The Mel Robbins Podcast

This episode is your playbook for having saner, smarter, and more successful conversations, even when you disagree.  If every dinner turns into a debate…  If you feel like you're having the same argument on repeat…  If you're avoiding certain topics, work events, or even your family and friends altogether…  It might feel like your life is shrinking. And you’re not alone. People around the world are feeling the disconnect.  That’s why Mel called in a world-class expert to give you the blueprint for finally getting through to other people without blowing up, backing down, or bottling it up.  Today, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author Charles Duhigg joins Mel to share science-backed strategies and tools to stop arguing and start connecting again, even when you completely disagree.  Whether it’s politics, parenting, or that one comment that always sets you off, you’ll learn how to say what needs to be said and actually be heard.  You’ll learn:  -The #1 mistake that keeps arguments going (and how to break the cycle)  -What to say when someone shuts down or refuses to budge  -The single biggest mistake you make when you argue  -How to change someone’s mind (yes, really).  -Proven and simple scripts to disarm difficult people  -The psychological secret that instantly shifts tense conversations  Because your relationships depend on this. The right conversation, at the right time, with the right tools, is how things shift. That’s how connection happens.  This is not about “agreeing to disagree.” It’s about knowing exactly what to say, so you can stay close to the people who matter most – and maybe even change their minds in the process.  For more resources, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-304/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next, with trial lawyer and communication expert Jefferson Fisher: Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-216/] Connect with Mel:    * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Sign up for Mel’s personal letter  [https://bit.ly/46PVnPs] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer]

These 6 pieces of advice are exactly what you need to hear.  And buckle up, because today, Mel is not holding back.  If you’re feeling lost in your 20s, this episode is your roadmap to making this decade better than you ever imagined.  Whether you’re in your 20s, love someone who is, or just feel behind in life, this episode is for you.  Mel is pulling back the curtain on what nobody tells you about your 20s. It’s normal to feel lost. You are not alone.  And in this episode, she’s giving you the truths, mindset shifts, and tools you need to help you move forward with clarity, confidence, and self-compassion.  You’ll learn:  -The 3 massive identity shifts that hit in your 20s (and why you feel so lost)  -Why you're stuck in the paradox of choice, and how to break through it  -What “the great scattering” is and why it explains everything about your 20s  -The truth about decision-making (hint: there are no wrong choices)  -A one-month challenge to help you get unstuck and build momentum, fast  No matter your age, this episode will reframe how you think about your timeline, your purpose, and your next move.  The truth is that no matter what decade of your life you are in, you can make it the best one – and this advice will help you do it.  For more resources, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-303/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: 13 Things I Wish I Knew in My 20s [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-154/] Connect with Mel:    * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Sign up for Mel’s personal letter  [https://bit.ly/46PVnPs] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer]

This episode will change how you understand your brain – and yourself.  If you’ve ever felt like your brain is working against you – think brain fog, mood swings, and exhaustion – you’re not crazy, you’re not broken, and it’s not your fault.  Today, world-renowned neuroscientist Dr. Sarah McKay joins Mel for a groundbreaking conversation that will completely transform how you understand your brain.  Dr. McKay has spent 30 years studying the brain. She holds a Doctorate in neuroscience from Oxford University and flew over 10,000 miles from Australia to sit down with Mel for this conversation.  In this episode, she reveals the 3 factors that influence how your brain develops. She also  tells you how you can use that information to reset your brain for a better mood, more energy, and greater mental clarity.  Whether you’re a woman looking for answers about why your brain is freaking out during PMS, or you are forgetting things during pregnancy or menopause, this is a must listen.  In this episode, you’ll learn:  -The 3 forces that shape your brain before you're even born and how they differ if you are male or female  -What’s actually happening in your brain during PMS, pregnancy, and menopause and why it’s not what you think  -What men need to know about the female brain and what it reveals about their own  -The long-term impact of telling a young girl she’s “not a math person”  -Why your brain shrinks during pregnancy and how that helps your baby  -The real role of hormones in memory, mood, and mental health  What you’ll learn today will give you a deeper, research-backed understanding of how the brain really works, and how powerful it truly is.  This isn’t about fixing your brain. It’s about understanding it and learning how to work with it.  For more resources, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-302/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: The Body Reset: How Women Should Eat & Exercise for Health, Fat Loss, & Energy [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-275/] Connect with Mel:    * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Sign up for Mel’s personal letter  [https://bit.ly/46PVnPs] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer]

This episode will change both how you see your life – and how you live it. If you’ve been struggling to find meaning, clarity, or peace, this conversation is the reset you didn’t know you needed. You’ll walk away with timeless strategies for living with more purpose, courage, and kindness, even when life is hard. Today, Mel sits down with Judge Frank Caprio, an 88-year-old father, husband, cancer fighter, and judge whose viral courtroom videos have been watched over 10 billion times. But this conversation goes deeper than anything you may have seen online. In this episode, Judge Caprio shares the life lessons and wisdom that most people learn too late. This isn’t just a story about a remarkable man—it’s a masterclass in how to live. You’ll learn: -Why your definition of a “good life” might be all wrong, and what to focus on before it’s too late -How he’s facing pancreatic cancer and and why he says this might be the most meaningful chapter of his life -How 30 seconds of kindness can change someone forever -What tens of thousands of cases as a judge taught him about forgiveness, human nature, and the one thing everyone’s really looking for This episode, packed with life lessons, is the reminder you need to keep going and keep giving.   Judge Caprio will make you cry, laugh, and walk away seeing your own life with brand-new eyes. For more resources, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-301/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next: The Secret to a Happy Life: What the Ultimate Study on Happiness Reveals [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-210/] Connect with Mel:  * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Sign up for Mel’s personal letter  [https://bit.ly/46PVnPs] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer]

If you’ve ever felt lost, this unforgettable conversation will help you come home to yourself.  This episode will change how you think about your past, your purpose, and what’s possible for your future.  Because if you’ve been carrying pain, guilt, or questions you can’t quite name, this is the conversation that helps you finally let go of all that.  Today, Mel sits down with singer-songwriter Mon Rovîa, whose breathtaking journey from war-torn Liberia, where he narrowly escaped becoming a child soldier, to the global stage will stop you in your tracks.  But this isn’t just about his story—it’s about what his story will awaken in you.  Adopted and raised in the U.S., Mon spent years trying to outrun his trauma.  What followed was guilt, despair and a deep feeling of not belonging anywhere.  Until he realized he had a choice: He could stay stuck in suffering or turn his pain into power.  His answer came through music, and what he’s created is reaching millions around the world. In fact, he's one of Mel's favorite artists.  But this isn’t just about Mon’s voice. It’s about what his story inspires in you.  In this episode, you’ll learn:  -How to stop running from your past, and start turning it into purpose  -Why guilt keeps you stuck (and how to let it go)  -What it really means to “belong” in your own life  -That no matter what you’ve been through, you belong here  This episode will stay with you. By the end, you’ll feel seen. Grounded. Clearer about where you’ve been, and more certain about where you’re headed.  For more resources, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-300/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, this one will help you go deeper: Why You Feel Lost in Life: Dr. Gabor Mate on Trauma & How to Heal [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-274/] Connect with Mel:    * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Sign up for Mel’s personal letter  [https://bit.ly/46PVnPs] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer]