Shattered Not Broken

Losing Myself, Finding My Voice

9 min · 2. okt. 2025
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In this episode, I share the raw truth about how a marriage that looks “fine” from the outside can slowly strip away your identity on the inside. After three marriages and three divorces, I carried the weight of believing I was the problem—the common denominator in each failed relationship. But the truth is, I wasn’t broken. I had just given away too much of myself to keep peace, avoid conflict, and please others. Over time, I shrank into someone I barely recognized, always giving but rarely receiving. My kids saw it too—and after my last divorce, they told me I was finally happier, lighter, and more present. Divorce is never easy, but it can be the doorway back to yourself. In this conversation, I open up about accountability, resilience, and what it means to rebuild not just a life, but a stronger relationship with yourself and your children. This is for anyone who has felt fractured by marriage but is ready to rediscover their strength.

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Losing Myself, Finding My Voice

In this episode, I share the raw truth about how a marriage that looks “fine” from the outside can slowly strip away your identity on the inside. After three marriages and three divorces, I carried the weight of believing I was the problem—the common denominator in each failed relationship. But the truth is, I wasn’t broken. I had just given away too much of myself to keep peace, avoid conflict, and please others. Over time, I shrank into someone I barely recognized, always giving but rarely receiving. My kids saw it too—and after my last divorce, they told me I was finally happier, lighter, and more present. Divorce is never easy, but it can be the doorway back to yourself. In this conversation, I open up about accountability, resilience, and what it means to rebuild not just a life, but a stronger relationship with yourself and your children. This is for anyone who has felt fractured by marriage but is ready to rediscover their strength.

2. okt. 20259 min
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From Isolation to Empowerment: Rebuilding Life on My Terms

In this episode, I open up about what it means to lose your voice in a relationship with a narcissist—and how I found mine again. For years, I carried blame for things I didn’t do, gave up friendships, and lived in fear of arguments, accusations, and control. From keyloggers on my computer to being told who I could and couldn’t see, my world shrank until I felt like a shell of myself. But surviving that marriage taught me something powerful: it is not OK to silence yourself for the sake of keeping peace, and it is not OK to let someone else define your worth. I share the lessons I learned about boundaries, reclaiming joy, and refusing to model unhealthy love for my children and grandchildren. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt trapped, unheard, or diminished in a relationship—you are not alone, and you are worthy of love, peace, and respect.

25. sep. 202515 min