When Your Child is Losing It | UnMuted Love Ep.95

The Sex Talk Your Teen Actually Needs | UnMuted Love Ep.96

Let’s be honest. Most of us didn’t get a real sex talk. We got silence, shame, or fierce warnings that left us more confused and worried than confident. Some of us got a single condom for our wallets as though that were all there was to navigating this adolescent developmental terrain. Now we’re raising teens in a world where everything is earlier, louder, and harder to negotiate, especially for kids carrying attachment wounds and early adversity. In this episode, Ce interviews Rebecca Reber, who brings 24 years of walking alongside teen parents, about what teens wish they knew before their entire lives changed in pregnancy and early parenting. What they talk about will change how you think about “the talk.” By the way, it’s not just a talk after all. This isn’t exactly about sex. It’s about nervous systems, and the challenge of finding the experience of belonging. It’s about pressure, identity, and the anxious fear of not being lovable. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/d-eiWCOR8cI 💡 Check out Rebecca's website for more → https://www.rebeccareber.com From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

When Your Child is Losing It | UnMuted Love Ep.95

When your child is melting down, shutting down, or coming at you hard, it can feel like everything inside you wants to react, fix, or shut it down fast. Ce interviews guest Dajana Yoakley of Delight in Parenting fame to focus in on how to be the parent who does this with a steady heart. In this honest and deeply practical conversation, Dajana and Ce unpack what’s really happening during dysregulation, and how parents can show up in ways that actually move the needle over time. This is all about being present, regulated, and intentional when it matters most. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/FptrfgmDN9g 🎧 Listen to Dajana's podcast → http://delightinparenting.substack.com 💡 Get Dajana's FREE Nervous System Reset → https://www.delightinparenting.com/nervous-system-reset-free From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

The "Arranged Marriage" of Parenting Children | UnMuted Love Ep.94

In this episode of UnMuted Love, Ce explores with Abigail Wald of Mother Flipping Awesome about parenting strong-willed, highly sensitive, deeply reactive children—including children from difficult beginnings whose nervous systems do not respond well to traditional parenting advice. Together they really dive into what it takes to love a child who is strong willed and how to go about finding the right path. Ce and Abigail find solidarity in the grief they both felt as mothers of children whose stories were not Instagram material. Listen as they explore how some kids are not looking for more consequences, louder lectures, or tighter control. They are showing us, through their behavior, that their bodies are reading the world as unsafe. And when a child’s nervous system is on high alert, even ordinary limits, transitions, corrections, and requests can feel like full-body threats. Ce and Abigail share common experiences of how “nothing works” with some children—not because parents are failing, but because the tools being offered are not a good fit for the parent or the child. Find out what they settle on when discussing this question: Is it important to tease apart which behaviors are caused by neurodivergence or by trauma? Listen to their intimate mother-to-mother conversation about the tenacity of love. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/HNEAc8SiK7g 💡 Get Abigail's Mother Flipping Awesome FREE resources → https://abigailwald.com/quickstart From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

Siblings Carry More Than We Realize | UnMuted Love Ep.93

“I’m so worried about my other kids. It isn’t fair that they have to live with all this chaos.”  –Mother of three children, one with trauma from early childhood trauma In families raising a child from difficult beginnings, there is often another child or children in the room quietly learning how to disappear into the background or loudly trying to figure out how to get seen. They learn to wait. They learn to be “easy.” They learn to scan the emotional weather before asking for anything. They learn that their needs might be inconvenient. Sibling trauma begins right there. In this episode of UnMuted Love, Ce talks with Dr. Shannon Schedlich, Chief Executive of Siblings Australia, about the often-overlooked experience of brothers and sisters of children with disability and chronic illness, which includes children from difficult beginnings. Shannon brings a powerful blend of professional expertise, advocacy, research, and lived experience as both a leader in sibling support and the stepmother of an autistic daughter with high support needs. Together, they explore what happens when siblings are left unsupported: increased anxiety, depression, school disengagement, premature caregiving roles, resentment, guilt, loneliness, and the confusing pressure to be “fine” while the family system revolves around the child with the biggest needs. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/-SZslvG13qY 💡 Visit Siblings Australia's website for more resources → https://siblingsaustralia.org.au/ From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]

Your Kid Turned 18... Now What? | UnMuted Love Ep.92

When your child from difficult beginnings turns 18, the story doesn’t suddenly resolve—it often intensifies. In this episode of UnMuted Love, Ce Eshelman gets the ball rolling on talking about one of the most disorienting transitions in therapeutic parenting: when your young adult wants independence… and space from you.  This is not traditional “empty nest” parenting. It is attachment, trauma, and nervous system wiring colliding with adulthood. How you respond in this season can either protect the relationship… or unintentionally push it further away. Join us for the beginning of thoughts on parenting your newly minted 18-year-old adult child from difficult beginnings. Know a parent quietly struggling with distance from their young adult? Send this their way. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can offer a friend is language for what they’re already living. ▶️ Watch the video version here → https://youtu.be/f0w_A2B3bpQ From Ce Eshelman: Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU! Access Free Resources! ✨ The VIP Parent Program has been discontinued, but you can still access all the handouts and more free resources at our Free Resources Page! [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/free-materials] Additional Resources: 📖 Get your copy of Ce's new book: 20 Things Children from Difficult Beginnings Wish Friends and Family Knew [https://www.amazon.com/Things-Children-Difficult-Beginnings-Friends/dp/B0FM7WSNC6] 📖 Get your copy of Drowning with My Hair On Fire: Insanity Relief for Adoptive Parents [https://www.amazon.com/Drowning-My-Hair-Fire-Insanity/dp/1478770961/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1KW0Y1P6Z5GHE&keywords=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire&psr=EY17&qid=1701139958&s=cyber-monday&sprefix=drowning+with+my+hair+on+fire%2Ccyber-monday%2C149&sr=1-1] ▶️ Watch Ce's YouTube Videos: https://www.youtube.com/@CeEshelman [https://www.youtube.com/@LoveMattersParenting] 🧐 Subscribe to the blog: https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/blog/] 🔍 Check out my websites: LoveMattersParenting.com [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/] and AttachPlace.com [https://AttachPlace.com] 📣 Hear the Success Stories: LoveMattersParenting.com/testimonials [https://lovemattersparenting.com/testimonials] 👉 Find Ce on Social Media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.instagram.com/lovemattersparenting] 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting [https://www.facebook.com/lovemattersparenting.com] Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com] and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC [http://www.attachplace.com/]. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1 [https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1]. 🎧 Follow us on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode! [http:www.unmutedlove.com]