016 Ethical Pornography in an Attention Economy

019 Drunk on Sex Chemicals: Falling in Love Mid-Fuck

Is it ever just sex? Anja and Amelie don't think so. This week they dive into one of the most electrifying — and terrifying — experiences in sexual life: when feelings start to develop. What does that opening actually feel like? When do you act on it? And how do you know if you're about to deepen something beautiful or accidentally blow up something that was already working? They get into: * How feelings expand, contract, and move through a sexual connection * The desire for more — more intimacy, more of the person, more of who you become around them * Why escalating a relationship is genuinely scary (and sometimes a mistake) * Love bombing, going slow, and what two years of intentional patience looks like * The compatibility test no one talks about: what happens when you leave the bedroom * Why Buddhism says desire is the root of all suffering — and why Anja doesn't care * The deathbed research: the top regret people have around love Sexy Story Time — two very different nights: Amelie shares the overnight that changed everything: sleeping next to someone for the first time, going bare for the first time, and saying "I love you" mid-sex — only to find out he already knew, because he'd been listening to the podcast. Anja's story goes somewhere entirely different: primal camping sex, a leash, a hike to a place called Fuck Rock, biting, breeding kinks, and calling someone daddy for the first time in her life. Both stories end in the same place — wanting more, and not knowing what to do with that. This episode contains explicit conversations about sex, intimacy, and emotional vulnerability. 18+ only.

018 How to Have Sex When You're Not Feeling Sexy

What do you do when you're not feeling sexy, but you still want sex? This week, Anja and Amelie tackle one of the most universal — and least talked about — sex problems: how to bridge the gap between "not in the mood" and actually showing up for intimacy. Spoiler: it's not about forcing it. It's about getting curious about what's actually in the way. They get into: * Why sex belongs higher on the priority list, not at the bottom of the to-do list * The research on regular sex, orgasms, and long-term health * Scheduling sex (and why "three strikes you're out" might be the boundary you need) * How to name what's really going on — vulnerability, safety, feeling disconnected — instead of pretending it isn't there * Masturbation as a meditative practice, and what to do when it feels boring * Body care, music, oils, and other slow on-ramps into your own arousal * Why going slow is countercultural — and often more erotic than going fast * How live streaming taught Anja to "show up" sexually on a schedule, mood or no mood Sexy Story Time: A massage that turned into one of the most devotional, unhurried encounters Amelie has ever had — with someone in a sexless marriage who couldn't remember the last time they'd been touched. Slow hands, consent checked every step of the way, and the kind of aftercare that changes how someone understands intimacy. By the end, two hosts who started the episode "not sexy and mildly depressed" land somewhere a lot warmer. Funny, tender, and honest about what it actually takes to come back to your body. This episode contains explicit conversations about sex, masturbation, and intimacy. 18+ only.

017 From OnlyFans to AI Porn: The Future of Human Connection

What does it really mean to become a content creator in the attention economy? In this episode, Amalie and Anja dive into the complicated, exciting, and sometimes terrifying process of creating content online. What starts as a conversation about OnlyFans quickly expands into a discussion about authenticity, visibility, creativity, algorithms, AI-generated porn, personal branding, and the ethics of sexual content. Amalie shares her hesitation about becoming a public figure, fears around being seen, and her journey toward creating content that feels aligned with her artistic vision. Anja reflects on how she accidentally stumbled into OnlyFans, why livestreaming feels so alive, and why people ultimately seek real human connection rather than just explicit content. Together they explore: * The rise of the attention economy and personality-driven businesses * Why authenticity matters more than chasing algorithms * The emotional risks of putting yourself online * OnlyFans, Fansly, Chaturbate, and creator platforms * AI-generated pornography and the future of human connection * The difference between consumption and creation * Whether sexual content can be part of a healthy “pleasure landscape” * Building a life that supports creativity, pleasure, and self-expression For Sexy Story Time, the conversation turns toward rope bondage, livestreamed BDSM, altered states of consciousness, and a memorable evening involving rope, rice, restraint, and surrender. A thoughtful, funny, philosophical, and unexpectedly vulnerable conversation about sex, art, creativity, and what it means to share yourself with the world.

016 Ethical Pornography in an Attention Economy

What does it really mean to become a content creator in today's attention economy? In this episode, Amalie and Anja dive deep into the realities of creating content online—from podcasts and social media to OnlyFans, livestreaming, and adult content. They explore the emotional, ethical, and creative challenges of becoming a public figure, building an audience, and staying authentic while navigating internet culture. Amalie shares her complicated journey toward creating adult content, including fears around visibility, judgment, AI, privacy, and the long-term impact of putting herself online. Anya discusses how she unexpectedly found success on OnlyFans, the importance of connection over pornography, and why personality is becoming one of the most valuable currencies on the internet. Together they explore: * The rise of the attention economy and creator culture * OnlyFans, Chaturbate, Fansly, and online community building * Authenticity vs. audience expectations * The ethics of pornography and sexual content creation * AI-generated content and the future of intimacy online * Art, creativity, and self-expression * Fear of being seen and public scrutiny * Building a sustainable creative life * The role of relationships, connection, and human experience in content creation The conversation also wanders into philosophy, psychology, art, social media algorithms, and what it means to create from a place of genuine pleasure rather than performance. Plus, in Sexy Story Time, the hosts share a recent rope bondage experience involving livestreaming, ritual, sensation, trust, and the surprisingly meditative power of being tied up. If you've ever wondered whether to start creating content, launch an OnlyFans, share more of yourself online, or simply explore what authenticity means in a digital world, this episode is for you. #OnlyFans #ContentCreator #CreatorEconomy #AdultContent #Authenticity #Chaturbate #Fansly #SexPositive #Podcast #OnlineBusiness #PersonalBrand #Creativity #DigitalMarketing #Relationships #HumanConnection

015 Who Gets to Be Themselves? A Conversation on Gender

In this episode of Sex with Anja and Amelie, we dive into one of the most personal, political, and surprisingly playful topics we've tackled yet: gender identity. Anja shares their experience using they/them pronouns, what changing pronouns unlocked for them, and how gender expression can become an act of liberation. Along the way, Amelie brings curiosity, questions, and a perspective shaped by feeling more connected to nature, creativity, and the vastness of being human than to any particular gender label. Together, we explore: * What pronouns mean—and what they don't * The relationship between identity, visibility, and belonging * Gender roles, privilege, and societal expectations * Why clothing, makeup, and self-expression shouldn't be limited by gender * The pressures placed on men and women in modern culture * How liberation often begins with questioning the rules we've inherited Plus, we wander into conversations about festival culture, non-gendered clothing stores, consent-based cuddle events, touch, vulnerability, and what happens when people are given permission to simply be themselves. And of course, we wrap up with Sexy Story Time, featuring explorations of pleasure, curiosity, body awareness, and the many ways humans experience connection. This episode is thoughtful, funny, occasionally provocative, and filled with the kind of honest conversation that happens when two friends get curious about what it means to be seen. Topics: gender identity, nonbinary identity, pronouns, LGBTQ+, self-expression, sexuality, consent, intimacy, relationships, pleasure, vulnerability, personal growth