The Psychology of your 20s

437. The psychology behind feeling 'too much'

😂148 min · 9. juli 2026
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At some point in most of our lives, most of us have felt that we are ‘too much’. We might feel that we are too loud, have too many opinions, are too extroverted, too needy, or generally take up too much emotional ‘space’. In this episode, we explore what this feels like when it bleeds into our personal and professional lives, the impact of suppressing emotions upon our immune system, and look at some methods to unlearn and reconfigure our relationship with the ‘too much’ label. We unpack:  • Why society likes to shame people who are confident and outspoken • The psychology of ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome’, and why women are particularly vulnerable  • How being shamed and shut down as children makes us feel ‘too much’ later in life • The link between suppressing our emotions and our immune system • How we can unlearn the belief that we are ‘too much’ Watch on Netflix: HERE [https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s] Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg [https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#] Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s [https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s] For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com [psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com]  Our favourite sources:  https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_are_confident_people_so_polarizing [https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_are_confident_people_so_polarizing] https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4212945/ [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4212945/] https://www.instagram.com/p/DXo5rB3jtOe/?img_index=20&igsh=emNnMDNlZzFoeDZm [https://www.instagram.com/p/DXo5rB3jtOe/?img_index=20&igsh=emNnMDNlZzFoeDZm] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

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