018 How to Have Sex When You're Not Feeling Sexy

021 A Pussy Full of Snakes: All Three Holes, All Night: The DP Fantasy That Delivered

What actually happens inside a polycule when someone falls head over heels in love? This week Anja takes the lead on one of the most honest conversations they've had yet — what new relationship energy does to your existing relationships, your sex life, and your sense of self. Not just the butterflies. The ripples. They get into: * Kitchen table polyamory vs. lap sitting (yes, that's a real term) * Why NRE can be terrifying — it changes your perception of reality and everyone around you * How creating adult content together changed Anja and Nico's relational sex — and what they did about it * Free use dynamics: what it actually means to be someone's free use hole, and why it works * Long-term relationship sex on autopilot — and the unexpected gift of a new relationship shining a light on it * Creative babies: what to do with breeding energy when you're done having actual children * Eye gazing as the bedrock of connected sex — and what happens when it quietly disappears * Systems theory, Bayesian priors, and why every relationship is always either expanding or dying Sexy Story Time — two for the books: Anja finally fulfills a fantasy she's been consciously manifesting for years: a full night with both Nico and her new lover — all three holes, two vasectomies, no condoms, orgasms she lost count of, a double cream pie, and at the end, one-on-one time with each of them while holding the other's hand. Then Amelie describes what happened when someone who genuinely loves eating pussy finally spent the time — and how she spent the aftermath lying in what she can only call luminosity, moving healing light into her gut, meditating inside her own orgasm. "This is the medicine. This is what the magic is. That is God." This episode contains explicit conversations about polyamory, kink dynamics, and graphic sexual content. 18+ only.

020 The Forced Orgasm and the Fight We Fucked Through

What do you do when your play partner is addicted to novelty and you've run out of ideas? This week Anja and Amelie sit down to genuinely brainstorm — running through a full menu of kink play options, sensation tools, and creative scene ideas for the switchy, curious, and chronically under-entertained. They also get into why kink isn't just fun: it's nervous system work, it's somatic therapy, and sometimes it's the only thing that gets you past a verbal impasse. They cover: * Wax play — candle types, temperature, removal, and the art of an full-body wax exoskeleton * Violet wands, electricity play, and why you should test your aluminum foil theory * Sensation tools you already have at home (butter knives, metal spoons, ice cubes) * Sushi and Shibari parties, Saran Wrap bondage, and forced orgasms as a psychedelic-adjacent experience * Why Amelie has never done pretend play — and what happened when Anja walked her through one live on the podcast * Role play 101: how to build a fantasy when your brain refuses to cooperate * Metering your energy with a play partner who just wants to make you come for an hour straight * Sex as a somatic practice — and why it belongs in the same category as yoga, breathwork, and psychedelics Sexy Story Time: Anja takes us back to a week-long Shibari conference in Chicago — 400 people, an open dungeon, and pegging Nico in suspension at the entrance to a ballroom full of strangers. Then Amelie shares what happened when a fight with a partner hit a total verbal wall: no words, no eye contact, just ten minutes of heart-to-heart contact and then fucking it out — both of them crying, both of them coming, and by the end actually able to look at each other again. "Sex is a tool of liberation. That is my mission." This episode contains explicit conversations about kink, BDSM, and intimacy. 18+ only.

019 Drunk on Sex Chemicals: Falling in Love Mid-Fuck

Is it ever just sex? Anja and Amelie don't think so. This week they dive into one of the most electrifying — and terrifying — experiences in sexual life: when feelings start to develop. What does that opening actually feel like? When do you act on it? And how do you know if you're about to deepen something beautiful or accidentally blow up something that was already working? They get into: * How feelings expand, contract, and move through a sexual connection * The desire for more — more intimacy, more of the person, more of who you become around them * Why escalating a relationship is genuinely scary (and sometimes a mistake) * Love bombing, going slow, and what two years of intentional patience looks like * The compatibility test no one talks about: what happens when you leave the bedroom * Why Buddhism says desire is the root of all suffering — and why Anja doesn't care * The deathbed research: the top regret people have around love Sexy Story Time — two very different nights: Amelie shares the overnight that changed everything: sleeping next to someone for the first time, going bare for the first time, and saying "I love you" mid-sex — only to find out he already knew, because he'd been listening to the podcast. Anja's story goes somewhere entirely different: primal camping sex, a leash, a hike to a place called Fuck Rock, biting, breeding kinks, and calling someone daddy for the first time in her life. Both stories end in the same place — wanting more, and not knowing what to do with that. This episode contains explicit conversations about sex, intimacy, and emotional vulnerability. 18+ only.

018 How to Have Sex When You're Not Feeling Sexy

What do you do when you're not feeling sexy, but you still want sex? This week, Anja and Amelie tackle one of the most universal — and least talked about — sex problems: how to bridge the gap between "not in the mood" and actually showing up for intimacy. Spoiler: it's not about forcing it. It's about getting curious about what's actually in the way. They get into: * Why sex belongs higher on the priority list, not at the bottom of the to-do list * The research on regular sex, orgasms, and long-term health * Scheduling sex (and why "three strikes you're out" might be the boundary you need) * How to name what's really going on — vulnerability, safety, feeling disconnected — instead of pretending it isn't there * Masturbation as a meditative practice, and what to do when it feels boring * Body care, music, oils, and other slow on-ramps into your own arousal * Why going slow is countercultural — and often more erotic than going fast * How live streaming taught Anja to "show up" sexually on a schedule, mood or no mood Sexy Story Time: A massage that turned into one of the most devotional, unhurried encounters Amelie has ever had — with someone in a sexless marriage who couldn't remember the last time they'd been touched. Slow hands, consent checked every step of the way, and the kind of aftercare that changes how someone understands intimacy. By the end, two hosts who started the episode "not sexy and mildly depressed" land somewhere a lot warmer. Funny, tender, and honest about what it actually takes to come back to your body. This episode contains explicit conversations about sex, masturbation, and intimacy. 18+ only.

017 From OnlyFans to AI Porn: The Future of Human Connection

What does it really mean to become a content creator in the attention economy? In this episode, Amalie and Anja dive into the complicated, exciting, and sometimes terrifying process of creating content online. What starts as a conversation about OnlyFans quickly expands into a discussion about authenticity, visibility, creativity, algorithms, AI-generated porn, personal branding, and the ethics of sexual content. Amalie shares her hesitation about becoming a public figure, fears around being seen, and her journey toward creating content that feels aligned with her artistic vision. Anja reflects on how she accidentally stumbled into OnlyFans, why livestreaming feels so alive, and why people ultimately seek real human connection rather than just explicit content. Together they explore: * The rise of the attention economy and personality-driven businesses * Why authenticity matters more than chasing algorithms * The emotional risks of putting yourself online * OnlyFans, Fansly, Chaturbate, and creator platforms * AI-generated pornography and the future of human connection * The difference between consumption and creation * Whether sexual content can be part of a healthy “pleasure landscape” * Building a life that supports creativity, pleasure, and self-expression For Sexy Story Time, the conversation turns toward rope bondage, livestreamed BDSM, altered states of consciousness, and a memorable evening involving rope, rice, restraint, and surrender. A thoughtful, funny, philosophical, and unexpectedly vulnerable conversation about sex, art, creativity, and what it means to share yourself with the world.