity and self-worth * Faith and spiritual growth * Relationships and community * Motherhood and the empty nest transition * Emotional health and boundaries

010: Breaking Free From Limiting Beliefs

IN THIS RAW AND HONEST CONVERSATION, KIMBERLY RASH OPENS UP ABOUT SURVIVING A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE MARRIAGE, A SHOCKING SECOND MARRIAGE, AND A CHILDHOOD SHAPED BY A STRICT, FEAR-BASED RELIGIOUS UPBRINGING. SHE SHARES HOW SURVIVAL MODE CONVINCED HER FOR YEARS THAT A BETTER LIFE WAS NOT POSSIBLE, AND HOW PLAYING SMALL KEPT HER STUCK IN UNHEALTHY PATTERNS AND RELATIONSHIPS. KIMBERLY WALKS THROUGH THE MOMENT SHE CHOSE TO STOP SETTLING, THE LIMITING BELIEFS SHE HAD TO UNLEARN, AND HOW SHE EVENTUALLY FOUND SAFE, STEADY LOVE AFTER YEARS OF HEARTBREAK. SHE ENCOURAGES LISTENERS TO QUESTION WHAT THEY WERE TAUGHT TO BELIEVE, RELEASE RELATIONSHIPS AND PEOPLE WHO NO LONGER SERVE THEIR GROWTH, AND TAKE SMALL, CONSISTENT STEPS TOWARD BECOMING THEIR FUTURE SELF. THIS EPISODE IS A REMINDER THAT YOUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE YOU, HEALING IS NOT LINEAR, AND YOUR LIFE REALLY CAN GET BETTER FROM HERE.

009B: Forgiveness, Sound Healing, and the Body's Memory

SHOW SUMMARY Healing was never meant to be a checklist, and Kimberly Rash is here to prove it. Kimberly walks through a wide range of healing tools beyond the basics, including nervous system regulation, somatic healing, EMDR, inner child work, forgiveness, energy healing, sound healing, and visualization. She shares an emotionally raw personal story about finally forgiving her ex-husband after years of trying to force it, and how that moment cracked something open in her that led to real freedom. Throughout, she reminds listeners that healing is deeply personal, that no single modality works for everyone, and that faith is often the real force behind any tool’s effectiveness. Kimberly closes by encouraging listeners to release the pressure of healing on anyone else’s timeline and to trust the small steps they’re already taking. She reminds everyone that healing isn’t about becoming a finished product, it’s about becoming. GENERAL EPISODE THEME Exploring diverse healing modalities, including nervous system regulation, somatic work, EMDR, inner child healing, forgiveness, energy healing, sound healing, and visualization, through the lens of faith, personal experience, and the belief that healing is non-linear and deeply individual. CALL TO ACTION Pick just one healing modality that resonates with you rather than trying to do everything, and trust your small steps as part of an ongoing healing journey rooted in faith. SEO-RICH KEYWORDS * Nervous system regulation * Somatic healing * EMDR therapy * Inner child healing * Forgiveness work * Energy healing and Reiki * Sound healing * Visualization practice * Trauma healing * Healing modalities * Faith based healing * Christian forgiveness * Body awareness * Emotional release * Self-compassion * Healing is not linear * Mind body connection * Spiritual healing tools * Releasing resentment * Healing journey FULL SHOW NOTES Key Takeaways * You cannot heal in the same nervous system state your body learned to survive in. * Trauma is stored in the body, not just the mind, which is why somatic healing focuses on body awareness rather than just thoughts. * EMDR can help the brain reprocess stuck traumatic memories, but it is not the right fit for everyone. * Inner child work is not about blaming parents, it is about recognizing unmet needs and becoming the safe adult your younger self never had. * Forgiveness does not excuse what happened, it releases your attachment to carrying the wound forever, and it is most often a gift you give yourself. * Energy healing, Reiki, and sound healing can support relaxation and emotional release even if they look different from traditional therapy. * Visualization helps you move toward the healed version of yourself by picturing who you want to become instead of replaying worst case scenarios. * Healing is not a checklist or a perfect routine, it is an ongoing relationship with yourself. * Faith is often the real power behind any healing modality, it is your faith that makes the tool effective. * Healing is never fully finished, everyone is always healing in progress, and new wounds can surface even after past ones are resolved. Memorable Quotes * “You cannot heal in the same state your body’s learned to survive in.” * “Healing often just starts beginning when your body finally believes the danger is over.” * “Forgiveness is releasing your attachment to carrying the wound forever.” * “Not everyone will deserve access to you ever again, but everyone deserves the opportunity to stop carrying the poison that only hurts them.” * “You’re not stuck, you’re becoming.” * “It is your faith that has healed you. It’s not always the modality.” Themes * Healing as a personal, non-linear process * The connection between body, mind, and spirit * Forgiveness as self-liberation * Faith as the foundation behind every healing tool * Becoming versus arriving Call to Action Pick just one healing modality that resonates with you rather than trying to do everything, and trust your small steps as part of an ongoing healing journey rooted in faith. SHORT SEO DESCRIPTION (PODCAST DIRECTORIES) Kimberly Rash explores healing modalities beyond the basics, including nervous system regulation, somatic healing, EMDR, inner child work, forgiveness, energy healing, sound healing, and visualization. She shares a raw personal story of forgiving her ex-husband and reminds listeners that healing is deeply personal, non-linear, and rooted in faith. LONG SEO DESCRIPTION (WEBSITE USE) Healing is not a one size fits all journey, and this episode dives into the deeper modalities that many women turn to once the foundational healing work has been done. Kimberly Rash unpacks nervous system regulation, somatic healing, EMDR, inner child work, forgiveness, energy healing and Reiki, sound healing, and visualization, explaining what each one looks like in practice and who it tends to help most. Kimberly shares a vulnerable personal story about the years she spent trying to forgive her ex-husband out of obligation before finally feeling true freedom the night she let go for real. She connects that experience to a larger truth, that forgiveness is rarely about the other person and almost always about releasing the poison that only hurts us. Throughout the episode, she weaves in faith, reminding listeners that healing tools matter, but it is faith behind the modality that makes lasting change possible. By the end, listeners are encouraged to stop measuring their healing against anyone else’s timeline and to trust that small, consistent steps are enough. This episode is a gentle, faith rooted invitation to keep becoming rather than waiting to arrive. EPISODE TOPIC IDEAS BY THEMATIC CATEGORY Faith and Spiritual Growth * What it means that it is your faith that heals you * Prayer as a healing modality * Faith versus placebo, exploring spiritual conviction in healing Healing Modalities and Tools * A deeper dive into EMDR and what to expect * Sound healing and worship music as nervous system tools * Building a personalized healing toolkit Identity and Self-Worth * Becoming the safe adult your inner child never had * Visualizing the woman you are becoming Relationships and Community * Forgiving someone without reconciling with them * Co-parenting and co-grandparenting after conflict Emotional and Physical Health * How trauma lives in the body * Recognizing nervous system states like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn Motherhood and Healing * Modeling healthy forgiveness for your children * Breaking generational patterns through inner child work

009A: Ten Ways to Reconnect With Yourself

KEY TAKEAWAYS * Healing is not about becoming a different person, it is about reconnecting with who you were before life convinced you that you weren’t enough. * Journaling helps release the thoughts you carry alone and reveals patterns over time. * Breathwork signals safety to a nervous system stuck in fight or flight. * Meditation is about awareness, not a perfectly empty mind. * Therapy and life coaching offer outside perspective and support, and asking for help is a strength. * Support groups remind us that healing happens in connection, not isolation. * Movement releases stored stress, grief, and anger from the body. * Time in nature, including walking, the ocean, and even tree hugging, restores the soul and the mind. * Gratitude does not erase pain, it simply helps us notice what is still good. * Creative expression, from crafting to gardening to pottery, is a valid and powerful healing modality. * You do not need to try every modality, just take the next small step. MEMORABLE QUOTES * “Healing is about reconnecting with who you were before life convinced you that you weren’t enough.” * “Sometimes healing starts the moment we stop carrying everything alone.” * “Trauma tells us that we are alone. Healing reminds us we’re connected.” * “You’re not broken, you’re becoming.” THEMES COVERED * Journaling and honest self-reflection * Breathwork and nervous system regulation * Meditation and present moment awareness * Therapy, life coaching, and group support * Movement as emotional release * Nature as a healing teacher * Gratitude as a practice, not a performance * Creative expression as healing CALL TO ACTION Choose one healing modality from this episode and take it as your next small step this week. Check out the Rooted to Rise Gratitude Journal on Amazon ($10–$10.99) or in person at Kimberly’s farm cart, and stay tuned for upcoming life coaching sessions, available in person or via Zoom.