Setting Boundaries and Protecting My Peace | The Things I Have Stopped Apologizing For

You Have to Be Delusional Enough to Believe It Before It Happens

When Brandi quit her job in 2017, she was pregnant with her second child. Casey was a non-rate in the Coast Guard making the least amount of money possible. They lived in a tiny apartment in Pensacola they called the Raisin Box. And not a single person in her life was willing to look her in the eyes and say: do it. It is going to be okay. So she did it anyway. In Episode 10 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi is talking directly to the person who is struggling to keep going. The one who is distracted, comparing herself, and unsure whether what God called her to is even real. The one who is waiting for someone to tell her it is okay to take the leap. Brandi is going to be that person today. She talks through quitting her job, the Lira hair launch, being delusional enough to believe before it happens, why consistency beats talent every single time, and what ten years of ordinary moments have built into something only God could have designed. In this episode: • Quitting her job pregnant with no safety net and nobody telling her it was okay • Why consistency will take you further than any talent you have • You have to be delusional enough to believe it before it happens • The difference between fake it till you make it and embodying the habits of success • You will be the only thing that stops you — not the market, not the algorithm • Why she hid her business milestones and stopped celebrating her own success • Scarcity mindset, therapy, and rewiring her relationship with money • God will give you the tools, the money, and the strength — if it is His will • If it feels forced, it is probably not for you — here is how to tell the difference • Launching Lira: the hair company and what Lira means in Hebrew • Your future success is built on ordinary moments, not one big breakthrough • Stop comparing your process to someone else's calling New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜 📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi 🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com #takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #consistencyovertalent #doit scared #faithandbusiness #christianwomen #mompreneur #womenentrepreneurs #personalgrowth #faithjourney 0:00 Consistency will take you further than any talent 0:52 Welcome: Brandi introduces herself and the Lira hair launch 1:59 Speaking to the person who is struggling to keep going 2:30 The Raisin Box in Pensacola: quitting her job in 2017 3:56 Nobody was willing to tell her it was going to be okay 4:52 I am going to be the one to tell you: do it 6:02 Ships in the night with Casey and why she took the leap 7:12 The validation you need is already inside you 7:55 You will be the only thing that stops you 8:48 Be delusional enough to believe it before it happens 9:20 Embody the habits not fake it till you make it 13:00 Hiding her own milestones and dimming her success 15:00 Your calling is not their calling — stop comparing 18:00 Scarcity mindset, therapy, and rewiring her money relationship 22:00 If it feels forced it is probably not for you 26:00 The rolling ball: how to know when God is in it 29:45 They are called to something different — let that be on them 31:10 Scarcity says this is as good as it gets 32:12 God called her to rest and she finally listened 32:55 Get consistent with the one thing God is calling you to 33:34 Your future is built on ordinary moments not one big breakthrough 34:12 Closing: everything you need is already in you Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com [https://atlpodcastpros.com]

Setting Boundaries and Protecting My Peace | The Things I Have Stopped Apologizing For

Have you ever noticed how often women say sorry? Sorry I'm late. Sorry I need help. Sorry for asking. Sorry for being emotional. Somewhere along the way we were conditioned to apologize for taking up space. And in Episode 9 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi is done. This is the list of things she has stopped apologizing for. And she wants you to stop apologizing for them too. She opens with the difference between being kind and abandoning yourself. She talks through protecting her peace, saying no with her chest, outgrowing people and seasons, dimming her ambition because she felt guilty about her own success, and the moment she realized her faith creates a divide and she is okay with that. She closes with Galatians 1:10 — am I trying to win the approval of human beings or of God? In this episode: • Why women are conditioned to over-apologize and over-explain • Protecting your peace is not selfish — it is good stewardship of what God gave you • Not every conversation and not every opinion deserves access to you • No is a full sentence. No explanation required. • Every yes is a no to something else — and that matters • Outgrowing people, places, and seasons — and why it comes with grief • Dimming your ambition because you feel guilty about your own success • What agape love actually means and how it changes the way you serve • Galatians 1:10: am I trying to win the approval of people or of God • Stop making everyone else so comfortable that you live uncomfortably in your own skin • Life is short. You are not promised tomorrow. Say it with your chest. New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜 📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi 🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com #takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #unapologeticallyme #settingboundaries #christianwomen #noisasentence #protectyourpeace #mompreneur #womenempowerment #galatians110 0:00 Cold open: have you noticed how often women apologize 0:57 Welcome and today's topic: the things I stopped apologizing for 1:38 Empathy as a gift and how it becomes a trap 2:54 I will not apologize for protecting my peace 3:57 Not every opinion deserves access to you 4:45 Saying no without apologizing for it 5:52 Every yes is a no to something else 7:14 Did God ask you to carry this? Ask before you say yes. 7:55 Outgrowing people, places, and seasons 10:00 Grief that comes with outgrowing — and why it is necessary 12:00 Not apologizing for your faith 16:00 Agape: sacrificial love without expectation 21:55 What favor from God actually looks like 24:10 Not apologizing for being ambitious 25:33 Giving other women permission to go after something bigger 26:42 Closing: what are you still apologizing for that you should not be 28:27 Galatians 1:10: approval of people or of God 29:07 Stop apologizing for taking up space — say it with your chest Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com [https://atlpodcastpros.com]

Check on Your Strong Friends - They Are Probably Just Surviving

When you are a good swimmer, nobody can tell when you are drowning. If that hit you, this episode is for you. In Episode 8 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi gets into something most strong women carry in silence: the loneliness of being the one everyone relies on. The one who has the answer. The one who keeps the schedule, holds the household, leads the team, shows up consistently, and somehow never gets asked how she is really doing. Brandi also opens up about losing Casey's Papa, launching her hair company Lira, the scarcity mindset she has carried since childhood, her ADHD, and what it has taken to finally learn that rest is not a reward — it is a requirement. In this episode: • The loneliness of being the strong one and why people stop checking on you • When you are a good swimmer nobody can tell when you are drowning • Scarcity mindset, ADHD, and the triple threat of being a high-achieving woman • Launching Lira: the hair company backed by the founders of Unique • Why rest is not earned — it is what you achieve from • The self-imposed pressure that does not actually come from anyone else • How Casey told her he has never doubted her — and what that unlocked • Checking on your strong friends: they are probably just surviving • Even Jesus set boundaries, rested, and said no — and we forget that • The GLOW prayer framework: Gratitude, Let it out, Own your desires, Wait • Matthew 11:28 — come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest • Your permission slip to lay it down, rest, and stop being the strong one today New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜 📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi 🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com #takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #thestrength #checkonyourfrends #christianwomen #mompreneur #restisrequired #womenempowerment #faithjourney #millennialmom 0:00 Welcome back and who Brandi is 1:02 Taking time off: Disney, 30A, and losing Papa 2:15 Being the strong one and nobody checking on you 3:36 When you are a good swimmer nobody can tell when you are drowning 4:40 The loneliness of being the strong one 5:32 Showing up for ten years while nobody asked how you were doing 6:36 Holding it together with a tiny string 7:30 Check on the strong ones in your life 8:15 Scarcity mindset and ADHD as superpower and weakness 9:27 From 100K to 15 million in sales and still not celebrating 10:21 Launching Lira and the negative comments that fired Brandi up 11:31 Rest is not earned — it is what you achieve from 12:26 Carrying the burden of being the one everyone looks to 14:06 Ten years in network marketing and always having the right reaction 15:50 It is okay to not be the strong one sometimes 16:23 Casey was the sole provider for six years — the role reversal 20:18 God rewards you when you take time to rest and process 20:46 Even Jesus rested, set limits, and said no 21:49 The pressure is kind of made up 22:52 Casey said he has never doubted her — and what that changed 24:08 Holding it in causes resentment in marriage 25:46 Align me Jesus — the prayer that cuts through the noise 26:52 The GLOW framework: Gratitude, Let it out, Own your desires, Wait 28:10 What this episode is meant to give you permission to do 28:51 You can still be the strong one after you rest 29:39 Taking a Sabbath feels lazy — but it is obedience 30:08 Your permission slip: pause, reflect, and check on your people 31:15 Check in on your husband too 33:15 Matthew 11:28: come to me all who are weary 34:00 Lay one thing down and rest — closing word Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com [https://atlpodcastpros.com]

Behind the Highlight Reel: The Fear Nobody Talks About When You Are Growing

Here is the truth about growth that nobody posts on social media. It is terrifying. In Episode 7 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi gets into the biggest transitional period of her career and her life. Since January her nervous system has been in fight-or-flight mode. She is launching a hair company. Her supplement company is dropping four new products and exploring a major partnership. And the platform she has built her entire career on, network marketing, is being reinvented from the ground up. This episode is for every woman in a transitional season who is scared to take the next step. The woman who sees people succeeding online and assumes they have it figured out. They do not. Brandi does not either. And she is showing you what it looks like to keep moving through it anyway. In this episode: • The CEO meeting in Utah that changed everything • Komigo becoming Curated: what the rebrand means and why Brandi is all in • Launching a hair company and four new supplement products simultaneously • What network marketing is being replaced with and why Brandi is not walking away • Imposter syndrome: the world's worst case of it and why every successful person has it too • High performers are just as scared as you. They have just figured out how to keep moving. • Motivation is a feeling. Discipline is a decision. The difference matters. • God will close the door if you are not meant to walk through it, and sometimes He will not and it becomes a lesson • Peace that makes no sense: leaning into Philippians 4 and faith in chaos • Agape love, sacrificial service, and showing up for others even when you are scared • Big risk, big win or big lesson: you have nothing to lose New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜 📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi 🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com fear of failure women | imposter syndrome entrepreneur | how to keep going when scared | network marketing rebrand | faith in transition | Christian women podcast | mompreneur mindset | personal growth podcast women | taking the next step in business | Brandi Raines podcast 0:00 Intro 0:49 Welcome back 1:45 Building on social media since 2017: live video, makeup tutorials, and creative outlet 2:31 Right now: the biggest transitional period of Brandi's life 3:07 Marriage is in a great place. Business is a whole other story. 5:19 What is happening right now: new hair company, supplement partnership, Vision Summit 5:55 Flying to Utah: Vision Summit January, excited, on an all time high 6:22 How Komigo started 7:12 Curated: the new platform, new name, what it means going forward 7:33 Vision Summit announcement 7:55 The private CEO meeting after the Summit 8:21 My world was flipped upside down 8:54 Network marketing is changing: affiliate marketing, TikTok Shop, coaching competition 9:16 I love network marketing: but the industry had to evolve to survive 10:25 Vision Summit part two: Curated announced to the field 12:20 Fight or flight since January 13:43 Creator-led brands: why today's consumer wants what Curated is building 14:06 Layering on the supplement company: four new products, peptides, partnership conversations 15:55 High performers are just as scared 16:26 Opening the Bible every day out loud 17:40 Will Smith on failure 18:14 Do it until failure: the gym analogy and the burnout set that makes you grow 23:54 The world's worst imposter syndrome 24:58 Cannot cling to old seasons 25:24 Times are changing: how to evolve without losing what you came from 27:45 The road less traveled 28:05 Ask God for what you need each day 28:33 Joy in chaos peace that makes no sense 29:12 Peace is not certainty 30:01 Close your eyes and ask God for peace in the chaos: He will give it to you 30:50 You inspire people just by showing up 31:14 Sacrificial love without expectation 31:40 Ten out of ten do not get a tattoo in Mexico: the anniversary story 32:04 Agape as a model for marriage and for life: servant heart to everyone not just a spouse 32:48 Being a light of God through the hard times: if not for yourself then for others 33:21 What if you do not fail: what if you fly, what if this is the choice that changes your life 34:05 My story is your story 37:03 Hard seasons are the soil: where God plants you to grow the next version of yourself 37:43 Believe God has got your back: He takes care of the birds, why not you 38:42 Closing: #takinglifebytheraines#brandiraines#fearoffailure#impostersyndrome#christianwomen#mompreneur#faithintransition#personalgrowth#womenentrepreneurs#millennialmom Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com [https://atlpodcastpros.com]

I Did Not Want Kids. Then God Said Otherwise

A year before I got pregnant with Riley, I said out loud that I did not want kids anytime soon. Three months into dating Casey, I was standing in a CVS bathroom with a pregnancy test on my lunch break. Here is the thing about motherhood. Nothing prepares you for it. Not one single thing. And in Episode 6, I am getting into all of it. The unexpected pregnancy I could not tell anyone about for two and a half months while Casey was away at boot camp. The night Casey and I stood in our living room holding Riley and just sobbed. The moment that motherly instinct clicked and I knew I was going to be okay. The way God used my kids to break me free from every trauma I had been carrying. I also talk about something I have never shared publicly: my ADHD diagnosis in ninth grade, being put on 50mg of Adderall a day as a teenager, and then being given Ambien to sleep at night on top of it. How cold turkey stopping when I graduated contributed to my weight gain, my mood swings, and why I started my own supplement company years later. And why, as a mom now, I will never just accept what a doctor hands my kids without asking every question first. I also cover: • How motherhood completely rewires your brain and your hustle • What to do when you feel like you are drowning in the overwhelm • The mom guilt trap and why you have got to stop comparing yourself to other moms • What it means to pour into your marriage while raising kids • The 7-7-12 rule for staying connected to your spouse • How to advocate for your kids when every doctor is pushing medication • Functional mushrooms, holistic pediatricians, and what changed everything for my family • And the word every tired, overwhelmed, doing-her-best mom needs to hear today New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜 📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines: Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/ TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebythera Facebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/ 📲 Follow Brandi: Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/ TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeauty Facebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/ About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_ Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi 🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com 0:00 Welcome back 0:53 Christians are not perfect: social media lies and real redemption 1:45 Tonight's topic: motherhood, how it changes you in ways nobody warns you about 2:13 One year before getting pregnant: I said I do not want kids 2:48 Meeting Casey in March 2015 3:30 Stone Mountain date night 4:02 Growing up with trauma 4:51 Mental health then vs. now 5:41 What Brandi loves and does not love about today's culture 6:02 Casey goes to boot camp 6:49 Gina from the office: the first person she told 7:08 Keeping it secret for two and a half months while Casey was at boot camp 7:59 Cape May, New Jersey: the trip where she finally told him 8:38 The whirlwind: young, scared, minimal money, just started dating 9:02 When you find your person 9:54 You guys are going to be fine 10:10 Moving to Pensacola pregnant: God breaking her free from past trauma 10:42 What nobody warns you about parenthood 11:09 The second night home with Riley: standing in the living room sobbing 11:50 The Holy Spirit in that moment 12:13 Motherly instinct clicks 12:47 The strength motherhood gave her 13:07 Wait for the one: why your spouse matters more than you know when kids come 13:49 The mental load of motherhood 14:09 Speaking to the overwhelmed mom 15:06 Your heavenly Father wants to carry the stress: let Him 15:35 Coming from trauma 16:13 Keeping up with the Joneses 17:05 The mental load unpacked 35:27 Approaching your spouse for support 35:52 Give exact examples 36:36 Pouring back into your marriage 37:13 The 7-7-12 rule 38:12 The car ride story 39:10 Becoming roommates with your spouse 39:40 Inner healing makes vulnerable conversations possible 40:33 Make time for your marriage now 40:58 ADHD diagnosis in ninth grade 42:26 Prescribed Adderall 43:38 50mg of Adderall a day 44:26 Then they gave her Ambien to sleep 44:51 Cold turkey at graduation 45:17 Why she started a supplement company 45:43 Holistic pediatrician, blood work, zero Flintstone vitamins 46:13 What she wishes somebody had advocated for her 47:01 Pushing back on Big Pharma 48:38 Small tweaks in diet that transformed her kids 49:05 God made you the perfect mother for your children 50:07 God slowed them down and gave them babies 50:45 From mama heart to mama heart 51:38 Closing: finish the Poppi motherhood podcast | becoming a mom changed me | ADHD medication kids | unexpected pregnancy story | mom guilt | holistic parenting podcast | Christian mom podcast | millennial mom | marriage and kids | Brandi Raines podcast #takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #motherhoodpodcast #momguilt #christianmom #millennialmom #holisticparenting #adhdmom #marriageandkids #faithjourney Powered by ATL Podcast Pros https://atlpodcastpros.com [https://atlpodcastpros.com]