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Loneliness Is As Deadly As 15 Cigarettes A Day - James Ellis, PhD - #63

1 h 18 min · 14. maj 2026
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James Ellis is a clinical psychologist, educator, and the creator of The Loneliness Doctor. What's happening with modern friendship? Birth rates have collapsed, families are scattered across the country, and our social skills have plummeted just as AI begins to replace the human interactions we have left. So what's actually causing the loneliness epidemic, and how do we rebuild a real social life from scratch? Expect to learn why loneliness is as deadly as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day, why pangs of loneliness light up the same parts of the brain as pangs of hunger, why the average American now has less than one close confidant, why scrolling on social media is connection junk food, the friendship formation formula for building a social life from the ground up, why the "love yourself first" message is actually keeping people lonely, how AI is about to make the loneliness epidemic catastrophically worse and much more… - Save hundreds on the best saunas on the market: HERE [https://www.heavenlyheatsaunas.com/MERRILL] (use code MERRILL) - Thank You For Listening To The Chase Merrill Podcast - Get in touch in the comments below or head: HERE [Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chasecmerrill/] - James' Instagram: HERE [https://www.instagram.com/lonelinessdoctor/] James' website: HERE [https://www.lonelinessdoctor.com/] - 0:00 Is The World Lonelier Than Ever? 3:44 We Have To Build What We Were Born Into 5:16 The Shift From Collectivism To Individualism 9:23 How Tech Trained Us To Avoid Effort 15:07 The Average American Has No Close Friend 17:05 Loneliness Is As Deadly As 15 Cigarettes A Day 19:15 Why Loneliness Feels Like Hunger In The Brain 23:14 Men vs. Women, Single vs. Partnered 26:22 Social Media Is Connection Junk Food 30:14 Remote Work And The Friendship Formation Formula 39:29 The Best And Worst Activities For Making Friends 44:10 How AI Is Going To Make This Worse 47:26 Raising Children Who Aren't Lonely 1:07:35 Why "Love Yourself First" Is A Lie

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