On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Logan Ury: #1 Dating Mistake That Leads to the Wrong Relationship (Use THIS Compatibility Test Before You Get Attached)

Many of us have been on countless dead-end dates, excited by the wrong people, overlooking the right ones, and left wondering why finding a healthy relationship still feels so complicated. Jay sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury to explore why modern dating feels harder than ever and what we can actually do to build meaningful relationships in a world full of options. Together, they unpack the hidden psychology behind attraction, the myths we believe about “the spark,” and how dating apps have changed the way we evaluate potential partners. Logan shares how many people unknowingly sabotage their chances at love by chasing instant chemistry instead of long-term compatibility, reminding us that the strongest relationships are often built through curiosity, emotional safety, and shared values rather than immediate intensity. Jay and Logan also dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in cycles of disappointing relationships. From the pressure to find the “perfect” partner to the fear of vulnerability, they discuss how modern dating culture can create unrealistic expectations. Logan explains the difference between people who date intentionally and those who drift through relationships without clarity, and why small mindset shifts, like asking better questions, focusing on growth potential, and recognizing emotional availability, can dramatically change our outcomes. The conversation highlights how understanding our own habits, attachment styles, and communication patterns can help us show up more authentically in love. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing the Wrong People How to Look Beyond the First Date Spark How to Choose Compatibility Over Chemistry How to Date with Clear Intentions How to Avoid the “Maximizer” Dating Trap How to Ask Better Questions on Dates How to Build Attraction That Grows Over Time How to Date in a World of Endless Options If dating has ever made you feel discouraged, confused, or like you’re falling behind, you’re not alone. Building a meaningful relationship in today’s world can feel overwhelming, but the truth is that love isn’t about finding someone perfect, it’s about finding someone willing to grow with you. What are your dating blind spots? Take the quiz to find out! www.loganury.com/quiz [http://loganury.com/quiz]   If you’re ready to understand your patterns in love and build healthier relationships, check out How to Not Die Alone. Click here to order: https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622 [https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622]  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 The Problem with Modern Dating Expectations 04:16 The Three Types of Daters 06:30 Do You Believe In a Soulmate? 08:20 Why Dating Burnout Is So Common 10:23 Why Does Dating Feel So Difficult Today? 14:04 Why Hustle Culture Fails in Dating 15:46 Two Ways to Approach Dating Intentionally 18:52 What Is “Chalant” Dating? 21:35 When Rejection Becomes Content 24:12 The Rise of a Hesitant Generation 26:01 Why We’re Afraid to Make a Move 27:14 The Challenge of Male Vulnerability 29:23 Why Rejection Feels So Personal 32:21 The Fear of Choosing the Wrong Person 38:01 What Actually Predicts Long-Term Relationship Success? 44:36 The Biggest Lie We’re Told About Love 47:13 The Myth of the Movie-Moment First Meeting 49:22 Are Dating Apps Making Us Replaceable? 50:19 Start by Fixing Your Dating Profile 53:58 How to Optimize Your Dating Profile 01:08:07 Make It Easy for People to Engage with You 01:10:01 What Is Friction-Maxing? 01:12:11 “Rose Jail” on Hinge  01:15:58 Choosing a Partner Takes Real Effort 01:17:13 Do You Believe in  “Right Person, Wrong Time?” 01:18:22 Are People Giving Up Too Quickly on Love? 01:19:57 Post Date Eight  01:23:35 How Do You Define Love? 01:25:15 Is Love Alone Enough? 01:26:24 Falling in Love vs. Being in Love 01:27:50 What Truly Makes a Great Partner? 01:29:18 Are Your Standards Too High? 01:31:19 Understanding the “Ick” 01:35:23 This or That: Love Edition 01:40:36 Logan on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.loganury.com/ [https://www.loganury.com/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/loganury [https://www.instagram.com/loganury]  LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/loganury/ [http://linkedin.com/in/loganury/]  The Later Daters: https://www.netflix.com/ph-en/title/81665880 [https://www.netflix.com/ph-en/title/81665880] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

If You Feel Uncomfortable In New Social Situations, Listen to This (7 Science-Backed Shifts That Make Conversations Feel Easy)

Jay explores a moment many of us know all too well, walking into a room full of strangers and instantly feeling small, anxious, or out of place. Instead of assuming something is wrong with you, he reframes it through what’s actually happening in the brain. In those moments, your brain shifts into protection mode. It starts scanning for social threats and triggers a stress response. When that happens, the very things that help you connect, what to say, how to be yourself, how to feel at ease, can suddenly feel harder to access. What we often call awkwardness or insecurity isn’t really about who you are, it's your nervous system doing its job, trying to protect you from rejections. Jay then reframes social confidence in a powerful way: connection isn’t about impressing people, it’s about helping them feel comfortable around you. He shares seven practical shifts, like arriving with intention instead of expectations, calming your nervous system, staying genuinely curious, and focusing on the first few moments of interaction, to show that authentic presence is far more magnetic than charisma. Research shows that people are drawn to those who make them feel heard and understood, and the simple act of asking thoughtful follow-up questions can dramatically increase likability and connection. Instead of trying to be the most interesting person in the room, the real secret is becoming the most interested. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Calm Your Nervous System Before Social Events How to Make People Feel Safe Around You Instantly How to Make a Powerful First Impression in Seconds How to Position Yourself to Meet More People Naturally How to Make People Feel Heard and Valued If social situations have ever made you feel anxious, awkward, or unsure of yourself, remember this: nothing is wrong with you. Your brain is simply doing what it was designed to do, protect you. What people truly respond to is presence, curiosity, and the feeling of being genuinely seen.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter.Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:44 Do You Feel Anxious in New Social Settings? 05:47 #1: Replace Expectation with an Intention 08:07 #2: Be the First to Provide a Safe Space 11:42 #3: Stop Trying to Be Interesting & Be Interested 15:02 #4: Master the Art of the First Ten Seconds 18:16 #5: Use the Power of Proximity and Positioning 21:15 #6: Give People a Role 23:58 #7: Leave Before You're Done 26:27 Social Confidence Isn't About Impressing People See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Dr. Shannon Ritchey: Why You’re Not Seeing Results in The Gym (Do THIS 4-Part Strength Framework to Completely Transform your Body

What’s one thing you’ve been doing that might actually be making your progress harder, not better?  Jay sits down with Dr. Shannon Ritchey to discuss deeply ingrained beliefs we’ve been carrying about fitness, health, and our bodies, and what emerges is a powerful invitation to rethink everything. With warmth and clarity, Shannon challenges the idea that more effort always equals more results, revealing that many of us are stuck in cycles of overexertion, burnout, and frustration not because we’re doing too little but because we’re doing too much of the wrong things. Instead of chasing exhaustion, soreness, or perfection, Shannon introduces the idea of “gentle consistency”, a rhythm of training that prioritizes proper stimulus, recovery, and long-term progress. She dismantles myths like “no pain, no gain” and “more cardio equals more fat loss,” showing that true results come from intentional strength training, adequate recovery, and aligning your workouts with your lifestyle. More importantly, she highlights that fitness isn’t just physical, it’s deeply mental. When we let go of guilt, unrealistic expectations, and all-or-nothing thinking, we create space for a healthier, more compassionate relationship with ourselves. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Overtraining Your Body How to Build Strength Without Burnout How to Train Smarter, Not Harder How to Create a Sustainable Fitness Routine How to Balance Effort and Recovery How to Work With Your Body, Not Against It You don’t need to exhaust yourself to prove your effort or chase extremes to feel worthy of progress. What truly matters is building habits you can return to again and again, with patience and self-respect guiding the way. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 Debunking Common Exercise Myths 10:07 Building a Healthier Relationship With Your Body 14:11 Why Your Workout Isn’t Building Muscle 19:57 Why Structure Matters in Strength Training 22:37 Why Less Soreness Can Be Better 27:37 Choosing the Right Exercises That Work 29:34 Can You Actually Build Muscle Faster? 31:04 Why Protein Is Essential for Muscle Growth 32:44 Understanding Body Recomposition 35:44 What Is Effective Training Stimulus? 40:29 Should You Go Beyond 30 Reps? 43:34 Start With Bodyweight and Keep Moving 47:08 The Biggest Weight Loss Mistake 49:35 You Can Build Muscle at Any Age 50:19 Why Nutrition Is Key for Weight Loss 52:29 The Truth About Cheat Meals 56:57 Finding Balance in Your Fitness Routine 59:10 Why Feet Are the Most Neglected Body Part 01:02:41 Why You Should Train Your Eyes 01:04:19 How to Improve Your Posture 01:06:48 Simple Ways to Get Your Body Moving 01:09:25 Why Fitness Doesn’t Have to Be Complicated 01:10:34 Four Keys to Muscle Growth 01:13:46 Learning to Be Kind to Yourself 01:14:22 The Risk of Overtraining and Chronic Pain 01:15:16 Knowing When to Rest and Recover 01:16:56 Shannon on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://evlofitness.com/ [https://evlofitness.com/]  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@TheDr.ShannonShow [https://www.youtube.com/@TheDr.ShannonShow]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/evlofitness [https://www.facebook.com/evlofitness]   Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dr.shannon.dpt/ [https://www.instagram.com/dr.shannon.dpt/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/evlofitness/ [https://www.instagram.com/evlofitness/] LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannondpt [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannondpt]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.shannonritchey [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.shannonritchey]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@evlofitness [https://www.tiktok.com/@evlofitness] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Nischa Shah: #1 Financial Mistake People Make in Their 20s & 30s (Fix It With This Simple System)

Today, Jay sits down with his dear friend Nischa Shah, a former investment banker and accountant who walked away from a high-status corporate career to help people rethink their relationship with money, success, and freedom. Nischa reflects on the “dark phase” she experienced while climbing the corporate ladder, realizing that the prestige and polish of banking had created a deep disconnect from her true self. Nischa invites listeners to confront a powerful question many of us avoid: “Would I still be happy if I were living the same life five or ten years from now?” Jay and Nischa shift into practical strategies for navigating money anxiety. Nischa introduces the “ostrich effect,” which is the psychological tendency to avoid looking at our finances out of fear. She shares her simple but powerful “three-bucket” approach to personal finance, where income is intentionally divided between fundamentals, fun, and the “future you.” By reframing the goal from financial success to financial happiness, Nischa offers a clearer, more intentional way to manage money, one that prioritizes peace of mind over status or external validation. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Assess Your Career Alignment  How to Calculate a Financial Cushion  How to Manage Income Using the Three-Bucket Method  How to Audit Spending with Three Key Questions  How to Turn Financial Knowledge into Action  How to Strategize Paying Off Debt vs. Investing  How to Increase Your Value and Earning Potential  It is never too late to begin reclaiming your narrative, whether that starts with building a small financial safety net for peace of mind or finally turning knowledge into decisive action. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:54 Questioning the Traditional Path  03:22 The Courage to Walk Away  06:14 Calculating Your Financial Runway  07:04 Separating Your Self-Worth from Your Title  10:49 What is the Ostrich Effect?  13:45 Fighting Instant Gratification  14:28 Ask Yourself These Three Questions Before Buying Anything  18:30 Micro-Habits That Build Real Wealth  21:29 Spending With Intention   23:33 Why More Money Doesn’t Always Fix Money Problems  28:49 Financial Success vs. Financial Happiness  31:03 Is there Such a Thing as Passive Income?  34:06 Mastering Long-Term Investing  36:42 Should You Buy a Home?  37:42 Breaking the Scarcity Mindset 42:01 Stop Spending to Impress People 44:31 The Problem With Constantly Upgrading  45:55 How Can You Be of Value To Others?  49:07 Focus on Earning More, Not Just Cutting Costs  53:40 Defining Your Personal Freedom  54:52 The Entrepreneurship vs. Employment Trap  56:37 Investing in Your Own Skills  58:47 Short-Term Joy vs. Long-Term Security  01:00:50 We All Make Financial Mistakes!  01:01:31 It’s Never Too Late 01:02:48 This or That: Money Edition 01:06:34 Nischa on Final Five Episode Resources: YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@nischa [https://www.youtube.com/@nischa]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567018784328 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567018784328]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/nischa.me/ [https://www.instagram.com/nischa.me/]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/discover/nischa-shah [https://www.tiktok.com/discover/nischa-shah] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

7 ChatGPT Prompts That Will Actually Change Your Life

Today, Jay invites us to reconsider something we interact with every day but rarely use to its full potential. He challenges the way we see AI, not as a productivity shortcut, but as a powerful mirror for self-awareness. Instead of using it to draft emails or plan meals, Jay reframes it as a space for honest, structured conversations with ourselves, something many of us avoid. Jay breaks down practical ways to use AI as a tool for inner growth, from conducting a brutally honest life audit to uncovering hidden patterns of self-sabotage. He explains how our minds often protect us from uncomfortable truths, keeping us stuck in cycles we don’t fully understand. When we put our thoughts into words, we create enough distance from our emotions to start seeing patterns we’ve been missing. This isn’t about replacing human connection, but about strengthening it by first learning how to understand ourselves more clearly, honestly, and compassionately. In this episode you'll learn: How to Use AI for Deep Self-Awareness How to Turn AI Into Your Thinking Partner How to Build Your Personal Operating System How to Decode Your Emotional Triggers You don’t have to fix everything overnight. You just have to begin. Because the moment you choose to understand yourself more deeply is the moment your life starts to change. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 The Most Powerful Way to Use AI 02:47 Why ChatGPT Isn’t Just a Search Engine 05:25 #1: Do a Brutally Honest Life Audit 08:13 #2: Decoding Your Self-Sabotage Patterns  11:02 #3: Build Your Personal Operating System 13:44 #4: Practice the Hard Conversations First 17:08 #5: Build an Accountability System That Works 20:07 #6: Break Down Your Emotional Patterns in Real Time 23:00 #7: Write the Letter You Never Sent See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.