Episode 18: Working with Large Groups in Family Constellation Work — with Bertold Ulsamer

Meeting Unexpected Death - A Family Constellation Perspective with Suzi Tucker

Episode 20: Meeting Unexpected Death — A Family Constellation Perspective with Suzi Tucker How do we meet death when it arrives unexpectedly? This conversation was inspired by the recent loss of my dear friend, a beloved member of my community, whose life, wisdom, and presence continue to touch many people. In this conversation, Suzi Tucker and I explore grief, loss, and the questions that emerge when someone we love dies sooner than we imagined. Drawing from a Family Constellation perspective, we talk about the shock of loss, the future we imagined with those we love, the role of ancestors, and the ways people continue to influence us even after they are gone. An idea that stayed with me after our conversation ended is that those who die move from standing in front of us as teachers and guides to standing behind us as part of our life force. Together we explore: • Unexpected death and the shock of loss • The space grief needs • Ancestors, life force, and legacy • Losing someone recently versus carrying a loss from many years ago • How death can awaken us to what truly matters • "I Will Show You the World" — continuing on while carrying those we have lost Whether you are grieving someone you love, supporting others through loss, or reflecting on your own relationship with life and death, I hope this conversation offers companionship, perspective, and reflection. Warmly, Iris

Please Just Hold Me - A Conversation on Family Constellations and Healing with Shavasti

Episode 19: Please Just Hold Me — A Conversation on Family Constellations and Healing with Shavasti What do clients really want? Beneath the stories, symptoms, and questions people bring to a session, is there a deeper longing? In this conversation, Shavasti shares his view that beneath many of the concerns clients bring lives a deeper request: "Please just hold me." Together we explore what it means to be held—not fixed or changed, but deeply met in our humanity. We talk about healing sentences, love as an invitation, the role of the facilitator, and what becomes possible when we no longer have to hold everything alone. Two powerful images stayed with me long after our conversation ended: being held and falling on the sword of truth—allowing life as it is to touch and open the heart. I hope you enjoy the conversation. © 2026 You, Me & the Family Tree Podcast. All rights reserved.

Episode 18: Working with Large Groups in Family Constellation Work — with Bertold Ulsamer

Episode 18: Working with Large Groups in Family Constellation Work — with Bertold Ulsamer What changes when we move from working with individuals or small groups to facilitating a room full of people? In this conversation, Bertold Ulsamer shares reflections and practical wisdom from decades of facilitating Family Constellations in groups ranging from intimate circles to audiences of hundreds and even thousands. Together, we explore: • Preparing yourself before entering a large group • Working with nervousness and performance anxiety • Creating connection and engagement in larger groups • Working with difficult participants and strong group dynamics • The role of silence and spaciousness in facilitation • Respecting your own limits as a facilitator • The difference between seeking approval and serving the work • Why large groups may awaken old dynamics around attention, being seen, and our relationship with the mother One idea I especially appreciated was Bertold's suggestion that what we need as facilitators can be offered to the group. If we need a moment to slow down, reconnect, or breathe, inviting the group into that experience can create connection for everyone. Whether you facilitate Family Constellations, teach, coach, lead workshops, or simply find yourself speaking in front of groups, I hope you'll find something valuable in this conversation. Website: irisconstellations.com Email: Iris@irisconstellations.com [Iris@irisconstellations.com] © 2026 You, Me & the Family Tree Podcast. All rights reserved.

Adolescence — Standing Behind Our Children as They Grow with Suzi Tucker

Episode 17: Adolescence — Standing Behind Our Children as They Grow with Suzi Tucker What does it mean to support our children without holding them back? In this conversation, Suzi Tucker and I explore adolescence as a bridge between childhood and adulthood—a time of experimentation, uncertainty, belonging, and becoming. We talk about growth as a messy and often "sloppy" process, the challenge of allowing our children to discover their own strengths and capacities, the search for belonging, and why we don't need to fully understand our adolescents in order to love them. As a mother of three teenagers, I really appreciate this conversation. Not easy to apply, but who said life is easy. I especially value the reminder that we don't need to fully understand our children in order to love them, trust them, and stand behind them as they grow. Connect with Suzi Tucker: www.suzitucker.com [http://www.suzitucker.com] Connect with Iris Shaham: www.irisconstellations.com [http://www.irisconstellations.com] © 2026 You, Me & the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Menopause - A Movement Toward Freedom with Suzi Tucker

Episode 16: Menopause — A Movement Toward Freedom with Suzi Tucker Menopause is a subject very close to my heart. As a woman in my fifties, I find myself living the questions that menopause brings— through the body, emotions, relationships, identity, and the changing sense of self that can emerge during this stage of life. In this conversation, I’m joined again by the wonderful Suzi Tucker—an international Family Constellations teacher, writer, and public speaker . Together, we explore menopause, a change in life. We speak about: – Menopause as a threshold and a “change of life” – Aging, visibility, beauty, and the female body – Symptoms, hot flashes, mood changes, and the nervous system – Freedom, creativity, and contribution later in life – The idea of “befriending” our symptoms rather than fighting them – Lineage and generations in Family Constellations work Toward the end of the conversation, I ask Suzi: What is a good sentence for a woman in this stage of life to say to herself while looking in the mirror? Her answer: “I am grateful that I am here.” Connect with Suzi Tucker: https://www.suzitucker.com [https://www.suzitucker.com] Connect with Iris Shaham: https://www.irisconstellations.com [https://www.irisconstellations.com] © 2026 You, Me & the Family Tree. All rights reserved.