On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, Jay reframes how relationships are built—not through surface-level attraction or blind chemistry, but through clarity, communication, and intentionality. He presents nine transformative questions that often go unasked in modern dating, not because they’re unimportant, but because they’re uncomfortable. Jay explains that avoiding these conversations leads to assumptions, unmet expectations, and unnecessary heartache. He underscores that a healthy relationship isn't defined by constant harmony, but by the courage to ask, listen, and grow together.  Blending personal stories, practical wisdom, and psychological insight, Jay highlights how asking the right questions early can reveal compatibility, values, and emotional readiness. He breaks down how these conversations create a shared language, prevent miscommunication, and ultimately strengthen the foundation of any relationship. Rather than using questions as ultimatums or pressure points, he encourages approaching them with curiosity and empathy. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Ask What a Healthy Relationship Means to Your Partner How to Talk About Fears Around Commitment Without Pressure How to Discuss Conflict Styles Before an Argument Happens How to Know If Someone Is Truly Ready for a Relationship How to Align on Boundaries and Independence in Love Love doesn’t have to be a guessing game. The more willing we are to ask real questions and embrace honest conversations, the more aligned, peaceful, and fulfilling our relationships can become.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:03 The Conversations We Avoid in Modern Dating 03:36 #1: What Defines a Healthy Relationship? 08:17 #2: What are You Afraid of When It Comes to Commitment? 12:30 #3: How Do You Handle Conflicts? 19:44 #4: What are Your Long-Term Intentions? 22:02 #5: What Does Emotional Availability Mean to You? 25:10 #6: Do You Prefer to Recharge Alone? 27:49 #7: What Does Being Ready Mean to You? 31:30 #8: What Does Independence Look Like to You? 32:52 #9: What Are You Still Healing From? See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with author, artist, and creative mentor Amie McNee for a heartfelt conversation about reconnecting with the artist inside all of us. Known for her honest take on creativity and self-expression, Amie opens up about her journey, from battling self-doubt and shame to finding her voice as a writer and artist. Amie shares real stories of rejection, depression, and learning to embrace imperfection, reminding us that art doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs to be real. Jay and Amie explore the common myths that hold people back from creating. The idea that creativity has to be profitable, that art must be perfect to be valuable, or that we need permission to begin. They discuss how shame, perfectionism, and fear of judgment often silence our creative instincts, and how practices like journaling, self-mothering, and small daily acts of creativity can help revive them. They also reflect on the emotional vulnerability of sharing your work, the importance of protecting your inner artist, and the delicate balance between wanting to be seen and creating for the pure joy of expression. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Reclaim Your Creativity Without Shame How to Make Art When You’re Struggling with Self-Doubt How to Start Creating Even If You Don’t Feel Ready How to Deal with Fear of Judgment and Being Seen How to Turn Jealousy into Creative Motivation How to Promote Your Art Without Selling Out Whether someone is writing a novel, posting their first poem, or simply daring to call themselves an artist, this conversation is a gentle yet powerful reminder—they are on the path, and their voice matters. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:49 Are We Born Creative or Can It Be Learned? 02:12 Why Everyone Is an Artist in Their Own Way 03:50 What Happens When You Suppress Your Creativity 06:37 How Journaling and Self-Compassion Can Heal You 08:30 You Owe Everything to the Past Version of You 13:03 How to Move Through the Fear of Being Judged 16:07 Why Art Exposes Both Light and Darkness 17:25 Let Go of Needing External Validation  19:30 Everyone Just Wants to Be Seen and Heard 24:31 Stop Dismissing the Parts of You That Want More 26:28 Stuck in the Wrong Job? Try Small Creative Steps 30:56 How Perfectionism Fuels Procrastination 33:11 Embrace the Beautiful Chaos of Art 34:17 What the 30 Circles Test Reveals About Creativity 36:44 How to Share Your Art Without Losing Yourself 39:07 Real Artists Are Meant to Break the Rules 40:29 What to do When No One Sees Your Art  41:54 If You Hate It, Stop Doing It 44:19 Don’t Chase Virality, Make Meaningful Art 46:40 Yes, You Can Make Money from Your Art 50:10 Every Creative Act Has Value So Honor It 53:12 Charging for Your Art Is Not Selling Out 57:39 Oversaturation Is a Myth, There’s Room for You 01:00:53 Your Voice Is One of a Kind Use It 01:02:25 Use Jealousy to Guide, Not Derail You 01:03:49 How to Inspire Others by Owning Your Path 01:07:12 Amie on Final Five    Episode Resources: Amie Mcnee | Website [https://www.amiemcnee.com/] Amie Mcnee | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredtowrite] Amie Mcnee | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/AmieFionaMcNee/] Amie Mcnee | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@amiemcnee] Amie Mcnee | Books [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B09DKVNGNJ] We Need Your Art: Stop Messing Around and Make Something [https://www.amazon.com/We-Need-Your-Art-Something/dp/B0DGJTZQ3X/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=Vsexu&content-id=amzn1.sym.0fb2cce1-1ca4-439a-844b-8ad0b1fb77f7&pf_rd_p=0fb2cce1-1ca4-439a-844b-8ad0b1fb77f7&pf_rd_r=137-1736422-2037810&pd_rd_wg=hMlz4&pd_rd_r=01374e7b-7304-4b52-bb65-b950e1c7d768&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Today, Jay welcomes back world-renowned neurosurgeon and neuroscientist Dr. Rahul Jandial for a mind-expanding conversation about memory, attention, and the brain’s incredible potential. Dr. Jandial unpacks the different types of memory and explains why we often forget things like where we left our keys or what we had for dinner. He reassures us that not all memory slips are signs of aging or illness, and shows us how understanding memory can help us feel more in control of our minds. Jay and Dr. Jandial also dive deep into working memory, the kind of memory that helps us juggle tasks, make quick decisions, and stay mentally sharp. They explore how things like stress, distraction, and even poor sleep can weaken our focus, while simple changes like better digital habits, brain-training games, and quality rest can help us stay mentally strong.   Using relatable examples, from parenting to surgery to driving, Dr. Jandial shares how we can train our brains the same way we train our bodies: with just the right amount of challenge, practice, and consistency. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Strengthen Your Working Memory How to Train Your Brain Like a Muscle How to Handle Emotional Memories Without Being Overwhelmed How to Protect Your Brain as You Age How to Spot Early Signs of Dementia in Loved Ones How to Create a Brain-Healthy Daily Routine How to Stay Mentally Sharp in a Distracting World If you're looking to improve your memory, support a loved one, or feel more mentally present, this episode offers practical tools and powerful insights to help you live with greater clarity and intention. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:54 Is Your Memory Really Getting Worse? 06:28 What’s Distracting Your Working Memory 10:26 How to Manage Distractions and Stay Focused 13:39 Understanding the 3 Main Types of Memory 19:05 What’s Distracting Your Working Memory 22:43 Why the Right Amount of Stress Helps You Grow 25:22 Yes, Older Adults Can Have Strong Working Memory 29:14 How Memory Is Built Inside the Brain’s Ecosystem 33:16 The Critical Gap Between Thoughts and Actions 35:31 Simple Ways to Train and Improve Your Focus 40:28 Why Negative Memories Stick With Us 48:55 Three Daily Habits That Keep Your Brain Sharp  51:02 Why Therapy Isn’t One Size Fits All 55:18 Redirecting Your Focus Away From Painful Thoughts 58:30 Debunking the 20 Percent Brain Power Myth 01:00:34 What’s Behind the Rise in Cancer Rates? 01:05:15 A Smarter Way to Take Care of Your Mind and Body Episode Resources: Dr. Rahul Jandial | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drjandial/] Dr. Rahul Jandial | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/DrJandial/] This Is Why You Dream: What Your Sleeping Brain Reveals About Your Waking Life [https://www.amazon.com/This-Why-You-Dream-Sleeping/dp/0593655710/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.De-waoqWvNH4k8fUve2IlhfxozJ1mDnOx9UqxWefpCIWNv1HEBCYpYU8DpKK9T1rwmH8MjfvG4I_Xo7gKquLLVgaoIpZHBLPqVwnJzIGWP8.F1q9IDPMEHdjqsyOnWdNP6JOKN6e2T_Jx7wg4vlBMjg&dib_tag=se&qid=1719998656&refinements=p_27%3A+MD%5CcPhD+Rahul+Jandial&s=books&sr=1-1&text=PhD+Rahul+Jandial%2C+MD] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Is your to-do list stressing you out? How often do you feel like you’re just trying to catch up? Today, Jay dives deep into the power of slowing down—not as a luxury, but as a necessary life strategy. He walks us through eight actionable and science-backed steps to feel more present and connected to your day–no yoga mat, silent retreat, or drastic life change required. Whether it’s taking five-minute tech breaks, adding little rituals between tasks, focusing on one thing at a time, or even just adjusting your posture, each practice is a reminder that mindfulness isn’t something we need to schedule, it's something we can embody.  Jay reminds us that even the tiniest moments—like taking three deep breaths at a red light or saying your actions out loud—can pull us back into the present. Through real-life stories and powerful research, he shows how we can snap out of autopilot and find calm, clarity, and a sense of control, even on the busiest days. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Slow Down to Speed Up Your Day How to Use Time Anchoring to Manage Stress and Anxiety How to Transition Tasks with Micro-Rituals, Not Rush How to Narrate Your Actions to Stay Present in the Moment Whether you’re juggling back-to-back meetings, dealing with family chaos, or just craving a little peace, this episode is your gentle reminder to slow down, take a breath, and tap back into the calm that’s always been there—one mindful moment at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:09 How to Reconnect with Your Day and Move with Intention 03:25 Step #1 Take 5 Minute Tech Breaks to Recharge Focus 06:45 Step #2 Pause Emotionally to Regain Clarity 10:47 Step #3 Simplify Your Choices to Avoid Overwhelm 12:47 Step #4 Are You Working on Too Many Things at a Time? 16:01 Step #5 Reset Your Posture to Shift Your Mindset 20:40 Step #6 Time Can Be Your Anchor—Not Your Stressor 24:08 Step #7 Create a Reset Ritual Before Your Next Task 27:56 Step #8 Narrate Your Actions Out Loud to Stay Present See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Have you been pretending to be okay? Is there something you’ve been keeping inside? Today, Jay welcomes model, digital creator, and mother of three, Nara Smith, for an intimate conversation that blends vulnerability, wisdom, and humility. Known online for her serene ASMR-style cooking videos and elevated fashion-forward kitchen aesthetic, Nara opens up about the personal journey that shaped her—from her childhood in Germany to signing with IMG Models at just 14. Together, Jay and Nara explore the gap between her curated online image and her lived experience, touching on childhood influences, struggles with body image, and the courage it took to forge a creative career on her own terms.  Nara candidly opens up about the physical and emotional toll of working in the modeling industry at such a young age, the silent battles with her body through eczema and lupus, and how motherhood reshaped her priorities. She shares how cooking from scratch became a lifeline, first as a necessity to manage her health, then as a passion, and eventually as a business. As she and Jay reflect on marriage, communication, and the complexities of being modern, working mom, Nara’s groundedness and clarity shine through. Nara opens up about her love story with Lucky Blue Smith—their whirlwind but intentional path to marriage—and the beautifully messy reality of raising three kids. It’s a powerful reminder that real joy and purpose come from living true to yourself. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Balance Career, Motherhood, and Marriage How to Heal Through Food and From-Scratch Cooking How to Set Healthy Boundaries on Social Media How to Communicate Better in a Relationship How to Stay Grounded in a Fast-Paced World How to Know When You’ve Met the Right Partner How to Handle Online Criticism with Grace No matter where you are in your journey, whether you’re building a career, navigating relationships, chasing a dream, or simply trying to keep up with life’s daily demands, remember this: you don’t have to fit into anyone else’s mold to be worthy. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:16 Blending a Love for Fashion and Cooking 04:44 The Grandmother Who Shaped Her Life 07:57 Starting a Modeling Career at 14 09:15 How to Put Confidence Before Comparison 10:02 Protecting Kids from the Dangers of the Online World  11:59 How Early Parental Trust Can Fuel Success 12:49 Why You Should Never Sacrifice Your Health 14:03 Finding Real Love in the Digital World 17:01 How Modern Dating Has Evolved 18:55 Making Young Marriage Work 21:51 The Power of Knowing What You Want 23:45 Building a Relationship on Shared Values 26:30 Marriage Is Both Collaboration and Compromise 29:45 Why Fast-Paced Dating Doesn’t Work 30:54 Working Together to Strengthen Your Relationship 33:31 Communication Is Key to Connection 35:56 Becoming a Parent on Your Own Timeline  38:29 Your Life, Your Choices 42:18 Own and Celebrate Your Path 44:05 Don’t Let People’s Projections Define You 47:32 What You See Online Isn’t the Whole Truth 50:02 Facing Online Negativity with Strength 52:05 Other’s Opinions Don’t Determine Your Worth 53:25 Choosing What to Share and What to Keep Private 56:10 How Food and Diet Can Transform Your Health 01:00:29 Finding Joy and Creativity in Cooking 01:01:24 How Her Online Persona Was Born 01:04:05 The Reality Behind the Content 01:06:48 Simple Daily Habits That Strengthen a Relationship 01:09:44 Tackling the Hard Stuff with Joy 01:13:04 Dressing for Confidence and Productivity 01:17:58 Living Life on Your Own Terms 01:20:23 Nara on Final Five Episode Resources: Nara Smith | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@naraazizasmith] Nara Smith | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/naraaziza] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.