All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for. You’ll learn: * What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface * Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle * And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of it We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard. If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words… This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict. And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the most emotionally complex and frustrating dynamics between partners—what happens when one of you is anxiously tuned in to every emotion, every disconnect, every nuance…essentially hyper-self aware... And the other is not able to see what's happening, unaware of the emotions often driving them, and has a harder time communicating what's going on for them...essentially lacking self awareness... We’re breaking down why this mismatch in self-awareness and emotional processing leads to blame, shame, shutdowns, and emotional spirals—and how to begin shifting that pattern. You’ll hear: * Why anxious partners can feel like they’re always solving the relationship alone * Why avoidant partners often feel like they’re being treated as a project instead of a person * And how this blame/shame cycle keeps both of you stuck, exhausted, and silently wondering if things will ever feel better * But more importantly—we’ll talk about what to do next. What actually helps. And how to start creating a new rhythm between you that leaves you both feeling seen, respected, and more connected. If you’ve been feeling like you’re the only one clued in to what's happening…or if you’ve felt like your partner is always psychoanalyzing you—this episode is for you. And if you are looking for help and would like to explore the ways my coaching program can help you, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most frustrating—and misunderstood—dynamics in a relationship: the anxious partner who longs for emotional validation, and the avoidant partner who’s just trying not to drown in overwhelm. If you’ve ever found yourself needing your partner to get what you’re feeling and help you through it… Or if you’ve ever felt like your partner’s emotions are a test you’re destined to fail… You’re in the right place. We’re getting to the root of what’s really going on underneath these reactions: * Why anxious partners often feel like they can’t handle big emotions alone * Why avoidant partners often feel like emotions = failure * And how both sides are doing their best to feel safe—but in ways that unintentionally trigger each other This episode will give you insight into your nervous system responses, the deeper emotional fears you might not even realize are running the show, and—most importantly—what to do about it. Because once you understand the real reason this feels so hard, you’ll finally have a clear direction forward. One that doesn’t involve blaming, fixing, or giving up.r And if you are looking for more help navigating these triggering cycles as a couple, I invite you to reach out to book a 20 Minute Marriage Solution Call, to experience firsthand the power of coaching to help you. Or if you are already interested in working with me through one of my coaching programs, you can book a complimentary consultation. Both links can be found on my website: DrChavonne.com [DrChavonne.com]

Have you ever felt desperate for more connection in your marriage—wanting to talk more, do more things together, feel like you're truly on the same page—but no matter how hard you try, your partner just doesn’t seem to meet you there? Or maybe you're on the other side—feeling like your partner always needs more from you than you can give, and all you want is a little space to think, breathe, and just be without feeling like you're letting them down. If either of those sound familiar, you're not alone—and you’re likely caught in the anxious-avoidant dynamic. In this episode, we’re unpacking that exact struggle: what happens when one partner craves closeness and the other craves space. When one feels rejected, and the other feels pressured. When you both want peace, but your patterns keep pushing each other further apart. You’ll learn: * Why the anxious partner often ends up feeling like they’re too much and not enough at the same time * Why the avoidant partner feels pressure to be someone they’re not, and shuts down to preserve their sense of self * What it really looks like to balance independence and intimacy in a healthy, respectful way * And the personal growth plans each of you can start implementing today to change the cycle and create something better This is one of the most common dynamics I work with—and the good news is: healing is absolutely possible when you understand the deeper needs underneath the behavior.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it’s so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better. You’ll hear the real fears driving this dynamic: * Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandoned * Why the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enough * And how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnected We’re going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?” Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don’t feel close to my partner…” This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead. Because real change happens when you understand what’s really going on inside you… and inside each other. If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/ [https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/]