EP 9: Inside Bi Fuck Fest: 21 Years of Bi Male Community, Culture & Access

EP 9: Inside Bi Fuck Fest: 21 Years of Bi Male Community, Culture & Access

For over two decades, Bi Fuck Fest has existed in bi male spaces as something almost mythical. Some people don’t believe it’s real. Others believe it’s real but have no idea how to find it. In this episode, we sit down with the third owner and current organizer of Bi Fuck Fest to talk about its 21-year history, how it began, what a multi-day BFF experience looks like, and how the vetting process works. We cover: • The origin story of BFF • What first-timers can expect • The culture and structure of the event • How discretion and safety are handled • How someone can request access and be considered Links to the official group pages and application paths are included in the show notes below. This conversation isn’t about hype. It’s about transparency, legacy, and why dedicated spaces for bi men still matter. To contact the organizer for consideration to join BFF simply join and log into any one of the swing lifestyle sites below and contact them under username CUTEONES. Kasidie [https://www.kasidie.com/site/routes/register.html] ****For the first month of free full access to Kasidie.com use the code CUTEONES The Lifestyle Lounge Memberships [https://www.the-lifestyle-lounge.com/membership] Signup Page - SDC.com [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=RMID23&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=77923577&gbraid=0AAAAAD_FLKkVPL-Lzg46TFa9wbhiaDvmj&gclid=Cj0KCQiA5I_NBhDVARIsAOrqIsYXjwgSyLmbHRtdvLKqZJq8doppLJPv8glPf6JyAGiR9wHDhoc_qrgaAlHJEALw_wcB] To contact the organizer to join BFF on the following platforms, use the username CUTEONES1 Swingers Lifestyle Community | Adult Personals | Clubs & Events [https://www.swinglifestyle.com/] FetLife: World's Largest BDSM, Kink, and Fetish Community | FetLife [https://fetlife.com/] Connect with us!! We want to hear from you! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX [https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Join Our Subreddit Community to connect with us and with other listeners! See you there!! https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup [https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup] Looking for more information on mixed-orientation relationships? You can explore helpful resources at MORandMore.org 👉 https://MORandMore.org [https://MORandMore.org] Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!! ***Everyone will remain anonymous*** Email -> UnitedBiSwinging@gmail.com Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :) **What We Talk About on this Podcast** - Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle - How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding - Building a stronger, more open community together Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts. Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

Bottoms, Tops and Toys - Oh My!

Anal play doesn’t have to be intimidating, awkward, or painful — when done right, it can be safe, fun, and incredibly connecting. In this episode, Rob shares his journey with toys and bottoming, while Ashley dives into topping, pegging, and what every partner should know to make it enjoyable for everyone. We also talk about safety, quality products, and why patience and communication change everything. Whether you’re curious, brand new, or already exploring — this episode is for you. FUTURE METHOD — ANAL HEALTH ESSENTIALS We only recommend products we genuinely trust and when it comes to anal health and play, Future Method is at the top of our list. Future Method was created by Dr. Evan Goldstein, an anal health surgeon focused on safe, body-aware products designed specifically for anal play. If you’re going to explore, do it the right way. Shop here: https://future-method.myshopify.com/?rfsn=8946342.d04b83&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8946342.d04b83 [https://future-method.myshopify.com/?rfsn=8946342.d04b83&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8946342.d04b83] Use code: UBIS Preparation. Patience. The right products. Connect with us!! We want to hear from you! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX [https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Join Our Subreddit Community to connect with us and with other listeners! See you there!! https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup [https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup] Looking for more information on mixed-orientation relationships? You can explore helpful resources at MORandMore.org 👉 https://MORandMore.org [https://MORandMore.org] Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!! ***Everyone will remain anonymous*** Email -> UnitedBiSwinging@gmail.com Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :) **What We Talk About on this Podcast** - Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle - How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding - Building a stronger, more open community together Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts. Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

Our First Bi Swing: What Went Right, What Went Wrong

In this episode, we share our first swing experience with a fully bisexual couple. We talk about what went right, what went wrong, and what we learned navigating a scenario where the men were also having sex. It was Rob’s first time being with a man in front of me, and we break down the emotions, communication, and takeaways. We also announce our new affiliation with Future Method and tease next week’s deep dive into anal play, pegging, safety, and preparation. **** We’re excited to share that we’re now affiliated with Future Method, a brand focused on safe, intentional anal play and preparation. If you’re curious about learning your body, training safely, or exploring pegging or MM play, check them out. **** Use our link or code below to save 15%: 👉 Link: https://future-method.myshopify.com/?rfsn=8946342.d04b83&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8946342.d04b83 [https://future-method.myshopify.com/?rfsn=8946342.d04b83&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8946342.d04b83] 👉 Code: UBIS Connect with us!! We want to hear from you! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX [https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Join Our Subreddit Community to connect with us and with other listeners! See you there!! https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup [https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup] Looking for more information on mixed-orientation relationships? You can explore helpful resources at MORandMore.org 👉 https://MORandMore.org [https://MORandMore.org] Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!! ***Everyone will remain anonymous*** Email -> UnitedBiSwinging@gmail.com Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :) **What We Talk About on this Podcast** - Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle - How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding - Building a stronger, more open community together Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts. Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

Our First Experience: The Plot Twist

We went into our first experience looking for bi play and somehow ended up with a straight couple, a laugh track, and the universe actively testing us at every turn. From missed signals and awkward timing to a husband who hadn’t even told his wife he was talking to swingers, this night had full 90s sitcom energy. It was hot, chaotic, and wildly imperfect. Along the way, we touch on our very different jealousy styles compersion versus traditional jealousy and how we navigated it all together. Proof that sometimes the messiest beginnings make the best stories. Connect with us!! We want to hear from you! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX [https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Join Our Subreddit Community to connect with us and with other listeners! See you there!! https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup [https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup] Looking for more information on mixed-orientation relationships? You can explore helpful resources at MORandMore.org 👉 https://MORandMore.org [https://MORandMore.org] Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!! ***Everyone will remain anonymous*** Email -> UnitedBiSwinging@gmail.com Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :) **What We Talk About on this Podcast** - Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle - How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding - Building a stronger, more open community together Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts. Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self — in and out of the bedroom.

Ep. 5 - Rob's Journey as a Bisexual (PART 2): Becoming Whole

This episode continues Rob’s story as a bi man. In part two, the conversation covers his marriage and the process of navigating same sex attraction while trying to make sense of who he was internally. Rob shares his first coming out experience, the fear that came with it, and what it felt like to begin accepting himself. The episode then moves into meeting his current partner and what it was like to be in a relationship built on acceptance, honesty, and trust. Together, they talk about building their bond, creating a strong foundation, growing their family, and eventually choosing to enter the swinging lifestyle together as a fully bi couple. This episode is not about labels or advice. It is about growth, communication, and choosing honesty even when it feels uncomfortable. We also share that we were guests on Beyond Monogamy with Adam and Pris. Our episode aired on December 28. Please see the link below to check out their amazing podcast!! Beyond Monogamy | Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy & Swinging [https://www.beyond-monogamy.com/] Connect with us!! We want to hear from you! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX [https://www.tiktok.com/@united_bi_swinging?_r=1&_t=ZT-914NdFlscnX] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/united_bi_swinging?igsh=MXd2NXlhOGJkYWdkZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Join Our Subreddit Community to connect with us and with other listeners! See you there!! https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup [https://www.reddit.com/r/United_Bi_Swinging/s/R0u3Q4gMup] Looking for more information on mixed-orientation relationships? You can explore helpful resources at MORandMore.org 👉 https://MORandMore.org [https://MORandMore.org] Have a question or story you want us to share on the show? Email us!! ***Everyone will remain anonymous*** Email -> UnitedBiSwinging@gmail.com Please leave us a rating and review to let us know if you find this podcast valuable to help us reach other people! :) **What We Talk About on this Podcast** - Challenges and stigmas bisexual men face in the lifestyle - How supportive partners play a crucial role in exploration and understanding - Building a stronger, more open community together Please Subscribe and listen wherever you get your podcasts. Together, we’re rewriting the narrative and celebrating the freedom to be your whole self in and out of the bedroom.