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Where's the Pain - Why Christian Men Keep Going Back to Porn

24 min · 16. juni 2026
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You've been asking the wrong question. Most guys want to know why they're addicted. Why they can't stop. Why they keep going back even when they hate it. But addiction expert Gabor Maté says that's not the question. The real question is: *Where's the pain?* Because porn isn't the disease. It's the solution your brain found for a problem you've never named. In this episode, Michael walks through the machine underneath porn use, why willpower will never be enough, and how to rewrite the equation your brain has been running for years. Take the Pressure Assessor:  https://rscky.com/pressure-lp  Learn more: https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

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Pastors Struggling With Porn—You Don't Have to Do This Alone

You're a pastor. You know the verses. You've preached them. And you still can't stop going to porn. It's not because you're weak or disqualified. What you're carrying is a trust problem downstream of relational pain—and shame is keeping you from the connection that could actually set you free. In this episode, Michael and Nick speak directly to pastors and men in ministry who've carried a secret sexual struggle. They talk about the unique shame pastors face, why the isolation compounds the cycle, and what it actually looks like to step out of hiding and into healing—without your entire life falling apart. **Take the Pressure Assessor:** https://rscky.com/pressure-lp **Learn more:** https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

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Where's the Pain - Why Christian Men Keep Going Back to Porn

You've been asking the wrong question. Most guys want to know why they're addicted. Why they can't stop. Why they keep going back even when they hate it. But addiction expert Gabor Maté says that's not the question. The real question is: *Where's the pain?* Because porn isn't the disease. It's the solution your brain found for a problem you've never named. In this episode, Michael walks through the machine underneath porn use, why willpower will never be enough, and how to rewrite the equation your brain has been running for years. Take the Pressure Assessor:  https://rscky.com/pressure-lp  Learn more: https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

16. juni 202624 min
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Why You Can't Stop Porn Without Dealing With What's Underneath

You've been fighting porn for years. Maybe decades. Accountability software, men's groups, therapy, streaks that fell apart. You're starting to wonder if something's fundamentally broken in you. Here's what nobody's told you: porn isn't the problem. It's what's on the surface. The real work is underneath. In this episode, I walk you through the four-part framework I use with every man I coach: Pain, Pressure, Pattern, and Path. You'll hear the story of a man who carried a wound for 26 years and what finally changed when he stopped fighting the symptom and started tending the root. If you're tired of white-knuckling your way through another failed streak, listen to this. **Take the Pressure Assessor:** https://rscky.com/pressure-lp **Learn more:** https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

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You've probably heard that quitting porn is a "Christian morality thing." But what if Terry Crews, Billie Eilish, Steve-O, and Pamela Anderson—people who don't all share a religious worldview—are all saying porn wrecked their relationships, escalated into something they didn't recognize, and left them more isolated than ever? In this episode, Michael and Nick unpack three things celebrities keep naming: porn turns people into objects, it escalates endlessly, and it cuts you off from real connection. If you thought you were alone in this, you're not. And if you've been trying to white-knuckle your way out, there's a deeper issue underneath. **Take the Pressure Assessor:** https://rscky.com/pressure-lp **Learn more:** https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

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You've said you're sorry. You've prayed. You've promised yourself you won't go back. And then you did. Again. If you keep relapsing even when you mean it when you say you're sorry, the problem isn't that you didn't try hard enough. The problem is that what you think repentance is might not actually be repentance at all. Michael and Nick walk through the difference between regret and remorse, rationalization and reliance—and what true repentance actually looks like for Christian men trying to quit porn. You'll learn why behavior change without relational repair is just another form of isolation, and why connection, not perfection, is the path forward. Take the Pressure Assessor - https://rscky.com/pressure-lp  Learn more - https://rscky.com Looking for help? Hit us up here. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2598436/fan_mail/new] Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care helps men get past willpower and behavior management to the root — the pain, pressure, and disconnection underneath the pattern. Hosted by Michael Kamber and Nick Buda. START HERE → Take the free Pressure Assessor and find out what's actually driving your pattern: https://rscky.com/pressure [https://rscky.com/pressure] → New to the work? Start here: https://rscky.com/g [https://rscky.com/quitporn]et-started GO DEEPER → Work with Michael, 1-on-1 or in a group: https://rscky.com [https://rscky.com] IF THIS HELPED Follow the show so you don't miss an episode, and send it to one man who needs to hear it. CONNECT Instagram: https://instagram.com/mikekamber [https://instagram.com/mikekamber] & https://instagram.com/nickwbuda [https://instagram.com/nickwbuda] YouTube: https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC [https://youtube.com/@Michael-RSC] Email: info@rscky.com [info@rscky.com]

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