ALCOHOLISM OR JUST BINGEING? Understanding the "all or nothing" stop button - Featuring Keesha Scott

Ty Herndon's Whole Truth: What Mattered Most, Hollywood Survival, Addiction & Faith

For the first time, country music star Ty Herndon tells the full story behind his memoir What Mattered Most: a 21-year-old's hotel room in Hollywood that he kept silent about for nearly forty years, the New Year's morning in 2020 when his phone rang at 6:45 a.m., and the love he didn't think he'd live to write. This is Nashville's podcast, The Patrick Custer Show: the only place on Broadway where shame gets bounced at the door and hope is always on the house. What did Ty Herndon spend nearly forty years unable to say out loud about a hotel room in Hollywood? How does a number-one country artist watch his career disappear in a single news cycle and not become bitter? What happened on the New Year's morning of 2020, when he had a handful of pills and his phone rang at 6:45 a.m.? And what made a country dad drive his transgender son 200 miles out of town and drop him off, only to lose him 24 hours later? We explore shame and silence, faith and identity, addiction and recovery, and the cost of carrying things alone. If you have ever felt like you had to hide something to survive, Ty opens up about the work of saying it out loud and what becomes possible on the other side. CONTENT NOTE: This episode discusses suicide attempt, sexual assault, and addiction. - 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 - The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ youth): 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678 - RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE THE PATRICK CUSTER SHOW: Instagram: @thepatrickcustershow [https://instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow] TikTok: @thepatrickcustershow [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow] Facebook: The Patrick Custer Show [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww] Apple Podcasts: LISTEN HERE [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-patrick-custer-show/id1855480220] Spotify: LISTEN HERE [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ciCkeb799tKuE87nn0SfI] YouTube: @thepatrickcustershow [https://www.youtube.com/@ThePatrickCusterShow] Website: www.thepatrickcustershow.com [https://www.thepatrickcustershow.com] PATRICK: Instagram: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster] TikTok: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster] Facebook: Patrick Custer [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr] YouTube: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster] Website: www.patrickcustermedia.com [https://www.patrickcustermedia.com] TY HERNDON: Instagram: @tyherndonofficial [https://www.instagram.com/tyherndonofficial] TikTok: @tyherndonofficial [https://www.tiktok.com/@tyherndonofficial] Facebook: @tyherndonofficial [https://www.facebook.com/tyherndonofficial] YouTube: @OfficialTyHerndon [https://www.youtube.com/@OfficialTyHerndon] Website: www.tyherndon.com [https://www.tyherndon.com] BOOKING AND PRESS: contact@patrickcustermedia.com COMMUNITY PARTNER SPOTLIGHT: GLAAD has been working for fair, accurate, and inclusive LGBTQ representation since 1985. Forty years of changing the stories that change the culture. Learn more: www.glaad.org [https://glaad.org]

ALCOHOLISM OR JUST BINGEING? Understanding the "all or nothing" stop button - Featuring Keesha Scott

ONE DRINK TRAPS YOU because for the high-functioning binge drinker, the "stop button" simply doesn't exist. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Patrick Custer sits down with Keesha Scott—co-founder of a national treatment empire and host of the Cake for Dinner podcast—to dismantle the most dangerous myth in wellness: that you aren't an alcoholic if you don't drink every day. From the Nashville podcast bringing you celebrity stories of sensational transformation, survival & healing from mental health, trauma, addiction and the shame that fuels it all! DO YOU HAVE AN "ALL OR NOTHING" BRAIN? Many successful professionals hide behind the "binge drinking" label, believing that because they can go days without a bottle, they are in control. Keesha reveals the "invisible struggle" of winning corporate awards while smelling of "booze and cigarettes," explaining how the high-functioning mask actually accelerates the spiral. We explore the neurological "animal state" that takes over after the first glass and why "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps" is the only trick most of us have until it stops working. WHY THIS EPISODE IS FOR EVERYONE Whether you’ve never touched a substance or you’re 20 years sober, this conversation is a masterclass in the human "mask." We all have an "aesthetic" we project—the entrepreneur, the perfect mom, the tireless leader—while often throwing our internal trauma "out the window" instead of processing it. Keesha’s journey from a fatal accident at 20 to co-founding Guardian Recovery demonstrates that "perfection is a myth that kills" and that choosing joy is a radical act of resilience that can start at any age. WHAT YOU WILL UNLOCK: 1. The Binger’s Paradox: Why the "days in between" are actually a trap of denial. 2. The Corporate Duality: How success is often used as a shield to avoid the "shit show" in private. 3. Parenting from Conviction: Moving from "parenting from fear" to being "honest-ish" with the next generation. 4. The Back Nine: Why Keesha decided at age 51 to finally "put herself on the list" and how you can too. ABOUT OUR GUEST: KEESHA SCOTT Keesha Scott is a prominent public figure in the behavioral health space, a certified parenting coach, and the co-founder of Guardian Recovery—a nationwide network with over 800 employees and 17 facilities dedicated to whole-family healing. As the host of the Cake for Dinner podcast and author of an upcoming book (Simon & Schuster), Keesha leverages her 23 years of sobriety and Master's in Psychology to advocate for adolescent mental health and "authenticity over aesthetics". SUBSCRIBE, FOLLLOW & CONNECT: 🧲 The Patrick Custer Show: Stream: 1. Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-patrick-custer-show/id1855446218 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-patrick-custer-show/id1855446218] 2. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5ciCkeb799tKuE87nn0SfI?si=0a03d967e1c5405f [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ciCkeb799tKuE87nn0SfI?si=0a03d967e1c5405f] 3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcustershow [https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcustershow] 4. Amazon Podcast: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c189b8f5-4d39-40f0-8d37-efec32aa3c5b/the-patrick-custer-show [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/c189b8f5-4d39-40f0-8d37-efec32aa3c5b/the-patrick-custer-show] Socials: 1. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow/ [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow/] 2. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww/ [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww/] 3. Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow] Website: www.thepatrickcustershow.com [http://www.thepatrickcustershow.com] 🧲 FOLLOW KEESHA SCOTT (guest): Instagram: @keeshawscott - https://www.instagram.com/keeshawscott [https://www.instagram.com/keeshawscott] TikTok: @keeshawscott - https://www.tiktok.com/@keeshawscott [https://www.tiktok.com/@keeshawscott] YouTube: @CakeForDinnerPod - https://www.youtube.com/@CakeForDinnerPod [https://www.youtube.com/@CakeForDinnerPod ] Web: https://keeshascott.com [https://keeshascott.com] 🧲 FOLLOW PATRICK CUSTER (host): Instagram: @thepatrickcuster - https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster] TikTok: @thepatrickcuster - https://www.tiktok.com/thepatrickcuster [https://www.tiktok.com/thepatrickcuster] YouTube: @thepatrickcuster - https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster [ https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr] ⛑️ HELP RESOURCES: 👉 FOR INDIVIDUALS: - Addiction: - Guardian Recovery: (888) 509-0591 http://www.guardianrecovery.com · https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline [https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline] · 1-800-622-4357 - Mental Health: · https://loveyourmindtoday.org [https://loveyourmindtoday.org] 👉 HELP FOR FAMILIES: - Guardian Recovery: (888) 509-0591 http://www.guardianrecovery.com - Al-Anon Family Groups · https://al-anon.org [https://al-anon.org] - Smart Recovery Family Support · https://www.smartrecovery.org/family [https://www.smartrecovery.org/family] CHAPTERS: 1. 00:00:00 THE BROKEN STOP BUTTON 2. 00:01:30 NASHVILLE BROADWAY STUDIO TOUR 3. 00:04:00 PARENTING IN THE TRENCHES 4. 00:06:10 BALANCE IS TOTAL BULLSHIT 5. 00:08:30 CHOOSING JOY AT 51 6. 00:14:20 THE 1994 FATAL ACCIDENT 7. 00:20:45 THROWING TRAUMA OUT WINDOWS 8. 00:23:10 WINNING AWARDS WHILE DRUNK 9. 00:29:00 BINGEING OR REAL ADDICTION? 10. 00:32:40 THE ONE YEAR RULE 11. 00:37:20 PREGNANT AND TOTALLY ABANDONED 12. 00:51:40 THE TABOO OF RELIEF 13. 00:57:20 GUARDIAN RECOVERY EMPIRE SCALE 14. 01:02:15 CAKE FOR DINNER SECRETS

From Real Housewives to the Presidential Campaign: Ryan Basham on Surviving False Realities of a High-Functioning Alcoholic Mother

Political analyst Ryan Basham discusses addiction recovery and mental health after surviving the "Real Housewives" false realities of his high-functioning alcoholic mother. Imagine finding out the cameras were never there! We're bringing you to the heart of Nashville, inside our studio on Broadway for an in-depth conversation with former Presidential campaign advisor and Out100 honoree Ryan Basham pulls back the curtain on a childhood that was a "rigged script" long before he stepped into the political arena. If you have spent your life playing a part in a story you didn’t write, this conversation is your permission to tear it up. You are not broken—you are becoming. Ryan’s mother was the ultimate high-functioning alcoholic paradox: the charismatic, community-leading PTA President who maintained a polished public image while losing her battle with a bottle every single night. In this fascinating deep-dive, Ryan recounts the "alternate reality" his family was forced to maintain—one where facts were rewritten daily to validate the disease of addiction and protect a public facade of "perfection". This episode explores the psychological gymnastics required in dysfunctional homes and the "invisible" toll of keeping a secret for twenty years. “People become attached to their burdens, sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” — George Bernard Shaw This quote highlights the core "a-ha" moment: we often cling to familiar dysfunction even when it is drowning us . Whether you are navigating your own addiction or are the exhausted "peacekeeper" in a chaotic family script, there is enlightenment waiting. You have the power to stop being a character in someone else’s false reality. ━ ⏰ AUDIO CHAPTERS: 00:00 Life is Too Important to Take Seriously 01:25 Meet Ryan Basham: Out100 & Political Disruptor 04:30 Comedy as a Survival Skill 08:20 Hollywood Hills vs. Small Town Reality 11:05 The High-Functioning Alcoholic Mom Paradox 21:40 The Moment I Realized Mom was an Alcoholic 28:50 Surviving the Alternate Reality: Rewriting Facts 45:50 Shame vs. Accountability: The Mental Health Reframe 51:03 Lethal Love: Why Boundaries are Your "Air Hole" 54:15 Reclaiming Joy: The Ultimate Act of Defiance ━ 📌 TOP 3 TIPS FOR FAMILIES: 1. Stop the Fact-Checking: You cannot cure someone else’s alternate reality. Shift energy to trusting your own internal truth . 2. Prioritize Your "Air Hole": You cannot save someone from a storm if you are drowning alongside them. Support is not enabling . 3. Reclaim Your Joy: Laughter is a biological survival mechanism and an act of defiance against a dysfunctional script . 📌 TOP 3 TIPS FOR THE "BECOMING" PROCESS: 1. Dismantle Shame: Shame is a global attack on who you are; accountability is a focus on what you do . 2. Embrace the Pivot: Your life doesn't have to follow the trajectory set by your trauma. Your most authentic self is found in the "becoming." 3. Refuse to "Shrink to Fit": If your environment requires you to hide your truth, it is the wrong environment. Take up space . ━ 🛟 HELP RESOURCES: 👉 FOR INDIVIDUALS: - Addiction: · https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline [https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline] · 1-800-622-4357 - Mental Health: · https://loveyourmindtoday.org [https://loveyourmindtoday.org] 👉 HELP FOR FAMILIES: - Al-Anon Family Groups · https://al-anon.org [https://al-anon.org] - Smart Recovery Family Support · https://www.smartrecovery.org/family [https://www.smartrecovery.org/family] ━ Follow & Connect ✅ Ryan Basham (Official Guest Links) Instagram: @ryanbasham - https://www.instagram.com/ryanbasham [https://www.instagram.com/ryanbasham] TikTok: @ryanbasham - https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanbasham [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanbasham] YouTube: ⁨@RyanBasham⁩ [https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCQoWWVbFtWYCYEBvXzvre3Q] Web: https://www.ryanbasham.com/ [https://www.ryanbasham.com/] ✅ Patrick Custer (Official Host Links) Instagram: @thepatrickcuster - https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster] TikTok: @thepatrickcuster - https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster] YouTube: ⁨@thepatrickcuster⁩ [https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCOY8vmvYcPU-E0AG8NnXJoQ] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr] ✅ The Patrick Custer Show (Official Show Links) Instagram: @thepatrickcustershow - https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow] TikTok: @thepatrickcustershow - https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww] YouTube: ⁨@ThePatrickCusterShow⁩ [https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCllvE1Xxua-HZ5RHehqSFfQ] Website: https://www.thepatrickcustershow.com/ [https://www.thepatrickcustershow.com/] 🫵 You are not broken; you are becoming. Leave a review and let us know your biggest takeaway! ━ Primary Keywords: addiction recovery, mental health, Ryan Basham, high-functioning alcoholic mother, alcoholism in families, trauma-informed storytelling, childhood trauma recovery. Secondary Keywords: Real Housewives, Bravo TV fans, Andy Cohen, rigged script, NFL script meme, Super Bowl LX, Presidential campaign advisor, political analyst, stand-up comedy, Nashville Broadway studio, Out100, LGBTQ mental health, surviving gaslighting, alternate reality trauma, resilience and reinvention, system disruption.

I Relapsed After 10 Years Sober. (Here's Why)

Corey Warren had it all: money, a family, and 10 years sober. Then he drank one beer. In this episode, Corey joins Patrick Custer to dismantle the myth that you can "outgrow" addiction. We discuss the terrifying speed of his relapse—from one drink at a bar to blacking out daily in just 60 days—and the "successful failure" that nearly cost him his family. Corey reveals the specific moment that broke him: sitting on a luxury boat he bought to win his daughter’s affection, only to hear the six words that money couldn't fix. If you are chasing success to quiet your shame, or navigating the guilt of co-parenting, this conversation is the wake-up call you need. In this episode, we cover: 1. The "10-Year Lie": Why long-term sobriety doesn't mean you're cured. 2. The Boat Story: How trying to buy his daughter's love backfired. 3. The "Radio Glitch": The unexplainable moment that forced Corey back into recovery. 4. "Work Sobriety": Why trading alcohol for 80-hour work weeks is just a different form of sickness. 5. Parenting Through Guilt: How to stop performing for your kids and start connecting with them. Quotes from the episode: > "I bought this boat to make my daughter love me. We were out there, sun shining, and she looked at me and said, 'Dad, I just really miss Mom.' It hit like a ton of bricks." > "I didn't think I was an alcoholic anymore. I thought I was just a guy who used to drink too much. That lie cost me everything." Connect with Corey: 1. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icoreywarren [https://www.instagram.com/icoreywarren] 2. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@icoreywarren [https://www.tiktok.com/@icoreywarren] 3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@icoreywarren [https://www.youtube.com/@icoreywarren] 4. Website: https://www.coreywarren.com [https://www.coreywarren.com] Connect with Patrick: 1. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster/ [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster/] 2. TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster] 3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster [https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster] CHAPTERS: 0:00 - The "Do It For Yourself" Lie 01:16 - Welcome to The Patrick Custer Show 05:20 - "If I Had Cancer, I'd Ask For Help" 11:26 - "Dad, I Need My Tablet": Parenting & Addiction 20:22 - The "Normal Drinker" Jealousy Trap 25:30 - Why You Shouldn't Get Sober "For Yourself" 38:36 - Relapse at 10 Years Sober: From One Beer to Blackouts 46:03 - The "Radio Glitch" (Did God Intervene?) 53:11 - "Work Sobriety": Replacing Vodka with Money 53:51 - The Boat Story: When Money Failed 01:04:17 - What's Next for Corey Warren 01:06:28 - Conclusion: You Are Not Alone Resources (HELP): If you or a loved one is struggling with mental health or addiction, help is available. You are not alone. Call or text 988 (USA) for confidential support. ABOUT THE GUEST: Corey Warren is a recovery advocate, entrepreneur, and the founder of the Rise Recovery Community, one of Michigan’s largest Medicaid-funded recovery housing programs. Known internationally for his viral storytelling and "Hook Point" media strategy, Corey has transformed his life from a convicted "Polite Bandit" facing armed robbery charges to a beacon of hope for millions. His mission is to disrupt the stigma of addiction by blending raw vulnerability with business acumen. Through his work with Hook Point and his "Straight Talk" school programs, Corey helps individuals identify the root causes of their struggles—often stemming from a need for external validation rather than the substance itself.

Andi Marie Tillman: Aunt Pam, Sober Spins & Healing Through the Dogma

Viral comedian Andi Marie Tillman brings Aunt Pam to TPCS to laugh through the dogma and dramatics so many of us grew up in, then sits down for an honest conversation on sobriety, vertigo, and the SNL audition. This is Nashville's podcast, The Patrick Custer Show: the only place on Broadway where shame gets bounced at the door and hope is always on the house. Andi Marie Tillman is the Nashville based comedian, actor, and writer behind Aunt Pam, the gum smacking, tongue speaking Southern auntie who has racked up millions of views on TikTok and Instagram. In this episode she walks us through the audition she nailed for Saturday Night Live while the room was literally spinning from a major vertigo episode, the heart condition that meant beta blockers were not an option, what real codependency recovery looks like, why she chose gratitude over regret about the year she lost, and the husband she calls "velvet, oak table." She also debuts a new character on the spot at Patrick's request. In this conversation: The Aunt Pam character and the speaking in tongues bit. Andi Marie's Saturday Night Live audition during a major vertigo episode. The heart condition that ruled out beta blockers. Codependency recovery and people pleasing in adulthood. Choosing gratitude over the year she thought she would have. The Victorian Woman character born live on the show. Who do we owe an explanation to? Nobody. Patrick's closing line: you are only one decision away from a completely different life. THE PATRICK CUSTER SHOW: Instagram: @thepatrickcustershow [https://instagram.com/thepatrickcustershow] TikTok: @thepatrickcustershow [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcustershow] Facebook: The Patrick Custer Show [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcustershoww] Apple Podcasts: LISTEN HERE [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-patrick-custer-show/id1855480220] Spotify: LISTEN HERE [https://open.spotify.com/show/5ciCkeb799tKuE87nn0SfI] YouTube: @thepatrickcustershow [https://www.youtube.com/@ThePatrickCusterShow] Website: www.thepatrickcustershow.com [https://www.thepatrickcustershow.com] PATRICK: Instagram: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.instagram.com/thepatrickcuster] TikTok: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepatrickcuster] Facebook: Patrick Custer [https://www.facebook.com/thepatrickcusterr] YouTube: @thepatrickcuster [https://www.youtube.com/@thepatrickcuster] Website: www.patrickcustermedia.com [https://www.patrickcustermedia.com] ANDI MARIE TILLMAN: Instagram: @andimarietillman [https://www.instagram.com/andimarietillman/] TikTok: @andimariere [about:blank] Patreon: AndiMarie [https://www.patreon.com/AndiMarie/membership] YouTube: @andimarietillman [https://www.youtube.com/@andimarietillman] Merch [https://thesleepyholler.com/] <- Website: https://linktr.ee/andimarie [https://linktr.ee/andimarie] BOOKING AND PRESS: contact@patrickcustermedia.com