The Quiet Damage of Pride in Relationships, Parenting, and Communication

The Biggest Relationship Red Flag? Not Showing Up When It Matters

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] What does it really mean to show up for someone you love? In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about healthy relationships, accountability, childhood trauma, and emotional maturity. When one partner chooses a night out over showing up during a medical emergency, it raises difficult questions. Is this simply a mistake, or does it reveal something deeper about priorities, trust, and commitment? And when someone hurts the people they love, can childhood trauma explain their behavior without excusing it? From relationship red flags and self awareness to narcissistic traits rooted in unresolved trauma, this episode challenges listeners to look beyond excuses and ask one of the hardest questions of all. Am I taking responsibility for the way I treat others? If you've ever questioned a relationship, struggled with accountability, or wondered how your past influences your present, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to explore why accountability is one of the hardest parts of healing, and how taking ownership can change the way you show up for the people who matter most.  Episode Highlights:  00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors  03:18 Pastor Tony and Protecting Your Family  19:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation  27:45 What It Means to Show Up in a Crisis  41:26 Accountability or Excuses?  53:08 Can Childhood Trauma Lead to Narcissistic Traits?  59:48 Why Healing Requires Honest Self Reflection Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c]🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/]🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

The Relationship Red Flag Every Parent Should Know

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] Would you step in if helping someone you love created even more conflict?  In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about parenting, family boundaries, responsibility, and emotional maturity. When a father repairs his adult daughter's unsafe car after her boyfriend fails to follow through, one simple act of love raises difficult questions. When should parents step in? Where do healthy boundaries begin? And how do pride and ego influence the way we respond? From family dynamics and healthy relationships to accountability and emotional intelligence, this episode explores what it truly means to protect the people you love without losing sight of respect and responsibility. If you've ever struggled with family boundaries, wondered when to step in, or questioned what real responsibility looks like, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to discover why this story is about far more than fixing a car, and how the lessons behind it can strengthen families and relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:26 Seeing America Through a Different Perspective 14:03 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 19:44 Did Dad Cross the Line? 23:11 Responsibility vs Pride 31:58 Parenting Through Difficult Decisions 36:31 Educate, Empower, and Encourage Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c]🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/]🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

The Quiet Damage of Pride in Relationships, Parenting, and Communication

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] Why is it so hard to admit we're wrong? 💭 In this episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about pride, accountability, parenting, and emotional growth. What happens when we're confronted with undeniable proof that we made a mistake? Why do so many people become defensive instead of taking ownership? And what lessons do our children learn when they never see us apologize? From family dynamics and relationship conflict to trauma responses and emotional intelligence, this episode explores the hidden cost of letting pride take the driver's seat. If you've ever struggled to say "I was wrong," found yourself explaining instead of apologizing, or wondered why accountability feels so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. 🎧 Tune in to learn how genuine apologies build trust, why ownership matters more than excuses, and how small moments of accountability can transform relationships. Episode Highlights: 00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 03:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation 08:45 Why Pride Makes Accountability So Difficult 13:20 Should Parents Apologize to Their Kids? 18:34 Explanations vs Excuses 24:10 Trauma Responses and Emotional Reactions 29:47 The Power of a Simple Apology 35:18 How Accountability Strengthens Relationships 40:05 Taking Ownership and Moving Forward Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c]🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/]🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

Are You Showing Up or Just Showing Off? The Truth About Ego in Relationships

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] Most relationships don’t fall apart because of big dramatic events. They fall apart in small moments where ego shows up, priorities get misaligned, and one person stops considering the experience of the other. In this powerful episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Dr Jess break down a viral Reddit story that starts with a simple date night, Bruno Mars tickets, a planned dinner, and a special evening together, but quickly spirals into conflict over something as small as a steak. What unfolds is a deeper conversation about emotional intelligence, selfish decision making, and what it really means to create shared experiences in a relationship. They explore how stress, excuses, and personal comfort can quietly override connection, and why “good intentions” are not enough when your actions tell a different story. From ego-driven decisions to emotional memory and relationship damage, this episode reveals how one moment of self-focus can undo an entire experience you thought you were building together. If you’ve ever wondered why small disagreements turn into big disconnects in relationships, this conversation will make you rethink how you show up for the people you care about. 🎧 Tune in now. It’s not about the steak or the concert it’s about what happens when you stop making it about “us” and start making it about “me.” Episode Highlights: 00:00 - Welcome to Mental Health Janitors 02:36 - The “Concert vs Steak” Reddit Story Begins 05:01 - When Excuses Show Up in Relationships 06:35 - “Why does she even care about the opener?” 08:58 - How Personal Comfort Overrides Shared Experience 11:21 - Emotional Connection & Neuro Pathways in Relationships 13:20 - The Power of Negative Emotional Memory 15:07 - Accountability vs Justifying Behavior 17:11 - Why Intentions Don’t Matter Without Action Join the Conversation Be part of a growing community having real conversations about mental health, relationships, emotional intelligence, trauma, and personal responsibility. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c]🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/]🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: Website: https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitystarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

The Marriage Mirror: Why Changing Yourself Changes Your Relationship

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] 🎁 Free Resource from Doc Jess If this conversation resonates with you and you want practical tools to strengthen your marriage by focusing on personal growth first, Doc Jess is offering a free marriage assessment and relationship resource to help you identify areas for growth and build a stronger foundation. 👉 Get started here: https://firstonesfree.com/ [https://firstonesfree.com/] If you feel stuck in the same arguments, frustrated with your spouse, or wondering why your relationship keeps running into the same challenges, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez sits down with Doc Jess to discuss one of the most overlooked truths about healthy relationships. The strongest marriages are often built when each person focuses on improving themselves before trying to fix their spouse. Drawing from personal experience, counseling practice, military life, and marriage research, they explore why self-reflection creates lasting change, how unresolved pain affects communication, and why assumptions often create conflict where none exists. You will learn how past experiences shape the way you interpret your spouse's actions, why your brain naturally tries to protect you from emotional pain, and how that protection can sometimes damage connection. Doc Jess also shares her practical 24-48-72 Hour Tool for responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. This episode explores the importance of personal accountability, emotional awareness, healthy communication, and creating space for growth within marriage. The goal is not to change your spouse. The goal is to become the healthiest version of yourself. Watch if you are searching for * How to improve your marriage * How to stop arguing with your spouse * Christian marriage advice * Marriage communication tips * How to build a stronger relationship * How to work on yourself first Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn't flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] * Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ [https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/] Disclaimer: Educational only. Not medical, psychological, or relationship counseling advice. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]