66. Know Yourself Before Committing to Someone Else

66. Know Yourself Before Committing to Someone Else

What does it actually mean to reinvent yourself-- and do you need to know who you are before you let someone else in? This week, I'm joined by my friend Elena for one of those conversations that started as a chat about her upcoming engagement and turned into something much bigger: a proper deep-dive into identity, change, and what it means to know yourself. We talk about what reinvention actually looks like in practice, whether people can truly change, what you carry forward when you start over, and the quiet grief- or relief- of leaving old versions of yourself behind. And yes, we do eventually get to the engagement. But the reason this episode earns that ending is everything that comes before it. Whether you're mid-reinvention, freshly out of one, or trying to figure out who you even are before you figure out who you want to be with, this one's for you.

65. What a Week in New York Taught Me About Adult Life

New York City gave me a lot last week: a beautiful wedding, reunions with people I don't see nearly enough, and a constant background hum of "do I love this or does this exhaust me?" In this solo episode, I'm talking through what it was like to be back in the chaos, the strange mix of emotions that comes with watching your friends hit big life milestones, and why catching up with long-distance friends always leaves me feeling both full and a little reflective. If you've ever been to a city that makes you feel alive and overwhelmed at the same time, this one's for you.

64. Should You Do A Master's Degree?

If you've ever finished undergrad and thought what now?!— this episode is for you. A master's degree can feel like the obvious next step. It sounds impressive, it keeps you in education a little longer, and it gives you something to say when people ask about your plans. But is it actually worth it? And are you doing it for the right reasons? In this episode, I'm joined by two friends and classmates, Nasreen and Ed, to reflect on our year doing an MA in Podcasting- yes, that's a real thing- and have an honest conversation about graduate school: what it costs, what it gives you, and whether it's actually necessary. We talk about what led each of us here, how a master's compares to undergrad life (it's more fragmented, more self-directed, and a lot less social than you might expect), and what we genuinely took away from the experience— academically, professionally, and personally. We also get into the harder questions. What were the paths we didn't take? How different would things look if we hadn't done it? Are there fields where a master's is genuinely valuable— and others where it's just a very expensive way of buying time? My honest take: I don't think a master's is for everyone. A lot of people do one to delay a decision rather than make one, and that can cost you serious time and money without much to show for it. But I also think there's a version of doing a master's that isn't really about the degree at all; it's about opening a door into a new chapter of your life that you couldn't have planned in advance. That's what it was for me. You don't have to do it right after undergrad. You don't have to do it at all. But if you have a real reason- a specific goal, a genuine curiosity, a sense that it might take you somewhere you actually want to go- it might be one of the better investments you make. Not just in your career, but in yourself.

63. How to Build Your Dream Life

This is Part 3 of the Dream Self series-- and this is where everything you've been building finally comes to life. If you've been following along, you've already done the deeper work. In Part 1, you got honest about what you actually want from your life- not what you think you should want, but what genuinely lights you up. In Part 2, you started getting to know the version of yourself you're working towards. Now, in this final instalment, we're getting into the part that most people skip: actually making it happen. Because here's the thing: vision without action is just a daydream. And action without structure is just chaos. So in this episode, we're building the bridge between who you are now and who you want to become, one concrete, practical step at a time. We start with goals-- why setting them is one of the most powerful things you can do for your wellbeing, performance, and sense of self, and how to set them in a way that actually sticks. Then we get into the real magic: systems and habits. You'll learn why motivation is never the answer (and what to rely on instead), how to design your environment so that your good habits become the path of least resistance, and how a collection of small, consistent actions compounds into something life-changing over time. We also talk mindset, because none of the practical stuff works if you're paralysed by perfectionism, self-doubt, or fear of what other people think. We get into how to build confidence through evidence, how to let go of the need to have it all figured out before you begin, and why consistency- even in tiny doses- is the thing that will change everything. This episode draws on research from positive psychology, habit theory, and the work of people like James Clear, and it's packed with real examples from my own life of what it actually looks like to build systems around your goals-- the wins, the things that didn't work, and the adjustments I made along the way. If you've ever had a big dream that never quite got off the ground, if you keep starting things and not finishing them, or if you're someone who knows exactly what you want but can't seem to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, this episode is for you. You don't need more motivation. You need a plan. Let's build it.

62. The Toolkit for Building your Dream Life

This episode is the bridge between dreaming and doing. Last week, we designed your dream life; this week, we're talking about how to actually prepare to build it. But before we dive into tools and systems, there's a big caveat I want to get into first: the most successful people have the smallest gap between idea and action. You don't need to know everything before you start. The learning happens as you go. From there, we get into the practical stuff- how to reverse-engineer your dream into a personal curriculum, how to find the right people and role models to learn from, and how to filter the overwhelming amount of content and "experts" online to find the voices you actually trust. We also talk about the difference between passive consumption and active learning, and how to build a system that keeps you growing consistently, not just in a burst of motivation at the start. We cover the tools and formats worth your time: podcasts, books, Substack, Sublime, YouTube and more, and why the real goal isn't to consume more, but to build something with what you take in. If you've ever felt stuck between knowing what you want and feeling ready enough to go after it, this episode is for you.