Why Your Schedule Isn't Working (It's Not a Time Problem)

Why Your Schedule Isn't Working (It's Not a Time Problem)

"How do you find a schedule to balance work, working out, and family?" This question came up during a recent private event Q&A and I hear it constantly. And every single time, I want to say the same thing: you're solving the wrong problem. Your schedule isn't broken. Your capacity is maxed out. And no amount of calendar management will fix a life that's already filled to capacity. In this episode I'm walking you through the five things you actually need to look at and the exact process I use with my coaching clients to get their time and energy back. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why work-life balance is not a scheduling problem - it's a capacity problem * Why you can't out-schedule a life that's already at maximum capacity * What season of life you're currently in and why it changes everything about how you should be operating * The difference between male and female energetics and how to plan your schedule around your natural energy flow * Why a time audit is the non-negotiable first step and exactly how to do one in 15-minute increments * How to run your time data through a capacity filter: eliminate, automate, systemize, delegate and defer * How to set boundaries that protect your time - for yourself and for others * The free time tracking resource I use with my clients * My Capacity Clarity Hour workshop - a step-by-step process to identify your capacity and build a better schedule in under 60 minutes TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you balance work, working out and family? 00:30 — Why this isn't a calendar problem - it's a capacity problem 01:30 — We all have the same 168 hours. Here's why that matters. 02:00 — Why feeling disbalanced comes from prioritizing time for others over yourself 02:30 — Step 1: What season of life are you currently in? 03:00 — The four seasons framework and why you can't harvest without rest 03:30 — How my recent book launch season was a perfect example of a summer season 04:30 — Step 2: How does your energy flow on a daily or monthly basis? 05:00 — Male energetics: the 24-hour cycle and the standard workday 05:30 — Female energetics: the 28-day cycle and what it means for your schedule 06:30 — Step 3: Do a time audit - track everything in 15-minute increments for one week 07:00 — My personal story: doing my first time audit before having a baby as an SVP 07:30 — What I found: an hour a day on social media I didn't even realize I was spending 08:00 — Step 4: Analyze your data and run it through the capacity filter 08:30 — Eliminate: what can go out the window entirely? 09:00 — Automate: what can AI and tech tools handle for you? 09:15 — Systemize: what repeatable processes could you build out? 09:30 — Delegate: who else could handle this - at work, at home, in life? 10:00 — Defer: what isn't urgent and can be parked for later? 10:30 — Step 5: Set boundaries to protect the time you've freed up 11:00 — How I use the Brick app to set literal boundaries around social media 11:15 — How to set boundaries with the people in your life to protect your priorities 11:30 — Full recap: the five-step capacity framework 12:30 — The Capacity Clarity Hour instant access workshop + free time tracking resource NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Capacity Clarity Hour Instant Access Workshop: https://corrielo.com/capacityclarityhour [https://corrielo.com/capacityclarityhour] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. 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High Achiever Hobbies: Why You Have No Life Outside of Work

"How do you find other outlets when you've always been a high performer? I've never developed hobbies or ideas outside of building my career." This question came up during a recent private event Q&A and the entire room nodded along. And honestly? I felt it too. Here's the truth: it's not about having hobbies for the sake of self-care. It's about finding what fulfills you and what restores you, and those are two very different things. In this episode I'm walking you through the exact questions I use to figure out whether you even need hobbies to begin with and how to find the right ones if you do. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why hobbies feel so hard for high performers and why that makes complete sense * Why the need to always be productive can be a trauma response and my personal experience with this * Why loving your work so much it doesn't feel like work can actually be a hobby in disguise * Why you might not need hobbies at all and how to know for sure * The four questions I use to figure out what actually fulfills and restores you * What activities energize you versus what activities wind you down and why both matter equally * Why looking back at what you loved as a kid is one of the most powerful clues for what you need now * How to figure out whether you need solo, introspective hobbies or connection-based ones * How to identify whether your current work and life are already checking all the boxes * My personal list of hobbies - from salsa dancing to cello to stop-motion Barbie videos - and what each season of my life needed TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you find hobbies when you've always been a workaholic? 00:30 — Why it's not about hobbies for the sake of self-care - it's about fulfillment and restoration 01:00 — Why hobbies feel so difficult for high performers to engage with 02:00 — Why the need to always be productive can be a trauma response and my personal story 03:00 — Why loving your work so much it doesn't feel like work means your work might actually be your hobby 04:00 — The only time having no hobbies is actually a problem 04:30 — Question 1: What activities excite you and bring you energy today? 05:00 — My personal energy list: fitness, cooking, dancing and music 06:00 — Question 2: What activities calm you and reset your energy? 06:30 — My personal restoration list: reading, puzzles, coloring, drawing, beach, meditation 08:00 — Question 3: What activities did you love as a kid? 08:30 — My childhood list: sports, drawing, making videos, playing cello and piano 09:30 — Question 4: What relationships do you miss or crave building again? 10:00 — Why right now I crave solo hobbies and why my husband craves his bowling league 10:30 — How to figure out whether you need people-focused or introspective hobbies 11:00 — How do these activities fit into your work and life today? 12:00 — Why salsa dancing was the perfect hobby for me as a new single mom in corporate 13:00 — Recap: the full framework for figuring out whether you need hobbies and which ones 13:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

How to Build a Support System When You Feel Like You Have No One

Most high performers don't lose their community. They outgrow it. After my divorce, I found myself a newly single mom of a five-month-old in a brand-new neighborhood on Long Island - two counties and a 45-minute train ride away from every friend and every person who had ever supported me. And not one of them understood abuse, divorce or single motherhood. I wasn't lacking people. I was lacking the right people for the season of life I was in. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how I built my community from scratch - including the Facebook group story that started it all and the step-by-step framework you can use to do the same, even if you're an introvert or ambivert like me. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why most high performers don't lose their community - they outgrow it * My personal story of starting over on Long Island after leaving an abusive marriage and how a random Facebook post changed everything * Why community isn't something you find - it's something you build * Why getting specific about what you need is the fastest way to build the right community * How to identify exactly who you need more of in your life right now * Why your support system doesn't always have to be free and why that's perfectly okay * Real examples of what community building looks like after a loss, a promotion or having a baby * How to network strategically - not broadly - to find the right people for the life you're building * Why following up within a week is the difference between a connection and a missed opportunity * How to nurture relationships so they become win-wins for everyone involved * How to know when it's time to outgrow a relationship and why that's healthy TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you build a community when you don't have one? 00:30 — Why most high performers outgrow their community rather than lose it 01:00 — My personal story: newly single mom, new neighborhood, zero community 02:00 — Why having people around you isn't the same as having the right people 03:00 — The Facebook group story: how one comment changed everything 05:00 — How the South Shore Single Moms group grew from beach meetups to wine tours and big events 05:45 — What that community did for me when I was burning out from a 20-hour weekly commute 06:00 — Community isn't found. It's built. 06:30 — Why getting specific about your needs is the fastest path to the right community 07:00 — How to think about your personal board of advisors and who fills those roles 07:30 — Why your support system can include people you pay and why that's not a cop-out 08:00 — What community building looks like after losing a loved one 09:00 — What community building looks like after a big promotion 09:30 — What community building looks like after having a baby 11:00 — How to network strategically online groups, in-person events, associations and more 12:00 — Why following up within a week is non-negotiable 12:30 — How to build and nurture relationships that are win-wins for everyone 13:00 — Full recap: how to find your people and build your circle from scratch 13:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

How to Get Promoted Without Feeling Like You're Bragging

So many high performers - especially women - stay stuck watching less qualified people get promoted. Not because they aren't ready. But because they're waiting for their work to speak for itself. Here's the truth: your work gets you credibility. But visibility is what gets you promoted. This question came up during one of my Overwhelm Culprit™ workshops and it's one I hear constantly. In this episode, I'm sharing the exact three-part framework I use with my coaching and advisory clients to help them secure a promotion - without feeling like they're bragging. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why your work alone won't get you promoted and what actually will * Why nearly half of all workers have made it known they don't want promotions and why that works in your favor * What the 150% rule is and why you need to know it before you pursue a promotion * My three-part Data, Communication, and Visibility framework for securing a promotion * What data to collect, how to track it and why it's not bragging when it's backed by proof * How to use the Simone Biles mindset when it comes to advocating for yourself * Why you should be researching roles at other companies - even if you don't plan to apply * How to bring up your desire for a promotion in one-on-ones without it feeling awkward * The difference between a mentor and a sponsor and why a sponsor is the one who gets you promoted * Why visibility isn't about being everywhere - it's about being seen by the right people * Why confidence is the foundation of all of this and how the framework helps you build it TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you self-promote for a promotion? 00:30 — Why high performers stay stuck waiting for their work to speak for itself 01:00 — Why visibility - not performance - is what gets you promoted 01:15 — The stat that changes everything: nearly half of all workers don't even want a promotion 01:30 — The 150% rule: what it is and why it matters before you pursue a promotion 02:00 — If you're already doing the work but not getting recognized - here's why 02:30 — Introduction to the Data, Communication and Visibility framework 03:00 — Data: what to track, how to document it and why impact matters more than activity 03:45 — Why it's not bragging if it's proven data - the Simone Biles quote that says it all 04:30 — How to use your data to prove you already meet the 150% rule 04:45 — Why researching roles at other companies gives you objective market data 05:30 — Communication: how to make your wins known in meetings and one-on-ones 06:00 — How to proactively bring up your career progression - without waiting for your boss to do it 06:30 — How to ask your boss exactly what measurable results are needed for a promotion 07:00 — Visibility: why it's about being seen by the right people - not just being everywhere 07:15 — How to secure a sponsor who will bring your name up in rooms you're not in 07:45 — How to build relationships with decision makers - virtually or in person 08:00 — The underrated visibility tip nobody talks about: dress for the role you want 08:15 — Why applying to roles at other organizations gives you options and leverage 08:45 — Full recap of the Data, Communication and Visibility framework 09:30 — Why confidence is the real foundation - and how this framework helps you build it 10:00 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. 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How to Figure Out Your Values When Nothing Feels Clear

If every decision feels harder than it should - or you keep making choices that look right on paper but feel completely off - there's a good chance you don't know your personal values. Or more likely, you do know them. You've just been overriding them. This question came up during a private event Q&A while I was leading a values exercise, and it's one I hear all the time: what do you do when you can't define your values? In this episode, I'm walking you through exactly how to identify yours - and how to use them as a tool to lead, decide, and set boundaries with so much more ease. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why not knowing your values leads to reduced performance, poor decision making, and lowered motivation * Why most people don't actually need to find their values - they just need to stop overriding them * Why values are the most powerful tool for alignment - in your career, your relationships, and your community * How personal values work as a decision-making filter - and why they make the hard calls so much easier * How values make it easier to set and hold boundaries with confidence * The difference between your intuition and your ego - and why it matters when selecting your values * How to use my 105-value worksheet to identify your top four personal values today * Why your values today may look completely different than they did five or ten years ago - and why that's perfectly normal * How to pressure test your values by running real decisions through them * Why you don't need to get this perfect the first time - and how to know when you've got the right ones TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: what do you do when you can't define your values? 00:30 — Why the real problem usually isn't that you don't know your values - it's that you're overriding them 01:00 — Why values and leadership go hand in hand 01:30 — How values help you find the right organization, community, and people to surround yourself with 02:00 — Why values are the easiest way to make difficult decisions 02:30 — Why values make setting boundaries so much easier 03:00 — My personal values: family, career, health, and travel 03:30 — How to use the 105-value worksheet to identify your top four 04:00 — Why this process can feel overwhelming - and how to take the pressure off 04:30 — Why your values shift over time - and my personal example of how mine changed after becoming a parent 05:00 — The intuition vs. ego framework: how to tell which voice to listen to when selecting your values 06:00 — How to use intuition as your filter - and why ego gets in the way 06:30 — How to pressure test your values by running decisions through them 07:30 — Recap: why values are a non-negotiable leadership skill 08:00 — How to get started today - and a reminder that you can always change your values as you grow 08:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Discover Your Values Worksheet: http://www.corrielo.com/episode-63 [http://www.corrielo.com/episode-63] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack:https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]