Episode 81: Why Moms Lose Themselves After Kids | Identity, Self-Worth & The Questions I Couldn't Answer

Episode 81: Why Moms Lose Themselves After Kids | Identity, Self-Worth & The Questions I Couldn't Answer

Have you ever been asked a simple question about yourself... and realized you didn't know how to answer? In this episode of Struggle & Strength: Moms Balancing It All with Nikki, Nikki shares a powerful coaching conversation that uncovered something she wasn't expecting. After years of balancing motherhood, work, marriage, kids' activities, and the endless mental load, she realized she had become so focused on everyone else's needs that she had stopped asking herself the most important questions. What brings me joy? What do I need? Who am I outside of being a mom? This honest conversation explores why so many moms lose their identity after having kids, why we constantly tell ourselves, "I'll deal with it later," and how putting ourselves last slowly becomes our normal. If you've ever felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood, struggled with self-worth, or wondered how to reconnect with the woman you used to be, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll discover: ✨ Why moms often lose their identity after having children ✨ How the mental load of motherhood causes us to ignore our own needs ✨ Why high-achieving moms tend to minimize their own struggles ✨ The hidden cost of always putting yourself last ✨ Simple questions that can help you reconnect with yourself again One of the biggest realizations from this episode is this: I don't think moms lose themselves all at once. I think we lose ourselves one "I'll deal with it later" at a time. If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another mom who needs this reminder today. The Promise of Struggle & Strength: Helping high-achieving moms reconnect with themselves so they can build a life that aligns with their values instead of just surviving their responsibilities. 📲 Connect with Nikki: Instagram: @nikkiwallace247 Facebook: @ConnectWithNikkiW

Episode 80: Why Making Mom Friends Feels So Hard | Loneliness, Friendship & Finding Your People Again

Why does making friends as an adult and especially as a mom feel so much harder than it used to? In this episode of Struggle & Strength: Moms Balancing It All with Nikki, Nikki shares an unexpected Fourth of July story that reminded her how deeply many moms long for genuine connection. Somewhere between raising kids, building careers, juggling activities, and carrying the mental load of motherhood, many women stop building friendships for themselves. We spend so much time helping our children find their people that we quietly forget to find our own. But what happens when you unexpectedly meet people who make you feel seen not just as a mom, but as yourself? In this heartfelt episode, Nikki explores why motherhood can feel lonely even when you're surrounded by people, the hidden loneliness many high-achieving moms experience, and why authentic friendships are essential for our own well-being. In this episode you'll discover: ✨ Why making mom friends feels so difficult in this season of life ✨ The hidden loneliness many busy and high-achieving moms experience ✨ Why knowing lots of people is not the same as feeling deeply known ✨ How motherhood changes our friendships and our identity ✨ Simple ways to create meaningful friendships and find your community again If you've ever walked away from a soccer game, school event, or birthday party wishing you had deeper friendships of your own, this episode is for you. Because your kids aren't the only ones who deserve to find their people. You do too. 🎙 Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a mom who needs to hear it. 📲 Connect with Nikki: Instagram: @nikkiwallace247 Facebook: @ConnectWithNikkiW

Episode 79: I Left for Four Days... and Came Home a Different Woman | Learning to Let Go as a Mom

I thought leaving for four days would teach me how to become a better entrepreneur. Instead, it taught me how to become a better mom. Like so many mothers, I believed balancing it all meant making sure every detail was handled by me. Before I boarded my flight, I had packed bags, coordinated schedules, planned transportation, organized activities, and created backup plans for the backup plans. Because that is what moms do...right? But while I was away at a business mastermind, something unexpected happened. My family stepped up. My husband handled our daughter's national diving competition. My parents cared for our boys. Everyone made it where they needed to be. The house didn't fall apart. For the first time in a long time, I realized that the weight I had been carrying wasn't mine alone to carry. In this episode, I share the invisible mental load so many moms experience, how stress quietly showed up in my body, and why learning to trust the people around me changed me far more than anything I learned about business. If you have ever felt like the only one holding your family together, this episode is your reminder that strength is not found in carrying everything yourself. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give your family is the opportunity to carry the load with you. In this episode, we'll talk about: • The invisible mental load mothers carry every day • Why stress often shows up physically before we recognize it emotionally • What happened when I finally let go of control • How trusting your family can actually make them stronger • Why balancing it all was never meant to be a one woman job If this episode encourages you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another mom who needs this reminder today. 🎙 Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a mom who needs to hear it. 📲 Connect with Nikki: Instagram: @nikkiwallace247 Facebook: @ConnectWithNikkiW

Episode 78: Why Moms Can't Just Pack a Bag and Leave | Travel, Kids, Work & Keeping It All Together

Why is it that moms can physically leave the house, but mentally we never really leave at all? This week, I'm heading to Arizona for a mastermind event while my husband and daughter travel to Orlando for a diving competition. My parents are flying in from New York to stay with my boys. Add in Father's Day weekend, my husband's birthday, work deadlines, sports schedules, airport pickups, and all the moving pieces of family life, and it feels like a giant game of air traffic control. As I prepared for the week, I realized something: packing my own suitcase is the easy part. The hard part is carrying the invisible mental load that comes with being a mom. The remembering. The planning. The anticipating. The endless list of details that seem to live inside our heads. In this episode, I share the realization that many moms become the family operating system, holding all the tabs open and managing countless moving parts behind the scenes. We explore the difference between responsibility and control, why letting go can feel so difficult, and how learning to trust others might be one of the most important skills we develop as mothers. If you've ever felt exhausted before a trip even begins, struggled to stop worrying about everything happening at home, or wondered why your brain never seems to get a vacation, this episode is for you. Because sometimes the strongest thing a mom can do is stop carrying everything by herself. 🎙 Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a mom who needs to hear it. 📲 Connect with Nikki: Instagram: @nikkiwallace247 Facebook: @ConnectWithNikkiW

Episode 77: When Did You Stop Being You? | Motherhood, Identity & Finding Yourself Again

When was the last time you thought about who YOU are? Not as a mom. Not as a wife. Not as an employee. Not as the person everyone depends on. Just you. In this episode of Struggle & Strength: Moms Balancing It All with Nikki, I share a powerful realization that came from working through my own autobiography and self-discovery journey. For years, I focused on taking care of everyone else. My kids. My husband. My career. My businesses. My responsibilities. But somewhere along the way, I stopped asking who I was underneath all those roles. Today we're talking about: ✅ Why so many moms feel lost even when life looks successful ✅ The importance of understanding your story and recurring life patterns ✅ How your values influence every decision you make ✅ Why strengths matter more than fixing weaknesses ✅ The power of creating a vision for the life you actually want ✅ How reconnecting with yourself changes everything Because before we build better systems, routines, and schedules, we have to remember who we're building them for. If you've ever felt like you've lost yourself while taking care of everyone else, this episode is for you. 🎙 Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a mom who needs to hear it. 📲 Connect with Nikki: Instagram: @nikkiwallace247 Facebook: @ConnectWithNikkiW