My Mother Married My Rapist

My Mother Married My Rapist

For 14 years, Cynthia endured unimaginable abuse at the hands of the man she believed was her father. From the age of five until she escaped at 19, she was groomed, manipulated, and repeatedly sexually abused by her stepfather…all while living in what appeared to be the perfect family. When she finally found the courage to tell someone at 16, she expected protection. Instead, she was met with disbelief, shame, and pressure from the very people who should have stood by her. Resources:  → https://rainn.org/ [https://rainn.org/]  → https://paar.net/ [https://paar.net/] Check Out Cynthia:  → https://www.instagram.com/cynthiaadelgado?utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/cynthiaadelgado?utm_source=qr] Sponsored By: → Shopify | Every story has a turning point. If you're ready to build something of your own, start your journey with a free trial at https://shopify.com/insane [https://shopify.com/insane] → HERS | Ready to reach your goals? Visit https://forhers.com/insane [https://forhers.com/insane] to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. → AquaTru | Go to https://AquaTru.com [https://aquatru.com/] now for 20% off (your purifier) using promo code INSANE. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee.  On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction  → 00:00:00 - What was her family dynamic?  → 00:01:48 - What was her first memory of sexual abuse?  → 00:02:51 - What was her next memory of abuse?  → 00:05:51 - What feelings dominated her childhood?  → 00:07:37 - Why didn't she know her stepfather wasn't her biological father? → 00:08:56 - How did she feel when she found out he wasn’t her father?  → 00:09:49 - How often was she abused?  → 00:10:13 - What happened when she became seriously ill? → 00:13:08 - How did everyone react when they found out? → 00:14:17 - Did her mom know what was happening? → 00:16:51 - Who else did he sexually abuse?  → 00:19:01 - How did the abuse escalate as she got older? → 00:24:26 - How did the abuse change when she was 14? → 00:26:06 - How did her high school girlfriend change everything? → 00:27:32 - What happened after the school reported the abuse? → 00:29:26 - Why was the police investigation so traumatizing? → 00:30:22 - How did her stepfather manipulate her from jail? → 00:33:19 - How did her family convince her to protect her abuser? → 00:36:09 - How was she manipulated into staying silent? → 00:38:48 - Why did the abuse begin again after he returned home? → 00:43:51 - How did her mother treat her differently from her sister? → 00:46:03 - What is a mother wound? → 00:48:38 - How did her mother also groom her?  → 00:51:56 - How does her family treat her abuser to this day? → 00:53:29 - Why does she still struggle to cut off her mother? → 00:57:17 - Why is it so difficult to understand her mother's choices? → 00:59:29 - How did her mother respond to the allegations? → 01:02:55 - What happened when he got out of jail? → 01:05:01 - How did her stepfather regain her trust? → 01:08:01 - What happened after he slapped her? → 01:14:37 - How did he continue manipulating her emotionally? → 01:17:19 - Why did she finally leave home? → 01:20:01 - When did she leave the city?  → 01:23:53 - What happened during the court proceedings? → 01:27:09 - How has family betrayal impacted her adulthood? → 01:30:20 - When did they get married? → 01:31:22 - How did the assault affect her mental health? → 01:34:05 - How is she breaking cycles moving forward? → 01:37:41 - How is she struggling with people pleasing?  → 01:40:02 - What is her relationship with her family like now? → 01:42:48 - Why do so many survivors feel guilty?  → 01:46:02 - How has becoming a stepmother changed her perspective? → 01:48:35 - How do you live your life with trauma? → 01:51:02 - Why does she feel obligated to share her story?  → 01:54:38 - Why is it so important for survivors to speak out?  Further Listening:  → My Father Was a Pastor and a Predator [https://youtu.be/ChjEtgNM1EI] More We Are All Insane:  → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time [https://were-all-insane.myshopify.com/] → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  [https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

I Was a School Shooter

Some stories are incredibly difficult to hear—but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be told. At 16 years old, he brought a shotgun into his high school. One teacher was shot, countless lives were forever changed, and he would spend the next 17 years in prison living with the consequences of his actions. Today, he works alongside educators, law enforcement, and mental health professionals, speaking openly about warning signs, intervention, accountability, healing, and hope for those who may be struggling in silence. Topics Discussed: → What causes someone to become a school shooter? → Can childhood trauma lead to violent behavior? → What are the warning signs before school violence? → How does untreated depression affect teenagers? → Can someone truly change after prison? Sponsored By: → AirDoctor | Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com [https://airdoctorpro.com/] and use promo code INSANE to get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers, including the 3500, 4000, and 5500 models. A 30-day money-back guarantee backs every purchase. → Cozy Earth | Stay comfortable all summer long with Cozy Earth’s Bamboo Sheet Set, Everywhere Pant, and Everyday Polo. For an exclusive offer, head to https://cozyearth.com [https://cozyearth.com/] and use code INSANE to receive 20% off your order. On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction  → 00:01:57 - What can we learn from someone who committed school violence?  → 00:02:52 - Why is he telling his story now? → 00:05:24 - What was his childhood really like? → 00:07:27 - How did childhood sexual abuse shape his mental health? → 00:08:01 - When did depression begin to take over? → 00:09:05 - Why did he attempt suicide? → 00:12:21 - How did his relationship with school change? → 00:13:59 - Did the mental hospital actually help? → 00:16:16 - How did his mental health spiral so quickly? → 00:17:36 - Why did his mom hire an attorney?  → 00:20:18 - Why didn't he tell anyone about the abuse? → 00:22:59 - What is the impact of being open about your trauma?  → 00:26:20 - How can we all relate to each other more?  → 00:27:57 - What happened after he left school for the summer? → 00:28:43 - How did he feel when he returned to school?  → 00:29:55 - How did it feel to drop out of high school?  → 00:31:48 - How did he start to feel at community college?  → 00:33:55 - How was his mom handling his mental decline?  → 00:35:21 - What is the gun safety process?  → 00:37:12 - When did he become suicidal again?  → 00:38:33 - Why did he decide to bring a gun to school? → 00:40:51 - What was in his suicide note?  → 00:41:29 - What was going through his mind that morning? → 00:42:33 - How was he feeling throughout the shooting?  → 00:44:36 - Did he come in with a plan?  → 00:46:50 - When did he decide to start shooting?  → 00:49:06 - What happened when he fired the first shot?  → 00:51:22 - How was the shooting stopped? → 00:53:37 - Why did he finally give up?   → 00:54:17 - How does he feel about being alive today?  → 00:55:36 - What is his mission in life?  → 00:57:52 - How did his friends and family respond? → 01:01:32 - What was prison really like? → 01:04:29 - Who did he maintain contact with while in prison?  → 01:08:09 - When did he decide to share his story? → 01:13:01 - How does it feel to share his story now?  → 01:14:15 - What did he do after getting out of prison?  → 01:16:28 - What happened when he experienced an act of violence?  → 01:24:31 - Why did he accept his death?  Further Listening: → My Dad Planned To Kill Us [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zz47y_L2VgA] Check Out Jon Romano:  → https://www.tiktok.com/@jonseekingpeace [https://www.tiktok.com/@jonseekingpeace] → https://chooselovemovement.org/ [https://chooselovemovement.org/] → https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] More We Are All Insane: - OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time: https://shop.wereallinsane.com [https://shop.wereallinsane.com/] - Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts: https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane [https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

My Dad Planned to Kill Us

Victoria grew up watching her father abuse her mother, never knowing what would happen behind closed doors. In this episode, she shares what it was like growing up in a home shaped by domestic violence, addiction, and fear, and how those experiences continued to impact her long after her father was arrested.  She opens up about the night everything changed, the grief of losing multiple family members while trying to rebuild her life, the complicated relationship she has with her father today, and how she's worked to break generational cycles of abuse. Victoria's story is one of resilience, healing, and choosing a different future despite the trauma she endured. Topics Discussed: → Growing Up in a Home Affected by Domestic Violence → Living With the Effects of Childhood Trauma → Escaping Abuse and Rebuilding a Life → Grief, Loss, and Healing Through Family Tragedy → Breaking Generational Cycles of Abuse and Addiction → Navigating a Complex Relationship With an Abusive Parent → Finding Healing by Sharing Her Story Sponsored By: → Cozy Earth | Stay comfortable all summer long with Cozy Earth’s Bamboo Sheet Set, Everywhere Pant, and Everyday Polo. For an exclusive offer, head to https://cozyearth.com [https://cozyearth.com/] and use code INSANE to receive 20% off your order. On This Episode We Cover: → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:31 - What was her childhood like growing up in a Mexican household? → 00:07:10 - When did she first realize something was wrong at home? → 00:12:49 - What was it like growing up with domestic violence? → 00:18:03 - Why did her mom stay with her father for so long? → 00:24:18 - Why did she feel safest with her family in Mexico? → 00:31:12 - How did her family finally escape the abuse? → 00:37:58 - What happened after her father was arrested? → 00:43:55 - How did her family begin rebuilding their lives? → 00:47:07 - How did losing her grandfather change her quinceañera? → 00:48:34 - How did her mom turn a quinceañera into buying their first home? → 00:50:12 - How did growing up with abuse affect her relationships? → 00:54:05 - How did losing her aunt and cousin change her outlook on life? → 00:57:14 - Why didn't she want her father at her graduation? → 01:00:45 - What did a detective tell her that changed everything? → 01:05:32 - How did she begin healing from years of trauma? → 01:09:48 - How did healthy relationships change her perspective? → 01:14:18 - How did alcohol become a coping mechanism? → 01:18:42 - What helped her finally begin letting go of the past? → 01:24:09 - Why did she decide to reconnect with her father? → 01:31:56 - How did she learn to forgive without forgetting? → 01:38:27 - What did she discover after searching her father's room? → 01:46:35 - Why was telling the truth so difficult? → 01:52:18 - What is her relationship with her father like today? → 02:00:45 - What did investigators uncover during the case? → 02:05:15 - Why did she decide to tell her family's story? → 02:09:02 - How does she protect her peace while keeping her father at arm's length? → 02:13:12 - Why did she decide to share her story publicly? → 02:16:38 - What does she hope other survivors take away from her story? Further Listening:  → I Lived With Bill Gates After Escaping Abuse [https://youtu.be/afqLxNaCauw] Check Out Victoria:  →  https://www.instagram.com/ruizandrobledocleaningco/ [https://www.instagram.com/ruizandrobledocleaningco/] Resources:  → https://www.houseofruthinc.org/ [https://www.houseofruthinc.org/] → https://www.loveisrespect.org/ [https://www.loveisrespect.org/] → https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] → https://www.cpedv.org/ [https://www.cpedv.org/] → https://ncadv.org/ [https://ncadv.org/] Megaphone  - OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time [https://were-all-insane.myshopify.com/] - Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  [https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Daughter's Father is a Child Molester

At 17 years old, she believed that if a boyfriend didn't hit her, he was a good boyfriend. Growing up in a small town, raised in a strict religious household, and surrounded by unhealthy relationships, she had no idea what a healthy partnership was supposed to look like. What started as a high school relationship eventually led to years of heartbreak, single motherhood, difficult co-parenting battles, and the painful realization that the father of her child was never going to become the parent her daughter deserved. But nothing could have prepared her for the message she received in 2025…a message that revealed her ex had been arrested and charged with multiple felony offenses involving a minor. Topics Discussed: → How do you protect your child from an unsafe parent? → When should co-parenting stop? → What are signs of parental neglect? → How do you win sole custody? → How do you heal after betrayal? Sponsored By: → HERS | Ready to reach your goals? Visit https://forhers.com/insane [https://forhers.com/insane] to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. → Cozy Earth | Give Dad the gift of comfort this summer with Cozy Earth’s Bamboo Sheet Set, Everywhere Pant, and Everyday Polo. For an exclusive offer, head to https://cozyearth.com [https://cozyearth.com/] and use code INSANE for 20% off.  On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - What was it like growing up in a strict Jehovah's Witness household? → 00:02:34 - How did childhood trauma shape her relationships? → 00:04:04 - What happened during her high-risk pregnancy? → 00:09:02 - What made co-parenting so difficult from the beginning? → 00:12:58 - Who did she move in with after leaving her ex?  → 00:14:44 - When did neglect become impossible to ignore? → 00:17:31 - Why did she pursue sole legal and physical custody? → 00:20:14 - How did his parenting get worse over time?  → 00:25:42 - How did her current partner become the father figure her daughter needed? → 00:31:02 - What message changed her life forever? → 00:33:45 - How did she react after learning about her ex's arrest? → 00:37:50 - Did she try to speak to him or his family after the news broke?  → 00:42:55 - When was the last time she spoke to her ex?  → 00:44:39 - How is her daughter handling the news about her father?  → 00:46:09 - How will she one day explain the truth to her daughter? → 00:48:26 - How is she staying mindful of her mental health?  → 00:50:54 - Why did she start sharing her story on TikTok? → 00:53:33 - How did going viral help her custody case? → 00:55:09 - Did the positive tik tok comments help her heal?  → 00:57:06 - How was she able to afford a lawyer?  → 00:59:04 - Does she see herself continuing to share her journey? → 01:02:21 - Why does she believe more parents need to share stories like this? → 01:08:05 - What is she going to do next? → 01:09:30 - Why is it scary for people to share their story?  → 01:12:15 - When did people start to listen to her story?  → 01:15:31 - How did her relationship with her father impact her parenting decisions?  → 01:17:36 - What did she do when she first found out?  → 01:20:02 - What is it like to struggle with your mental health?  → 01:21:53 - What was it like hearing his sentencing in court? → 01:25:48 - What did she learn about relationships and abuse?  Show links: → I Lived With Bill Gates After Escaping Abuse [https://youtu.be/afqLxNaCauw] Check Out Ruvyn:  → Tik Tok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@alchemy_with_rue?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HpKvjuX0P [https://www.tiktok.com/@alchemy_with_rue?_r=1&_t=ZT-97HpKvjuX0P] → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alchemy_with_rue/ [https://www.instagram.com/alchemy_with_rue/] More We Are All Insane: → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time [https://were-all-insane.myshopify.com/] → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  [https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Molested By My Brother

She was only 9 years old when her older brother began molesting her. She kept it a secret until she was 16 years old, believing she was the only victim. After coming forward, she realized that others had been experiencing the abuse too, including her younger brother. She shares the anger, grief, relief, and unanswered questions that she still carries, as well as how the entire experience impacted her life and those around her. → National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-HOPE → Get Help Online: https://rainn.org/  [https://rainn.org/] Topics Discussed: → Being molested at 9 and keeping it secret until 16 → Going to the police and evidence found in the home → Living in fear after her brother was bailed out → Her brother's suicide and the notes he left behind → How this experience shook her faith in religion Sponsored By: → Shopify | Start your business today with the industry’s best business partner, Shopify, and start hearing “cha ching.” Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at https://shopify.com/insane [https://shopify.com/insane] → Lucy | Save 20% on your first online Lucy order at https://lucy.co/INSANE [https://lucy.co/INSANE] with promo code INSANE! → AquaTru | Go to https://AquaTru.com [https://aquatru.com/] now for 20% off (your purifier) using promo code INSANE. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee.  On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction  → 00:01:23 - When did her stepbrother move in with them?  → 00:03:06 - What was their age difference?  → 00:04:13 - When and why did her stop?  → 00:06:47 - How did she feel before she told her parents?  → 00:12:26 - Who else was getting abused?   → 00:14:21 - Why were they scared to report abuse?  → 00:18:15 - What was her brother saying when contacting them after?   → 00:19:20 - When did the warrant go out? → 00:20:19 - What did he do after posting bail?  → 00:23:24 - Why did she struggle with religion? → 00:25:15 - What happened after her brother took his life? → 00:26:34 - Who else committed suicide in her family?  → 00:27:35 - When did another victim come forward? → 00:28:44 - How was her first relationship? → 00:32:31 - Who did she have a falling out with?   → 00:35:45 - What was it like processing so much grief?  → 00:36:21 - How is her relationship with her grandfather?  → 00:38:06 - How is EMDR therapy helping her? → 00:41:37 - What has helped her the most in her healing journey?  Further Listening:  → https://youtu.be/afqLxNaCauw [https://youtu.be/afqLxNaCauw] More We Are All Insane: → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time [https://were-all-insane.myshopify.com/] → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  [https://mailchi.mp/6d0e5d7a3998/were-all-insane] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]