A Real UNMUTED Holiday Conversation

Beyond the Influence: Redefining Leadership and Identity without Alcohol

Ending the year with an important topic, this conversation explores the profound impact of alcohol on leadership and personal well-being. Kellye and Charisse discuss the physiological and emotional effects of alcohol, share personal experiences of quitting drinking, and highlight the benefits of clarity and confidence gained from an alcohol-free lifestyle. They also delve into the changing landscape of non-alcoholic options in social settings and the importance of emotional regulation for effective leadership. Takeaways * Alcohol numbs stress and is culturally woven into coping mechanisms. * Removing alcohol can lead to immediate improvements in sleep and cognitive clarity. * Curiosity can lead to significant lifestyle changes, as seen in Kellye's journey. * Social dynamics around drinking can create pressure, but awareness helps navigate it. * Building confidence without alcohol can enhance social interactions. * Emotional processing may intensify after quitting alcohol, but it's a necessary part of healing. * The rise of non-alcoholic options reflects changing societal attitudes towards drinking. * Leaders can enhance their effectiveness by reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption. * Clarity gained from sobriety can lead to better decision-making and emotional regulation. * Experimenting with alcohol-free periods can provide valuable insights into personal habits. Sound Bites * "It started with pure curiosity." * "I felt grounded. I felt regulated." * "Alcohol makes everything 5% harder." Chapters 00:00 The Impact of Alcohol on Leadership 02:58  Personal Journey: From Drinking to Clarity 05:35  The Science Behind Alcohol's Effects 08:22  Social Dynamics and Alcohol-Free Choices 11:11  Building Confidence Without Alcohol 13:45  The Emotional Journey of Quitting Alcohol 16:26. Exploring Non-Alcoholic Options 19:14  Changing Perspectives on Alcohol Consumption 21:48  The Transformation of Leadership Through Clarity 24:30  Final Thoughts on Alcohol and Leadership Disclaimer This episode reflects personal experiences and general education related to health, leadership, and self-regulation. It is not intended as medical, clinical, or mental health advice. Individual experiences with alcohol vary, and listeners should consult qualified professionals for personalized guidance. This conversation is not a substitute for substance use disorder treatment or recovery support. We respect listeners wherever they are in their relationship with alcohol and encourage seeking appropriate professional or recovery resources when needed.

A Real UNMUTED Holiday Conversation

In this holiday-themed episode of Unmuted, hosts Charisse and Kellye explore the realities of holiday celebrations, emphasizing the importance of presence over perfection. They discuss evolving traditions, the joy of unplanned moments, and the leadership lessons that can be drawn from holiday experiences. The conversation highlights the significance of protecting holiday time, reflecting on the past year, and looking ahead to the future with intention. The hosts share personal anecdotes, favorite holiday foods, and lighthearted moments, creating a warm and engaging atmosphere for listeners. Takeaways * The best holidays are about being present with loved ones. * Leaders recharge in different ways, and it's important to find what works for you. * Traditions can evolve over time, reflecting personal growth and changes in life circumstances. * Unplanned moments often create the most memorable holiday experiences. * It's not about perfection; it's about enjoying the time spent together. * Taking time to reflect on the past year can help set intentions for the future. * Protecting holiday time is essential for personal well-being and family connections. * Creating space for creativity and connection can lead to a fulfilling year ahead. * Humor and lightheartedness are important during the holiday season. * The holidays can teach valuable lessons about leadership and authenticity. Chapters 00:00 Holiday Conversations and Leadership Lessons 06:24 Traditions and Evolving Holiday Habits 11:52 Unplanned Moments and Family Humor 18:24 Leadership During the Holiday Season 21:19 Reflecting on Leadership During the Holidays 24:33 The Importance of Rest and Resetting 29:43 Protecting Holiday Time and Setting Boundaries 31:55 Looking Ahead: Intentions for the New Year 36:24 Lighthearted Holiday Traditions 40:44 Closing Thoughts on Leadership and Gratitude

Inside the City Executive Circle: A Private Space for City Leaders

City executives are expected to lead with clarity, composure, and confidence while carrying significant political, organizational, and emotional responsibility. What they are rarely given is a private place to think, process, and recalibrate. In this episode of Unmuted, Kellye Mazzoli and Charisse Deschenes explore why the City Executive Circle was created and why it was intentionally designed as a private leadership environment for city executives. This is not a generic leadership space. It is built specifically for city managers, assistant and deputy managers, and department directors who need clarity, steadiness, and connection without public exposure. They discuss leadership isolation in city management, the risks of processing complex leadership issues in public forums, and how a simple, sustainable weekly rhythm can help executives stay grounded, think clearly, and lead effectively over time. Enrollment for the City Executive Circle opens later this week. Learn more and join the priority list at: https://citybosscoach.com/membership "This is a resource I wish I had." "This community is built for you." "Lead well, don't lead alone." Takeaways * The City Executive Circle is a resource for city executives. * Isolation in city management is a significant issue. * Strong leaders can benefit from connection and support. * Privacy is essential for effective leadership development. * The membership allows for anonymous question submission. * The community is tailored for those in city management roles. * The 15-15 model respects leaders' time constraints. * Coaching helps leaders reconnect with their internal compass. * Founders pricing offers unique benefits for early joiners. * The City Executive Circle fosters genuine connection and growth Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the City Executive Circle 01:12 The Need for Support in City Management 04:22 The City Executive Circle: For All Leaders 06:13 The Importance of a Private Environment 10:32 Who Belongs in the City Executive Circle? 12:11 The 15-15 Model: Learning and Application 15:56 The Role of Coaching in Leadership 18:38 Founders Pricing and Early Enrollment Benefits

The Art of Changing and Finding Clarity in Transition

Charisse and Kellye talk the complexities of transitions and change, particularly in leadership roles. They discuss the discomfort that often accompanies change, the importance of self-awareness, and the need for quiet reflection during times of transition. The conversation emphasizes that transitions are not just about changing circumstances but also about identity and personal growth. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace change as an opportunity for growth and to recognize the signs of misalignment in their lives. Takeaways * Transitions can shake your foundation, even positive ones. * Awareness is the first step in leadership maturity. * Discomfort during transitions is a natural response. * Quiet reflection is essential for processing change. * Recognizing signs of misalignment can guide your decisions. * It's important to differentiate between running from something and moving towards something. * Transitions can lead to a reclamation of self. * You don't have to navigate transitions alone. * Clarity in your values can guide your actions during change. * Embracing change is a sign of growth, not failure. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Transitions and Change 07:00 Identity and Ego in Transition 14:26 Signals and Symptoms of Change 17:22 Making Transitions Without Burnout 23:14 Embracing Growth Through Discomfort

From City Management to Entrepreneurship

Kellye and Charisse discuss the potential challenges and opportunities faced by city management professionals as they transition into entrepreneurship. They explore the identity shifts that occur when leaving traditional roles, the transferable skills gained from city management, and the importance of coaching in supporting leaders. The conversation emphasizes the need for clarity, sustainability, and the creation of supportive environments for city managers and executives. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to embrace new possibilities and stay true to their passions while navigating their careers. Takeaways * City management leaders are feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about their future. * Many are considering leaving the profession not due to failure, but due to lack of support. * Building our own tables means creating spaces that add value to city management. * Identity shifts occur when transitioning from city management to entrepreneurship. * The skills gained in city management are highly transferable to coaching and consulting. * Coaching helps city leaders feel grounded and less fragmented. * Sustainable leadership is about using existing skills in new ways. * Clarity and capacity are essential for effective decision-making in entrepreneurship. * Exploring new opportunities can lead to fulfilling careers outside of traditional roles. * Support and community are vital for city managers navigating their careers. Chapters 00:00 The State of City Management Today 02:57 Identity Shift: From City Management to Entrepreneurship 05:39 Building a Business: Skills and Challenges 08:12 Transferring Skills: From City Hall to Coaching 11:10 Supporting City Management Through Coaching 19:11 Navigating Decision-Making in Leadership 21:51 The Importance of Grounded Leadership 24:54 Building a Humane City Management 26:59 Understanding Capacity vs. Capability 28:55 The Shift from Team to Solo Work 32:35 Exploring New Possibilities in Your Career