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Denying Last Rites Over Money? Inside the Transactional Hospital | Episode 512

36 min · 11. juni 2026
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A priest shows up to give last rites, takes a call, then refuses because the person did not donate enough money. That story is hard to hear, but it points to a problem that shows up in more places than we want to admit: when care becomes transactional, dignity gets compromised fast. From there, we talk about patient advocacy in the hospital through a current heart related hospitalization that hits close to home. I share what I saw and heard firsthand: cardiologists coming in without checking the heart, little visible note taking, and a steady push toward procedures like cardioversion or ablation without slowing down to explain the “why.” We get into informed consent, second opinions, and the simple right every patient has to say, “I need time to think, I need to talk to my power of attorney, and I need a clear plan.” We also connect physical symptoms to mental health and trauma informed care. When someone has lived through abuse and ongoing trauma, the nervous system can stay locked in fight or flight, and the body can carry that stress for decades. If a hospital team treats only the number on a monitor and ignores the full life behind it, they may miss a major driver of what is happening. That is why we highlight hospital advocates and holistic care, getting the right people in the room so the left hand knows what the right hand is doing. If you have ever felt rushed, dismissed, or pressured in a medical setting, this conversation is for you. Subscribe for more real talk, share this with someone who might need it, and leave a review with the one question you wish every doctor would answer before a procedure. *Donate Today: LoveVoices.org [https://www.lovevoices.org], CashApp and Venmo **Find our book here: Amazon: https://voices-for-voices.org/3ZhJ6AW [https://voices-for-voices.org/3ZhJ6AW] Publisher: https://voices-for-voices.org/3LKL1uN [https://voices-for-voices.org/3LKL1uN] ***Website: https://voices-for-voices.org/4byLXgb [https://voices-for-voices.org/4byLXgb] Instagram: @voicesforvoices TikTok: @voices_for_voices_22 Facebook: Voices for Voices *Voices for Voices is a 501c3 nonprofit charity. All donations are 100% tax deductible. Chapter Markers * 0:00 Welcome And A Hard Topic * 0:53 The Call Nobody Wants * 3:59 Last Rites Denied Over Money * 5:23 Why Advocacy Still Matters * 8:28 Heart Doctors Who Do Not Listen * 11:56 Pushed Toward Procedures * 13:44 Trauma And Physical Health Collide * 20:20 Slow Down And Ask For An Advocate * 27:50 This Is Not A Hotel Comment * 31:51 Takeaways And How To Support #PatientAdvocacy #HospitalCare #HealthcareSystem #PatientRights #MedicalAdvocacy #HealthLiteracy #AdvocacyInAction #EmpoweredPatients #justiceforjustin #justiceforvoicesforvoicestiktok #VoicesforVoices #help3billion #TikTok #Instagram #truth #Jesusaire #VoiceForChange #HealingTogether #Episode512 Support the show [https://cash.app/$VoicesforVoices]

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episode Your Body Doesn't Separate Good Stress from Bad Stress | Episode 517 artwork

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