Krystine's FLR Podcast

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Chaos, Chastity, Confidence… and a Whole Lot of Honesty And NOT a re-release!! Life lately? An absolute fucking circus. But I’m back—with a raw, unfiltered brain-dump about what it means to hold power when your whole world feels like it's spinning off its axis. In this episode, I take you through: * Real updates from my summer of survival * A powerful email that reminded me why this podcast matters * And a mind-blowing blog post that reframed dominance for me completely If you’ve ever questioned your role, your energy, or your ability to lead when your tank is empty—this one’s for you. What You’ll Hear Me Process (in real time): *  Navigating FLR while caring for a parent with dementia *  Work-camping drama, bus life upgrades, and parenting on the go *  How to order kinky things without your kids discovering them *  A heartfelt listener email about not topping from the bottom *  The emotional burden of dominance—and why it doesn’t always feel sexy *  Non-sexual intimacy through dominance (and why it still counts) *  Letting him serve you even when you feel guilty *  Faking confidence… until it stops being fake > “Dominance isn’t a reward for being in the right mood. It’s a structure that holds me up when I feel like I’m falling apart.”“Just because you’re touched out, burnt out, or pissed off doesn’t mean you have to lose connection. You get to define what intimacy looks like.” Questions to Reflect On: * Do you still feel dominant when your life is falling apart? * How do you maintain structure and rituals in chaos? * Are you holding back from giving direction because of guilt? * How does your sub respond when you're emotionally unavailable? * What small rituals can you create to reclaim power? Resource Shout-Out: * Dominance as the Bridge of Female Emotion and Non-Sexual Sexuality – Evolving Your Man Blog [https://evolvingyourman.com/2024/06/25/dominance-as-the-bridge-of-female-emotion-and-non-sexual-sexuality] Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] We’re back from multiple vacations, we’ve battled bad internet, shady bank activity, and a child-filled Uber—and now we’re hitting you with one of the most essential (but least sexy) parts of a Female-Led Relationship: communication. This week, I dive into a PsychCentral article about Nine Steps to Better Communication—and, surprise!—I have a lot to say about it. > This episode is raw, real, rambling, and right from the gut. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, unheard, or just flat-out confused in your FLR, you’re not alone. What You’ll Hear Me Rant (lovingly) About: * Real-life chaos: Vacations, broken internet, kids, and compromised bank accounts * Surfacy convo vs. real emotional communication—how to spot the difference * Why “just listening” is harder than it sounds (and yes, I’m guilty) * Blended families, arguments, and learning to not hyper-focus on the wrong thing * Tech vs. touch: Is texting about feelings better or worse than saying them out loud? * Self-awareness, emotional dicklexia, and why I talk with my arms crossed and no eye contact * The reality that communication isn’t one-size-fits-all—and that’s okay Krystine’s Take: > “If you can’t be honest with your partner about how you feel—or what you fantasize about—what’s the point of the dynamic?”“You are allowed to feel how you fucking feel. Don’t ever let anyone shame you out of that.” Episode Vibe: Warm, slightly chaotic, a little sweary, and full of heart. You’ll laugh, nod, and maybe rethink how you approach serious conversations with your partner—especially when it comes to your dynamic. Listener Reflection Questions: * Do you feel emotionally safe enough to tell your partner everything? * Have you mistaken casual check-ins for actual connection? * Are you more open through texting, voice, or face-to-face conversations? * How often do you validate your partner’s feelings (or ask for validation yourself)? * Are you guilty of bringing up old stuff during current argumen Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Recorded live(ish) from a Skoolie meetup in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, this episode is part nature walk, part therapy, and part “what-the-hell-are-we-even-talking-about?” (Answer: everything that matters.) My subbie and I open up about what it really looks like to live the FLR lifestyle while surrounded by real life—kids, campers, swing-curious strangers, and school buses painted like national parks. > If you’ve ever wondered how to blend your kink dynamic with your vanilla life—this one’s for you. What We Talk About in This Episode: * Going “on location” to a Skoolie event—and why these nomad spaces feel so aligned with FLR values *  Integrating parenting and power exchange (with lots of discretion) * Are there secret swinger Skoolie societies? We’re asking for a friend * Coming out quietly in cautious community spaces * The importance of being unapologetic but respectful about your lifestyle * “Not every episode has to teach”—sometimes we’re just real people, walking in the woods, talking about how the hell we make this all work Krystine Says: > “You don’t need to be rich, or loud, or even caged all the time to live this way. >  You just need to stay present, stay honest, and maybe flash your subbie now and then when your mom’s not looking.” Listener Questions to Reflect On: * How open are you with your kids (or family) about your relationship structure? * What are your boundaries around sharing your lifestyle in public spaces? * Do you have “FLR friends” you hang out with outside of kink events? * If you’re part of the Skoolie/RV/nomad life, have you come across others living this way? Want More? Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Feeling stuck in a rut with your partner? You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t need to burn it all down to light a spark again. This is one of those campfire-style chats, where I show up solo, pour some coffee, and talk about what happens when your relationship starts feeling… flat. From missing the spark, to appreciating the little things, to being honest about when it’s time to plug back in (yes, that’s exactly what you think it means)—this one is real, raw, and might hit you right where you need it. I dive into: * Why reconnecting doesn’t require kink (but it helps 😉) * The surprising power of gratitude in long-term FLR dynamics * When to take the cage off—and how that can actually bring you closer * How to tell the difference between a slump and a breaking point * What it means to “plug back in” emotionally and physically * And why it's okay to have hard talks and messy days in a deeply connected relationship This isn’t about performing dominance. It’s about maintaining intimacy when life gets complicated—and that includes self-reflection, shitty weeks, and maybe crying over coffee.Timestamps (for the jumpers in the room): * 00:00 – Camper life updates & tattoo plans * 02:15 – Editing shoutouts, Canon camera chaos & OnlyFans behind-the-scenes * 06:40 – Feeling disconnected? Here's what “flat” can look like * 08:10 – A Healthline article sparks ideas on how to bring the spark back * 10:45 – Writing down what your partner does right * 14:20 – Gratitude in FLR: why saying thank you changes everything * 19:30 – Campground escapes, laughing rituals, and creative reconnection * 24:45 – When the cage comes off: intimacy as reconnection * 27:40 – How we talk through disconnection before it breaks us * 33:00 – “Is it worth it?” and knowing when to walk away * 37:00 – Final words: coffee, connection, and finding your fire again  Key Quote from This Episode: > “The cage comes off when we need to plug back in. It’s not about control—it’s about connection.” Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Okay, full transparency? I don’t fully understand subspace. Not in the technical, kink-encyclopedia way. And that’s exactly why we hit record on this one—from our camper, with my subbie by my side—to talk through what it means for us. In this episode, we unpack what subspace looks like from a real-world, real-relationship perspective. This isn’t textbook BDSM theory. It’s about feeling it out (literally and emotionally), recognizing what it might look like in everyday FLR life, and realizing that you don’t need to get it “right” to start exploring. We also talk about: * Flogging for the first time (spoiler: I loved it) * The struggle of noise, schedules, and migraines * Domspace and why I might be avoiding it * MommyDom feels… and how I’m working through the guilt of being a soft-hearted boss bitch If you’re navigating power exchange, learning what turns you on, or just trying to figure out what the hell “subspace” actually feels like—you’re not alone. And I hope this episode makes you feel seen. Key Points We Talked About: * What “subspace” technically is… and how it really shows up in our dynamic * Why wearing a cage might be a form of low-key subspace (yep, I said it) * Domspace: is it real? Am I avoiding it? Is it my next breakthrough? * What happens when you mix floggers, photo shoots, and a surprise moment of connection * How I’m still growing into this lifestyle (and still sometimes feel weird about being too bossy) * Why caregiving, humor, and guilt sometimes show up in my dominant headspace * Letting go of shame and learning to own what this relationship structure really gives us Got a favorite blog post or book about subspace or Domspace? Send it my way—I want to learn more, and I’d love to hear what has resonated with you. Seriously. Also, if you’re curious about the deeper side of FLR—beyond the cage and into the connection—you’ll love what I share on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/KrystineKellogg].  And don't forget to check out our unfiltered content on Clapper (@KrystineKellogg) and our day-to-day tiny home adventure on @Uncompa Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control