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Parents: How They Shaped (or Didn’t Shape) Us & Do we owe them anything?

1 h 6 min · 24. apr. 2026
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In this intimate and insightful episode, Erwin and Mau explore how their parents shaped and sometimes failed to shape their identities, emotional needs, and adult relationships. From Mau’s conservative Brazilian upbringing to Erwin’s structured Dutch family life, they reflect on culture, religion, silence, affection, and the complicated path toward self‑acceptance. They discuss: * How childhood dynamics influence queer identity * The role parents play in coming out * Love languages and emotional gaps * What they wish their parents had known about raising a gay child * How upbringing shapes romantic relationships * Whether we owe our parents anything as adults With humour, vulnerability, and honesty, the hosts unpack the lifelong lessons family leaves behind and how queer adults can redefine love, boundaries, and belonging. #LGBTQPodcast #QueerRelationships #ComingOutJourney #FamilyAndIdentity

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