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What Happens When You Don't Know Yourself Before Getting Into a Relationship

26 min · 28. maj 2026
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Why do you keep ending up in situationships? Why does it feel like you are running out of time?  This week Mauri goes solo to answer the questions about dating, standards, knowing yourself, money and power in relationships, and why being in your 30s without a ring or a baby does not mean you are behind.  🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1 #situationship  #datingadvice  #knowyourworth  #blackwomenpodcast  #selfworth  #womenempowerment  #datingstandards  #financialindependence  #relationshipadvice  #youdeservebetter  #datinginyour20s  #datinginyour30s #podcastforwomen  #singleandthriving

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