Krystine's FLR Podcast

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] ///// RE-RELEASE ///// We're kicking off Peg-tember with a bang—and a paddle. This re-released episode dives into the often misunderstood world of pegging and spanking in female-led relationships, right in time for Labor Day weekend (again). MY subbie and I unpack feedback from TikTok, share personal anecdotes from their FLR journey, and tackle the misconceptions around mental health, dominance, and kink dynamics with humor, heart, and clarity.  This is your reminder that pleasure, power, and partnership can all coexist in healthy, grounded ways—even in a camper. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: * The TikTok backlash that inspired this conversation * Pegging basics, myths, and practical tips from a Facebook post Krystine couldn’t stop thinking about * Why spanking and dominance aren't always about punishment * Mental health, kink, and the very real emotional dynamics of FLR * Reclaiming control and respect through open, ongoing communication Why It Matters: Whether you're just curious about FLR or you're already living it, this episode gets real about what happens after the fantasy. It’s not all whips and chains—sometimes it’s body language, poop logistics, safe words, and deep emotional connection. And sometimes? It’s just a hodgepodge. Links & Extras: Worksheet for FLR Communication & Consent [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1_aF6-neApZpTN95yYdJO2FnGRngGsirn/view?usp=sharing] (Patreon Exclusive) Want more on pegging? Check out the companion post for Peg-tember on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Submit your questions, comments, or episode topic requests via text or emai- —I'm listening! Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Today we’re diving into one of the most overlooked—but absolutely crucial—parts of any FLR dynamic: financial control. Who holds the money? Who decides how it gets spent? And how do we build structure around money without turning it into a battlefield? Spoiler alert: I hold the debit card. And it’s not just about power—it’s about respect, ritual, and responsibility. What I Talk About in This Episode: * Why dominance isn’t just in the play—it’s in the practice * Real-life examples from our FLR money rituals * How communication builds trust around finances * What to do when your sub tops from the bottom (and how to recover) * Weekly money check-ins as emotional regulation tools * Chore-based point systems that build structure without infantilizing * How I reclaimed my power after years of being the “default manager” * The deep emotional empowerment that comes from owning the finances > “You don’t have to be a CPA to run an FLR household. You just need trust, clarity, and the confidence to say, ‘This is what’s best for us—and I’m deciding it.’”“We forget that holding the money is a kink for some of us. It’s symbolic. It’s ritual. And it’s real fucking power.” Five Tips for Starting a Financial Control Dynamic: 1. Start with a conversation, not a command. Ask, but be firm. 2. Define clear categories. Needs, wants, fun, rituals. 3. Set financial rituals. Weekly check-ins, allowance transfers, updates. 4. Use symbolic tools. Apps, charts, envelopes, or even a ritual wallet. 5. Reinforce with structure. Consistency is where confidence is built. Listener Invitation: Got rituals around money? Creative systems that work for your FLR? Tell me. I want to hear it all. Your ideas may inspire an upcoming episode (confidentiality always respected). * KrystineKellogg@gmail.com [KrystineKellogg@gmail.com] * DM me on socials * Or join https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This one is real talk about parenting, boundaries, and keeping your kink alive when your life is anything but quiet So… you’re kinky and you have kids? Welcome to the club. In this episode, I’m diving into something that every kink-positive parent wrestles with at some point: "How do you stay connected to your identity—and your dominance—when the kids are home, the bedroom has no door, and your sex life feels like it’s on permanent hold?" I pulled from a couple of excellent articles (linked below) and shared how I’ve navigated being a Domme, a mother, and a woman with a wild, creative, and very adult job. This one’s a little raw, a little funny, and hopefully a whole lot helpful. What I Talk Through: * My own challenges with maintaining a kinky dynamic in a house full of people * The exact conversation I had with my daughter about setting boundaries and owning her pleasure * How I balance sex positivity with age-appropriate parenting * The time a toddler brought a butt plug into the living room 😳 * Creative ways to store toys when space (and privacy) are limited * My thoughts on nudity, shame, and breaking generational trauma around body image * Being honest (but not explicit) with your kids when they ask questions * Using what’s in your kitchen drawer as your next spanking tool 🔪🥄💥 > “Just because you had kids doesn’t mean your kink card expires. It just means you need a lockbox, a little creativity, and a hell of a lot of communication.”“We don’t need to tell our kids everything—but hiding from who we are? That’s where we lose ourselves. Discussion Prompts: * How do you navigate being kinky and being a parent? * Have your kids ever stumbled on a toy or overheard something… spicy? * What boundaries do you hold around your identity as a Dominant partner and a parent? Come share your story in the Patreon community—because you're definitely not alone in this. Articles Referenced: * https://www.vice.com/sv/article/how-to-still-be-kinky-once-you-have-kids/ Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] /////RE-RELEASE///// Let’s be honest—spanking your husband might sound like something out of a cartoon fetish meme or a punishment from the 1950s. But today? We’re unpacking the truth: spanking can be connection, structure, release, and hell yes—pleasure. In this episode, I walk through a cheeky (literally) article titled “Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide”—but we go way deeper than the clickbait. If your life feels a little too vanilla lately, this episode just might be your hot fudge drizzle.  What I Talk Through: * Why I’ve struggled with spanking—even when he asks for it * The mental shift from “bad toddler” to submissive man serving with intention * How spanking can be a reset button in high-stress seasons * The tools, positions, and rituals that can make it sexy and grounding * Communication (yes, again), boundaries, and safe words as non-negotiables * Why "punishment" isn’t always the right mindset—and how to reframe it * My honest thoughts on paddles, floggers, ticklers, and that damn camper life > “Spanking doesn’t have to be erotic. It can be connective. It can be healing. Hell, it can just be an emotional reset for two people who are doing their best.”“Sometimes the most powerful thing I can do is take control even when I don’t feel like it. That’s when it becomes a ritual of reclamation.” Reflection Prompts: * How does the word “spanking” feel to you—silly, sexy, uncomfortable? * Is there something in your relationship that could use a new ritual? * Are you using your power to punish—or to reconnect? * When was the last time your subbie really felt your authority through physical play? Article Referenced: * Spanking Your Husband: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide [No longer available, but give it a Google—there are lots of other options] Let’s Talk: * Do you spank your partner? * Do they ask for it? * Does it feel awkward? Empowering? Confusing? Drop into the comments Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Chaos, Chastity, Confidence… and a Whole Lot of Honesty And NOT a re-release!! Life lately? An absolute fucking circus. But I’m back—with a raw, unfiltered brain-dump about what it means to hold power when your whole world feels like it's spinning off its axis. In this episode, I take you through: * Real updates from my summer of survival * A powerful email that reminded me why this podcast matters * And a mind-blowing blog post that reframed dominance for me completely If you’ve ever questioned your role, your energy, or your ability to lead when your tank is empty—this one’s for you. What You’ll Hear Me Process (in real time): *  Navigating FLR while caring for a parent with dementia *  Work-camping drama, bus life upgrades, and parenting on the go *  How to order kinky things without your kids discovering them *  A heartfelt listener email about not topping from the bottom *  The emotional burden of dominance—and why it doesn’t always feel sexy *  Non-sexual intimacy through dominance (and why it still counts) *  Letting him serve you even when you feel guilty *  Faking confidence… until it stops being fake > “Dominance isn’t a reward for being in the right mood. It’s a structure that holds me up when I feel like I’m falling apart.”“Just because you’re touched out, burnt out, or pissed off doesn’t mean you have to lose connection. You get to define what intimacy looks like.” Questions to Reflect On: * Do you still feel dominant when your life is falling apart? * How do you maintain structure and rituals in chaos? * Are you holding back from giving direction because of guilt? * How does your sub respond when you're emotionally unavailable? * What small rituals can you create to reclaim power? Resource Shout-Out: * Dominance as the Bridge of Female Emotion and Non-Sexual Sexuality – Evolving Your Man Blog [https://evolvingyourman.com/2024/06/25/dominance-as-the-bridge-of-female-emotion-and-non-sexual-sexuality] Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control