What If Your Listening Style Is The Problem

What If Your Listening Style Is The Problem

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527194/fan_mail/new] We unpack the listening habits that quietly shape our relationships, from being fully present to shutting down as a coping mechanism. We name the styles that help people feel seen and the ones that turn a simple moment into an argument.  • active listening as presence through focus, questions and reflection  • passive listening as a drift that happens by season or with certain people  • empathetic listening as a gift that still needs boundaries  • expansive and solution driven listening that can overwhelm others  • external processing versus internal processing in marriage communication  • reductive listening as oversimplifying that makes people feel small  • insecurity and upbringing as possible roots of defensive listening  • teaching kids to use clear compliments instead of cutting remarks  let us know underneath the comments.  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/womeninblack] 🎧 Grab your tea, coffee, or water, and come hang out with us. If you’re new here… hey friend! 🤎 Get Your Bogg Bag: https://bogg.pxf.io/qzQGDL [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazlEdDJ1bWV5MnpQZTFQbVJna2Z6SEJUa1IwZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsMDByVmRJQThacTNxWWJKRlRHdUswN3BnWFZ3cU9lTzVha1Ntek9BR2dSYkVsd0tIVlQyRGdOUDlFS3hsV0dnc2ZoTG4wTDI3OWZZR19HN28tYW1yNmppMTE0UGhWR3RQMW9sQVlad2N3R3hOdkJMWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbogg.pxf.io%2FqzQGDL&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] Soft Hustle Journal + FREE Reset Resources: https://www.womenwhodoitall.org/store [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkJXREg3RWlvcnQ2LVZiaG96c0YyVEg3TW9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0tscWNEZEhWM19iZG9OX3BvQmpTdW84aFRDMHZFMDJ6R3BSME96WS1uSHhBSlBmdzBWVGZRcEdZOUE1QjZYQmVuU25ZWkh5ODRFak9udEZHZWl0VjRWUVBnUXhGdGl5S3NnY2Z5WWNzS3lVZnpZX0pCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.womenwhodoitall.org%2Fstore&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] FOLLOW US: IG: @WeAre.WomenInBlack | @DezDoesItAll | @SaySomethin_Josh Note: Some links mentioned in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. We only share what we genuinely use and love.

Modern Motherhood is Exhausting

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527194/fan_mail/new] We talk through what Mother’s Day brings up for us, from gratitude and grief to the complicated reality of choosing what we carry forward from our moms. We get honest about overloaded schedules, self-care that disappears, and the everyday lessons that shape how we parent now.  • kids’ schedules taking over the household and how we rebuild routines  • self-care as maintenance and identity not a luxury  • the mental load of parenting across different ages and activities  • married life that still feels like single-parent logistics  • what we keep from our moms and what we leave behind  • defining a mother as source nurturer and covering  • work ethic education and leaning into a child’s gifts  • standards for speech presentation and protecting the home  • love vs survival and how it changes what people expect  • faith traditions the Halloween compromise and learning as you go  You'll find the link in the show notes and the comments.  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/womeninblack] 🎧 Grab your tea, coffee, or water, and come hang out with us. If you’re new here… hey friend! 🤎 Get Your Bogg Bag: https://bogg.pxf.io/qzQGDL [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazlEdDJ1bWV5MnpQZTFQbVJna2Z6SEJUa1IwZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsMDByVmRJQThacTNxWWJKRlRHdUswN3BnWFZ3cU9lTzVha1Ntek9BR2dSYkVsd0tIVlQyRGdOUDlFS3hsV0dnc2ZoTG4wTDI3OWZZR19HN28tYW1yNmppMTE0UGhWR3RQMW9sQVlad2N3R3hOdkJMWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbogg.pxf.io%2FqzQGDL&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] Soft Hustle Journal + FREE Reset Resources: https://www.womenwhodoitall.org/store [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkJXREg3RWlvcnQ2LVZiaG96c0YyVEg3TW9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0tscWNEZEhWM19iZG9OX3BvQmpTdW84aFRDMHZFMDJ6R3BSME96WS1uSHhBSlBmdzBWVGZRcEdZOUE1QjZYQmVuU25ZWkh5ODRFak9udEZHZWl0VjRWUVBnUXhGdGl5S3NnY2Z5WWNzS3lVZnpZX0pCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.womenwhodoitall.org%2Fstore&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] FOLLOW US: IG: @WeAre.WomenInBlack | @DezDoesItAll | @SaySomethin_Josh Note: Some links mentioned in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. We only share what we genuinely use and love.

How To Outgrow Your Past And Keep Moving Forward

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527194/fan_mail/new] We challenge the habit of romanticizing the past and push ourselves to answer a harder question: who are we right now. We talk triggers, mental health nuance, boundaries, and why real progress takes faith plus work.  • what got you here will not get you there  • noticing new triggers and choosing whether to engage  • why living in the past annoys everyone around you  • the “three buckets” of getting stuck and why nuance matters  • how insecurity and narcissism can fuel nostalgia  • when compassion is required for illness and when boundaries are required for peace  • why therapy and healing stop you from bleeding on healthy people  • step-by-step growth that builds character and gratitude  • practical ways to get unstuck like books, mentors, and better circles  You'll find the link in the show notes and the comments. Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/womeninblack] 🎧 Grab your tea, coffee, or water, and come hang out with us. If you’re new here… hey friend! 🤎 Get Your Bogg Bag: https://bogg.pxf.io/qzQGDL [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazlEdDJ1bWV5MnpQZTFQbVJna2Z6SEJUa1IwZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsMDByVmRJQThacTNxWWJKRlRHdUswN3BnWFZ3cU9lTzVha1Ntek9BR2dSYkVsd0tIVlQyRGdOUDlFS3hsV0dnc2ZoTG4wTDI3OWZZR19HN28tYW1yNmppMTE0UGhWR3RQMW9sQVlad2N3R3hOdkJMWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbogg.pxf.io%2FqzQGDL&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] Soft Hustle Journal + FREE Reset Resources: https://www.womenwhodoitall.org/store [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkJXREg3RWlvcnQ2LVZiaG96c0YyVEg3TW9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0tscWNEZEhWM19iZG9OX3BvQmpTdW84aFRDMHZFMDJ6R3BSME96WS1uSHhBSlBmdzBWVGZRcEdZOUE1QjZYQmVuU25ZWkh5ODRFak9udEZHZWl0VjRWUVBnUXhGdGl5S3NnY2Z5WWNzS3lVZnpZX0pCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.womenwhodoitall.org%2Fstore&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] FOLLOW US: IG: @WeAre.WomenInBlack | @DezDoesItAll | @SaySomethin_Josh Note: Some links mentioned in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. We only share what we genuinely use and love.

What Women Wish Men Knew

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527194/fan_mail/new] We talk about what we want men to understand about women, from hormones and postpartum to the everyday need for emotional support. We also unpack why partners feel unheard and taken for granted, and how appreciation and communication can shift a whole marriage.  •hormones, menstrual cycles, and low bandwidth days  •postpartum changes and patience during recovery  •emotional support over problem-solving  •appreciation and noticing small acts  •feeling unheard, repeating yourself, and shutting down  •love languages and different communication styles  •expectations in marriage, especially as a working mom  •why long-term relationships require flexibility and repair  Give us some love in the comments. Let us know what you expect your man to know about you.  Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/womeninblack] 🎧 Grab your tea, coffee, or water, and come hang out with us. If you’re new here… hey friend! 🤎 Get Your Bogg Bag: https://bogg.pxf.io/qzQGDL [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazlEdDJ1bWV5MnpQZTFQbVJna2Z6SEJUa1IwZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsMDByVmRJQThacTNxWWJKRlRHdUswN3BnWFZ3cU9lTzVha1Ntek9BR2dSYkVsd0tIVlQyRGdOUDlFS3hsV0dnc2ZoTG4wTDI3OWZZR19HN28tYW1yNmppMTE0UGhWR3RQMW9sQVlad2N3R3hOdkJMWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbogg.pxf.io%2FqzQGDL&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] Soft Hustle Journal + FREE Reset Resources: https://www.womenwhodoitall.org/store [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkJXREg3RWlvcnQ2LVZiaG96c0YyVEg3TW9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0tscWNEZEhWM19iZG9OX3BvQmpTdW84aFRDMHZFMDJ6R3BSME96WS1uSHhBSlBmdzBWVGZRcEdZOUE1QjZYQmVuU25ZWkh5ODRFak9udEZHZWl0VjRWUVBnUXhGdGl5S3NnY2Z5WWNzS3lVZnpZX0pCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.womenwhodoitall.org%2Fstore&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] FOLLOW US: IG: @WeAre.WomenInBlack | @DezDoesItAll | @SaySomethin_Josh Note: Some links mentioned in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. We only share what we genuinely use and love.

Married, Divorced & Beginning Again.

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527194/fan_mail/new] We get real about what happens when marriage becomes a mission to prove something, and how grief, trauma, and identity loss can quietly shape every choice. Coach Kippy Langford shares what it took to stop recycling cycles, choose safety the right way, and begin anew with faith, therapy, and honest boundaries.  • lacking a model of marriage and carrying pressure to “break the curse”  • proving love versus knowing yourself before commitment  • bringing unhealed grief and trauma into marriage  • faith as a foundation but not a substitute for alignment  • deciding to leave when staying for the kids backfires  • beginning anew instead of repeating familiar patterns  • safety needs and nervous system regulation in relationships  • accountability friendships that tell the truth with love  • modeling healthy communication for children  • generational curses as learned behaviors and generational blessings as changed patterns  • evaluating your why and seeking counsel when you feel stuck  You’ll find the link in the show notes and the comments.  Don’t forget to buy Des a coffee, me a tea, and Coach Kippie a water. Support the show [https://buymeacoffee.com/womeninblack] 🎧 Grab your tea, coffee, or water, and come hang out with us. If you’re new here… hey friend! 🤎 Get Your Bogg Bag: https://bogg.pxf.io/qzQGDL [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazlEdDJ1bWV5MnpQZTFQbVJna2Z6SEJUa1IwZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsMDByVmRJQThacTNxWWJKRlRHdUswN3BnWFZ3cU9lTzVha1Ntek9BR2dSYkVsd0tIVlQyRGdOUDlFS3hsV0dnc2ZoTG4wTDI3OWZZR19HN28tYW1yNmppMTE0UGhWR3RQMW9sQVlad2N3R3hOdkJMWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbogg.pxf.io%2FqzQGDL&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] Soft Hustle Journal + FREE Reset Resources: https://www.womenwhodoitall.org/store [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkJXREg3RWlvcnQ2LVZiaG96c0YyVEg3TW9jZ3xBQ3Jtc0tscWNEZEhWM19iZG9OX3BvQmpTdW84aFRDMHZFMDJ6R3BSME96WS1uSHhBSlBmdzBWVGZRcEdZOUE1QjZYQmVuU25ZWkh5ODRFak9udEZHZWl0VjRWUVBnUXhGdGl5S3NnY2Z5WWNzS3lVZnpZX0pCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.womenwhodoitall.org%2Fstore&v=pWxr6gLlFfQ] FOLLOW US: IG: @WeAre.WomenInBlack | @DezDoesItAll | @SaySomethin_Josh Note: Some links mentioned in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission at no additional cost to you. We only share what we genuinely use and love.