The Unreasonable Art of Living

#96 - The One With Our Founding Member Emily Cabrera

1 h 19 min · 5. maj 2026
episode #96 - The One With Our Founding Member Emily Cabrera cover

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You can listen to this episode on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/15gGLyolKyEchygdbyJnOk], and Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unreasonable-art-of-living/id1692006683] for audio only. Emily Cabrera, founding member, lawyer-turned-AI-agent-builder, and certified adaptivist, joins us for the first-ever member episode of The Unreasonable Art of Living Eleven Dunbar series. We go deep on the renaissance of the human as ever-evolving adaptivist, why safety is the precondition for creativity, and what it means to stop explaining yourself to the world. This one’s warm, funny, and genuinely hard to stop listening to. You can also watch it on YouTube: Join Eleven Dunbar as an Early Bird We opened 20 spots for the Eleven Dunbar [https://elevendunbar.com/] non-founding member round. We’re looking for the engineer who secretly writes poetry. The leader/CEO who wants to learn how to play again. The artist who is curious about how AI can expand their soul’s expression. Apply here: https://elevendunbar.com/ [https://elevendunbar.com/] We look forward to hearing from you! Get full access to The Unreasonable Art of Living at www.howtounreasonable.com/subscribe [https://www.howtounreasonable.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

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