Why You Hate Yourself, And How the Voice Behind It Was Never Actually Yours. | #412

Are You a Good Spouse or a Life Multiplier, Most People Don’t Know the Difference | #416

If you feel like a good spouse but something in the marriage still feels off, or you’ve been doing everything the culture told you to do and it still doesn’t feel like enough, this episode names exactly what’s been left out. Most people know what they need from a partner. Almost nobody asks if they’re actually being that for someone else. It’s Relationship Wednesday on The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas. In this episode, I break down why the difference between maintenance and multiplication in marriage is the conversation most couples never have, and why that silence is the real cost. If you show up consistently but your partner has gotten quieter about their ambitions, you meet their ideas with practicality instead of belief, or the marriage feels stable but not fully alive, this episode is the honest mirror your relationship needs. By the end of this, you’ll see the exact difference between being a good spouse and being a life multiplier, and what one honest conversation, asked differently, changes about everything. Does your partner’s life get bigger because of you, or does it just get more manageable? Leave it in the comments below. And if this hit somewhere real, subscribe and share it with someone whose marriage deserves more than maintenance. Be the bad influence in your own story

Why You Pull Away From People Right When Things Start to Get Real. | #415

If you shut down emotionally when someone gets close, pull away before they leave, or have never fully let someone in, this episode goes straight to the belief the original loss built in you. The beliefs you built from abandonment are still making decisions in your life. And most of them were never true. It’s Mindset Monday on The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas. In this episode, I break down why the hands that learned to go still when something mattered were never protecting you from the truth, they were protecting you from a child’s incomplete conclusion about your worth. If you pre-exit relationships before anyone leaves, bury your needs until they come out sideways, or feel yourself pulling back the moment someone gets real, this episode is the honest conversation the original loss never gave you. By the end of this, you’ll see exactly what was built from the abandonment, what it’s been costing you in real relationships and real connection, and what the hands that learned to go still are finally allowed to do. What did you decide about yourself when the person who was supposed to stay didn’t, and have you ever actually checked whether that conclusion was true? Leave it in the comments below. And if this named something that’s been running quietly for years, subscribe and share it with someone whose hands still go still when things start to matter. Be the bad influence in your own story.

How a Scarcity Mindset Was Passed Down to You, And How to Finally Break It. | #414

If you struggle with a scarcity mindset, feel like certain opportunities aren’t meant for people like you, or keep hitting the same ceiling no matter how hard you work, this episode traces it all the way back to where that story was first written. The ceiling you keep hitting isn’t made of circumstance. It’s made of a story that was handed to you before you were old enough to question whether it was true. It’s Fired Up Friday on The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas. In this episode, I share my perspective on why the belief that there isn’t enough available for someone like you was never your honest read of reality, it was your family’s survival strategy running in the present tense. If your legs go heavy at the threshold of real opportunity, you hold back full effort to protect yourself from the pain of full disappointment, or you’ve been calling inherited limitation realistic thinking, this episode breaks the ceiling from the inside. By the end of this, you’ll know exactly how the story got installed, what it’s been costing you in reach and results, and what the practice is that finally lets you move without the weight. What story about what’s available to you did you inherit, and have you ever actually tested whether it’s still true? Drop your answer in the comments. And if this cracked something that’s been running your decisions, subscribe and share it with someone still living under a ceiling that was built for someone else. Be the bad influence in your own story.

Is Your Partner Holding You Back, How to Know If You Married a Lid or a Launchpad. | #413

If you feel like you’ve been shrinking yourself in your relationship, stopped sharing your biggest ambitions with your partner, or wonder if the person you’re with is actually supporting your growth, this episode asks the question most people never do. The person you chose to build your life with is either making the ceiling higher or making sure you never forget it’s there. It’s Relationship Wednesday on The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas. In this episode, I share my perspective on why the difference between a lid and a launchpad in a relationship is the most important distinction nobody taught you to make before you chose someone. If you pre-shrink your vision before sharing it, feel a quiet loneliness inside a relationship that looks fine from the outside, or can’t remember the last time your partner’s belief in you actually created energy in you, this episode is the honest reckoning you’ve been walking around. By the end of this, you’ll see exactly what the managed dynamic has been costing you in growth and vision, and what the conversation is that changes everything about what the relationship produces. Does the person you’re with make you more — or do they make you careful? Drop your answer in the comments. And if this named what your stomach has been saying for a while — subscribe and share it with someone still calling containment comfort. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

Why You Hate Yourself, And How the Voice Behind It Was Never Actually Yours. | #412

If you struggle with low self-esteem, negative self-talk, or an inner critic that won’t stop, this episode goes all the way to where that voice was first installed. The voice inside your head that tells you you’re not enough sounds exactly like yours. But it was never originally yours to begin with. It’s Mindset Monday on The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas. In this episode, I share my perspective on why the self-critical voice you’ve been treating as honest self-awareness is actually someone else’s wound speaking in your voice, and what changes the moment you stop obeying it. If you break eye contact before it can become real, deflect every genuine compliment before it lands, or feel the ceiling on your own life but can’t explain why it keeps sitting exactly where it does, this episode names what put it there. By the end of this, you’ll know exactly where the voice came from, what it has cost you in relationships, risk, and your own daily experience of being alive, and what the one question is that begins to dismantle its authority for good. Whose voice is actually speaking when your inner critic delivers its verdict, and were they ever qualified to give it? Drop your answer in the comments. And if this named the voice you’ve been living under, subscribe and share it with someone still treating someone else’s wound as their own truth. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence