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How to protect assets and pay for long-term care | Elder law 101

34 min · 21. apr. 2026
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If you're caring for aging parents and feeling overwhelmed by finances, planning, or long-term care decisions, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we sit down with elder law attorney Heidi Friedman to talk through what caregivers need to know — from protecting assets and avoiding costly mistakes to understanding Medicaid and VA benefits. Hosted by Tina Rains, RN, and Melinda Lee Foster, this episode breaks down some of the most confusing parts of long-term care planning in a way that feels clear, practical, and manageable. If you’ve ever wondered how to pay for long-term care, what happens if there’s no plan in place, or whether your family may still qualify for benefits, this episode offers helpful insight and direction. In this episode: • Why estate planning is not “one and done” • What a durable power of attorney really means • Common mistakes families make when planning for care • How Medicaid and VA benefits work • Ways to protect assets before it’s too late Hosts: Tina Rains, RN Melinda Lee Foster Guest: Heidi Friedman, Florida Board-Certified Elder Law Attorney About Heidi Friedman: Heidi Friedman is a Florida Board-Certified Elder Law Attorney, entrepreneur, and advocate for seniors, veterans, and families navigating long-term care decisions. She is the founder of Friedman Elder Law & Estate Planning and Veteran Aid & Planning Services, where she helps families protect assets, secure government benefits, and plan for the realities of aging with more clarity and confidence. Connect with Heidi Friedman [https://elderlawdept.com] Thanks for listening to We Laugh So We Don’t Cry — honest conversations, real support, and a little laughter for the caregiving journey. 🌐 Podcast Website [https://welaughsowedontcry.com/] ✅ Free Guides & Resources [https://masterpiececare.com/guides]: Join our Facebook group, explore free downloads, or book a free 15-minute call with a care navigator.  🤍 Thanks to our sponsor, MasterPiece Care [https://masterpiececare.com/], for providing free caregiver guides and resources. You can also book a free conversation call with Tina Rains, RN through MasterPiece Care at the link above. 📘 Ebook for Family Caregivers on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Moving-Parent-Assisted-Living-Practical-ebook/dp/B0GK34F46C] 🔔 Subscribe for Weekly Episodes New episodes every week. #caregiving #caregiverburnout #agingparents #stressmanagement #caregiversupport #podcast #welaughsowedontcry

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