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Why People Pursue Affairs

5 min · 4. juli 2026
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A lot of the reason why people have affairs isn’t to do with random excess horniness. It’s do to with issues of closeness and distance. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/thDUP Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/ls0N5 FURTHER READING “Too often, affairs are seen as the outcome of random horniness – or just plain old nastiness. That’s very rarely the case. When it comes to affairs, we spend far too long being incensed or secretive, and far too little time trying to understand. In truth, affairs stem from a very fiddly aspect of our romantic psychology…” You can read more on this here: https://goo.gl/CfK2wk MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE More films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist below: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships Do you speak a different language to English? Did you know you can submit Subtitles on all of our videos on YouTube? For instructions how to do this click here: https://goo.gl/sXJqFn SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Zedem Media http://www.zedemanimations.com #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

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