How to Stop Living on Autopilot (Before the Midlife Crisis Hits)

Jolie H. Pride in Recovery Story from OCNA

Jolie H. LGBT Pride in Recovery Speaker at Ohio Convention of Narcotics Anonymous (OCNA)

How to Stop Living on Autopilot (Before the Midlife Crisis Hits)

Are you living your life, or are you just following a script? Most of us are walking a path that was paved for us long before we were born. We go to school, get the job, buy the house, and check the boxes—only to wake up years later wondering why we feel so empty. In this video, we dive deep into what it actually means to live authentically. Hint: It’s not about being a rebel or "brutally honest" with everyone; it’s about checking your internal GPS before you’ve driven 500 miles in the wrong direction. In this video, you’ll learn: * How to distinguish your true desires from "default" societal expectations. * The "Muscle of Intuition" and how to exercise it daily. * Why discovering what you hate is actually a massive win for your future. * How to navigate major life transitions (career shifts, breakups, retirement) without losing your identity. Stop living on autopilot. It’s time to find out who is actually behind the wheel. www.joliehigazi.com

Beyond Us vs Them: How to Stand in The Contradiction

This episode challenges the modern culture of "canceling" and "black-and-white" thinking. Drawing from her own journey through childhood trauma, recovery from addiction, and a high-stakes escape from an abusive relationship, Jolie explains why grief is the ultimate doorway to a more expansive life. She introduces the concept of "Standing in the Contradiction"—the rare emotional capacity to hold two opposing truths at once. How can someone be both a source of deep pain and a source of profound love? How can we defend the humanity of a protester whose message we despise? This episode isn't about "thinking positive" or "light-washing" the truth; it’s a masterclass in emotional regulation, radical forgiveness, and the belief that when we stop resisting our pain, we finally become "un-burnable." If you feel exhausted by the polarization of the world or trapped by past wounds, this conversation offers a roadmap toward a version of hope that is grounded, gritty, and undeniably real. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 – The Audacity of Hope03:15 – Grief as the Key to Transformation 08:45 – Integrating the Duality of Trauma 14:30 – Recovery and the Ex-Fiancé19:15 – The "Pressure Cooker" Effect22:10 – Standing Up for Your "Enemy"28:00 – The Enemies Project & J.K. Rowling32:45 – There Is No "Them" Show notes: * Emma Watson on Jay Shetty Podcast--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2caQ4j9oohE * Enemies Project-- https://www.enemiesproject.org/ * Jolie's Website and Newsletter: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

Why Expansion is Scarier Than Scarcity

If you’ve ever felt the 'shame spiral' of self-sabotage, struggled to forgive those who hurt you, or felt paralyzed by the fear of being misunderstood, this conversation offers a roadmap back to your own core goodness. It’s an invitation to stop hiding, embrace the 'shitty ingredients' of your life, and finally give yourself permission to be big in a world where it feels safer to stay small. In this raw, unscripted New Year’s Day episode, Jolie explores the terrifying yet necessary transition from surviving to thriving. Drawing from 15 years of recovery and a journey through trauma, fundamentalism, and entrepreneurship, this episode is a 'message in a bottle' for anyone standing on the edge of their own expansion. Stay connected for updates throughout the year from Jolie's journey by signing up for her newsletter: www.joliehigazi.com Chapter Timestamps: 00:00 Power of Sending Messages to Future Self 04:15 The Promise of 2019 08:30 The Fear of "Being Big" 12:45 Facing the Fire 18:00 Standing in the Contradiction 23:15 The Logic of Compassion 28:50 The Cake Analogy 34:20 Walking Back Into the Fire 38:45 Breaking out of the Cocoon 42:30 Message to self for Dec 2026

BREAKUP REALITY: When a simple conversation won't save you from emotional abuse

In this episode, I share one of the most fulfilling moments of being a life coach: guiding someone who is standing exactly where I once stood. We dive into the complexities of breaking away from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship, and the shock of realizing that the problem isn't just communication—it's legal.I sat down with a client who was ready to break up with her manipulative partner, but subconsciously failed to mention one critical detail: he was on the house deed and mortgage.What started as a coaching session to rehearse boundary-setting responses quickly transformed into a major, necessary realization: this wasn't a breakup; it was a divorce. If you are feeling trapped, manipulated, or like your attempts to leave always fail, this video is for you.In this video, you will learn:--How to distinguish a simple relationship end from a high-stakes, legally-tied separation.--The critical shift from needing to communicate your exit to needing to gather legal support.--The power of using your past hardships to provide invaluable wisdom to others.--Why the "quiet knowing" of fulfillment is the best feeling you can have.My hope is that this conversation gives you:1. Permission to stop debating or negotiating with a manipulative partner.2. Clarity on when to seek professional help.3. Hope that you can move through your hardest challenges and find peace on the other side.🔗 If you could use support on your journey, subscribe to the podcast and newsletter below to stay connected:https://www.joliehigazi.com/newsletter [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGk3Q2d2MEJGTUdyV0NpTkplNThJODJHeWdjQXxBQ3Jtc0ttdl9NU2UzVEhhUjJRUnktZkdKeGZfWjBRUlhmeUM1TDF2WVJCelJmYndfeG9FZUppZnlBY0ZoTktDTzN6M212Ry04YmwyOUJhOEVFdTYwd1VKRFNRN1ViUXR6cjJFc3BOVGl4cjIyS0xaZ0FlaVlmaw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.joliehigazi.com%2Fnewsletter&v=UPFuap4oh30] And here's the poem I mentioned I wrote: Do You Remember Me, Wise Oak Tree? https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/remember-me-wise-oak