Breaking the Self-Doubt Loop: Elisha Goldstein on Gaslighting and Tiny Shifts

Breaking the Self-Doubt Loop: Elisha Goldstein on Gaslighting and Tiny Shifts

In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Dr. Elisha Goldstein [https://elishagoldstein.com/], clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of Tiny Shifts: How Emotional Health Transforms Stress, Relationships, and Longevity [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GP9T6L5T?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_3DTH22ET5YTSJP461JWA&bestFormat=true], for a practical and deeply grounding conversation about how small moments of awareness can change the way we move through stress, overwhelm, relationships, and even gaslighting. Elisha shares the simple but powerful framework at the heart of his work: Recognize, Release, Refocus, and Reinforce. Together, Robin and Elisha explore how emotional loops form, why stress can narrow our access to wisdom and choice, and how tiny shifts, like noticing tension in the body, or softening the shoulders can create space between stimulus and response. They also connect Elisha's work directly to gaslighting, especially the self-doubt loop that can take hold when someone else repeatedly distorts your reality. Elisha offers a way to pause, return to the body, listen for what you know to be true, and begin reclaiming agency from the inside out. This episode is an invitation to stop waiting for a dramatic life overhaul and begin with the next small moment. Because sometimes the path back to clarity, calm, and self-trust begins with one tiny shift. To check out this and other episodes, head over to robinstern.com [https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player/]. Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ [https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/] Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern [https://twitter.com/RobinSStern] LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a [https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a] Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.

Nonviolent Communication at Home: Margot Magowan on Parenting Without Gaslighting

In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern welcomes her longtime friend Margot Magowan [https://listen2connectcoach.com/] - parent coach, writer, speaker, and former co-founder of the Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership - for a deeply personal conversation about parenting, power dynamics, and how easily gaslighting can show up at home, even when parents mean well. Margot shares how she moved from leadership work to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) [https://listen2connectcoach.com/private-coaching] after her oldest daughter struggled with serious behavioral health challenges. What began as exhaustion, self-blame, and a sense of "I'm failing" became an awakening. She realized that emotions aren't problems to solve or debate. They're signals. Together, Robin and Margot unpack how NVC helps parents shift from "fixing" to connecting, and why naming feelings and needs can restore trust, autonomy, and safety in the parent-child relationship. They talk about the difference between a request and a demand, how fear can lead parents to control their children in ways that undermine confidence, and how the culture of patriarchy and capitalism sets mothers up to feel inadequate while devaluing emotional life. Margot also describes what it looked like to bring NVC into a real household with three daughters, moving from "therapy robot" scripts to an authentic, grounded way of relating, and the long-term impact - siblings who can repair conflict and stay connected without escalation. This episode is a hopeful reminder that you can learn new skills, change old patterns, and build relationships where everyone's needs matter, without losing boundaries, authority, or honesty. To check out this and other episodes, head over to robinstern.com [https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player/]. Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ [https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/] Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern [https://twitter.com/RobinSStern] LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a [https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a] Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.

When A Parent You Love Keeps Lying To You: Francesca Fontana on The Family Snitch

What happens when a parent keeps lying, and the whole family teaches you not to ask too many questions? In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern sits down with journalist and author Francesca Fontana [https://www.francescamariefontana.com/] to explore what happens when the stories you inherit about your family, and yourself, begin to unravel. Francesca's new memoir, The Family Snitch [https://www.francescamariefontana.com/the-family-snitch], traces her lifelong search to understand her father: a larger-than-life, mostly absent presence in her childhood who became even more mysterious when he went to federal prison. With few answers and a clear message to keep family matters "private," Francesca grew up with gaps, contradictions, and unreliable narratives, learning early that her father's promises often didn't match reality. As she got older, she stopped taking his words at face value, but the deeper questions didn't go away: Who was he really? Why did he lie? And what does it mean to love someone you can't trust? When Francesca becomes a reporter, she returns to the mystery with a new toolset, determined to follow the facts and reclaim her reality. But the investigation becomes more than a story. It becomes an emotional reckoning with hope, shame, self-doubt, and the painful pull of wanting a parent to choose honesty. Along the way, she confronts the hardest possibility: that the person she's searching for may not want to be known, and that choosing her own life might require closing the door she kept open for so long. Robin and Francesca talk about the psychological toll of living inside uncertainty, the seductive nature of "maybe this time," and the courage it takes to grieve not only a relationship, but the hope of one. They also discuss how writing the book helped Francesca integrate her past, build trust in her own perceptions, and step out of the "disease of doubt" into something steadier: agency, clarity, and self-respect. To check out this and other episodes, head over to robinstern.com [https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player/]. Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ [https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/] Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern [https://twitter.com/RobinSStern] LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a [https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a] Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.

What School Boards Teach Us About Civil Discourse with Scott Levy

In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern continues the limited series Conversations at the Edge, exploring what it takes to stay grounded, curious, and connected when conversations move into charged, uncertain, or deeply divided territory. Robin's guest is Scott Levy, author of Why School Boards Matter, a four-time elected public school board member in Westchester County, former president of a regional school boards association, and former Executive Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Together, they shine a light on a part of American democracy most people rarely think about - local school boards - and why these often overlooked institutions may be one of our best hopes for rebuilding civic trust. Scott explains how school boards create a rare public space where neighbors with real disagreements have to show up, speak openly, and make decisions in the same room, eye to eye, not from behind screens. Robin and Scott discuss the public comment process, why controversial issues can intensify in the age of viral clips, and what helps communities avoid turning disagreement into dehumanization. They also explore "initiative fatigue" in schools, how too many competing mandates can overwhelm educators, and why thoughtful prioritization and better governance matter for teacher retention and student outcomes. The conversation closes with hope: what Scott sees in students, what in-person civic process still makes possible, and why strengthening local institutions, rather than pulling all power upward, may be essential if we want a healthier, more functional democracy. To check out this and other episodes, head over to robinstern.com [https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player/]. Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ [https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/] Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern [https://twitter.com/RobinSStern] LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a [https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a] Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.

Debate, Respect, And The Work of Questioning Mindfulness with Mo Edjlali

In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast—part of our limited series Conversations at the Edge—Dr. Robin Stern sits down with Mo Edjlali [https://www.mindfulleader.org/], founder of The Mindful Leader and author of OpenMBSR: Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction—Reimagining the Future of Mindfulness [https://www.mindfulleader.org/mbsr-training], for an honest conversation about what it takes to stay awake, ethical, and human in high-pressure environments. Mo shares his personal turning point: a rapid rise as a high-achieving entrepreneur, the leadership persona he adopted to succeed, and the painful crash that forced him to ask, "What is this all for?" From there, he traces how mindfulness, through intensive practice and deep inquiry, changed not only his stress level, but his perception of reality itself, and ultimately reshaped how he thinks about leadership. Together, Robin and Mo explore why meaningful growth often happens "at the edge," and why real progress sometimes requires the courage to challenge the culture of mindfulness from the inside, through debate, rigor, and a willingness to name uncomfortable truths. To check out this and other episodes, head over to robinstern.com [https://robinstern.com/podcast/podcast-player/]. Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ [https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/] Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern [https://twitter.com/RobinSStern] LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a [https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a] Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders [https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-sterns-books/] Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.