That Which Is Normal To You Will Find You

That Which Is Normal To You Will Find You

Whatever is normal to you will find you. If stress and hardship feel normal, that's what keeps showing up. If ease and open doors feel normal, that's what finds you instead. In this episode, we break down how your subconscious mind works like a thermostat — holding whatever "normal" you set, whether you chose it on purpose or picked it up along the way. In this episode: * Why your normal didn't just happen to you — you picked it up, and it became wired into your subconscious * How your words become instructions your brain follows, not just descriptions of how things are * Why focusing on what you don't want trains your brain to keep finding it * The three systems running your reality behind the scenes: the RAS, the Default Mode Network, and the amygdala * Isaiah 55:11 — why God's Word does not return void, and what that means for what you speak over your life * This week's practice: a seven-day exercise to install a new fixed thought through repetition, not one dramatic act   Next Steps — The Seven-Day Practice: Becoming is built through repetition, not one dramatic act. Here's the week ahead: Day 1: Write one paragraph, present tense, describing the person you need to become to hold the outcome you're asking for — not the outcome itself. Day 2: Pull the single strongest sentence from that paragraph. This becomes your fixed thought for the week. Days 2–7: Speak that sentence out loud, first person, present tense, morning and night — standing, with conviction, not muttered. Somewhere this week: Make one decision your old identity would have avoided, the way the person in your paragraph would make it. When a contradicting moment shows up: Treat it as your old root system's last resistance, not proof the sentence is false. Repeat the sentence in that moment and keep moving. Day 4: Check yourself — are you speaking the sentence for two minutes, then spending the rest of the day rehearsing the old evidence? If so, that's exactly where to focus for the rest of the week. Day 7: Don't expect the whole tree to have changed. Expect the sentence to feel slightly less untrue. Keep it going next week if it still has more to give, or write a new paragraph and choose a new sentence.   Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832] Join the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 [https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9]

Why Fear Comes Back Even After being Brave

This is one of our most listened-to episodes, so we're bringing it back this week for anyone who missed it the first time. What happens when you take the first brave step, and then fear shows up again? In this episode, Kelli answers the question she's been hearing from listeners all week: "How do I keep going?"   This conversation explores why fear often returns after courage, drawing on neuroscience, nervous system alignment, and the way professional athletes train their bodies through repetition.   Kelli walks through how real change happens through familiarity rather than force, and shares the Daily Courage Reset, a simple, repeatable practice you can return to when fear gets loud again.   In this episode: * Why courage doesn't stick after a single moment * How repetition teaches the nervous system safety * The difference between intention and identity * Why rhythm matters more than intensity * How small, repeatable actions reshape who you become * The Daily Courage Reset practice   Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes.   Loved this episode? Join our free Facebook community for more conversations like this: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832] Want episodes delivered straight to your inbox? Join the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 [https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9]

The Power of Paradigms: What They Are, Where Yours Came From, and How to Shift Them

If you've done the personal growth work — read the books, said the affirmations, made real progress — and still keep landing back at the same income ceiling, the same relationship pattern, the same self-sabotage, this episode explains why. It's neuroscience, and it's called a paradigm. In this episode, you'll learn: * What a paradigm actually is — a multitude of ideas fixed in your subconscious mind — and why willpower alone can't override it   * How your paradigm and your brain's reticular activating system (RAS) work together to filter what you notice and what you miss   * What predictive coding is and how your brain fills in reality the same way it fills in a missing word in a sentence   * Where your paradigm actually came from — your genetics, your environment, your family, and what went into your subconscious mind before you could filter any of it   * Why your capacity was never the problem, and what it means that you were made in the image and likeness of God   * Why your paradigm is the single thing standing between you and your goals — and how shifting it changes everything downstream   * The 7 Ways to Shift Your Paradigm — a practical, step-by-step process you can start using today   Ready to go deeper? Join our free Facebook community for weekly identity and paradigm work: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832]   Want to stay close to what's next? Get on the email list: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 [https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9]

How to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind and Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs for Good

How to Rewire Your Subconscious Mind and Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs Here's something most people never stop to consider: your subconscious mind drives 95% of your decisions and your emotions. If you don't understand that you actually have two brains running your life — not one — this could be exactly why you keep ending up stuck in the same patterns, no matter how hard you try to think your way out. In this episode, Kelli breaks down the real difference between your conscious and subconscious mind — why one is slow and conceptual while the other is lightning-fast, automatic, and wired directly into your autonomic nervous system. You'll learn how limiting beliefs actually get installed through a process called automaticity, why some beliefs take longer to remove than others, and the one distinction that determines whether you ever actually change: the difference between being interested in releasing a belief and being committed to it. If you've done the personal growth work, read the books, and still feel the same patterns running underneath the surface, this episode gives you the missing piece. In this episode: — Why your subconscious mind controls 95% of your decisions and emotions — The real difference between your conscious brain and your subconscious brain — How your autonomic nervous system runs automatically, even while you sleep — What automaticity is, and how it explains why limiting beliefs feel impossible to "think" your way out of — Why some limiting beliefs take longer to remove than others — The critical difference between being interested and being committed — and which one you're actually living in — What it really takes to replace an old automatic pattern with a new one Connect with Kelli: Join the Resurrection Room Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832] Get on the email list for more identity, neuroscience, and nervous system insights: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 If this episode gave you language for something you've felt but couldn't explain, share it with the woman in your life who needs it — and leave a review to get The Resurrection Room to more beautiful souls, just like you.

The Science of Manifestation, Fear, and the Buffalo Principle

Did you know that when buffalo sense a storm coming, they run toward it? Other animals turn and run the other way — trying to outrun something that is already faster than them. Buffalo run straight through it and come out the other side in a fraction of the time. Most people handle hard seasons the way other animals handle storms. They avoid the hard conversation, delay the decision, hope the pressure passes on its own. And in doing that, they stay inside the storm far longer than they need to. In this episode, Kelli Shaw breaks down what manifestation actually is — not the vision board version, but the neuroscience version — and why the challenge you are walking through today may be the very thing building your capacity to hold what you have been asking for. In this episode: — Why your brain is a prediction engine, not a receiving dish, and what that means for manifestation — The reticular activating system and how identity retrains your brain's filter for what it notices — Why your brain resists new things, even good ones, and how fear quietly blocks the bigger life from registering as safe — The buffalo principle: why running toward difficulty shortens your time in it — If you knew you had to get through 30 no's before your first yes, how fast would you be trying to get through the 30 no's? — A 3-step practice to start moving toward the storm instead of away from it Resources mentioned: Lisa Feldman Barrett — predictive brain research Reticular Activating System — selective attention and identity "Neurons that fire together, wire together" — Hebbian learning principle JOIN THE COMMUNITY The Resurrection Room community is where this work continues beyond the podcast. Come connect with women who are doing the same identity work, share what this episode brought up for you, and stay in the room. 👉 Join the Facebook community here: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588999984832] STAY CONNECTED Want tools, reflections, and resources delivered straight to your inbox? Join the email list and stay connected to the work between episodes. 👉 Join the email list here: https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9 [https://kelli-shaw.kit.com/32980db5e9] Identity shapes your perception. Your perception dictates your behavior. Your behavior drives your actions. And your actions create your outcomes. — Kelli Shaw, The Resurrection Room