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How Can We Get The Spark Back? Strategies for Long-Term Relationship Intimacy

57 min · 15 de abr de 2026
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Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood. Some takeaways: • Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood. • The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence. • How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection. • How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com [wytt@besttherapists.com] Join our Substack community [https://whatyourtherapistthinks.substack.com/] Follow WYTT on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/wyttpodcast/] Follow Felicia on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_bad_therapist/] Connect with Lindsay. [https://marriedafterkids.com/] Follow Lindsay on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids/] Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Married After Kids [https://marriedafterkids.com/podcast]. *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks [https://www.youtube.com/@WhatYourTherapistThinks] *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com [http://besttherapists.com/] *Produced by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

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