On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jefferson Fisher: The #1 Communication Mistake People Make in Arguments (Do THIS Before You Respond to Instantly Lower Tension)

Today, Jay sits down with communication expert Jefferson Fisher to explore why the conversations we avoid often shape our lives the most. Drawing from his experience as a trial lawyer turned teacher, Jefferson shares a powerful truth: communication isn’t about winning arguments, it’s about building peace. When we learn to face difficult conversations head on with clarity, courage, and compassion we stop people-pleasing, reconnect with who we truly are, and create deeper, more honest relationships. Avoidance may feel safer in the moment, but it always comes at a cost. Together, Jay and Jefferson unpack why so many conflicts spiral, not because of what’s said, but because of what’s heard. From romantic relationships to family dynamics, they reveal how most arguments are really about the need to feel understood, valued, and safe. Jefferson shares simple yes transformative tools, like asking “What did you hear?” or pausing to breathe before responding, that help slow heated moments and turn reaction into connection. He explains that true emotional intelligence is the ability to repair quickly, validate feelings without needing to agree, and choose understanding over defensiveness. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Face Difficult Conversations Without Fear How to Say the Hard Thing Without Starting a Fight How to Stay Calm When You Feel Triggered How to Make Someone Feel Understood Without Agreeing How to Repair a Conversation After You Mess Up How to Slow Down Arguments Before They Escalate How to Build Deeper Relationships Through Better Conversations Every honest sentence, every pause to breathe, every moment you choose understanding over reaction is a step toward a more peaceful life. Growth doesn’t come from avoiding what’s hard, it comes from meeting it with intention, patience, and compassion. Get your own copy of Jefferson’s latest book, The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More [https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/462125/the-next-conversation-by-fisher-jefferson/9780241719886]  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 How Good Communication Creates a Life of Peace 02:14 Why Facing Difficult Conversations Changes Everything 04:53 Your Fear of Upsetting Others Is Valid 06:45 The Biggest Communication Mistake We All Make 09:45 Can You Actually Change Someone’s Mind? 12:31 How to Reach Someone Who Refuses to Communicate 16:17 Winning Arguments Should Never Be the Goal 19:43 What to Do When Your Partner Triggers You 21:21 The Patience Required to Create Real Connection 25:42 How Should I Respond to the Silent Treatment? 30:13 The Clearest Sign Someone Doesn’t Truly Care 32:10 When a Relationship May Be Beyond Repair 35:00 Why Radical Honesty Strengthens Relationships 38:03 When Your Partner Can’t Handle the Hard Conversations 41:31 The Small Moments Where Repair Gets Missed 44:20 Do You Feel Judged by Your Parents? 51:53 How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty 55:14 How to Stop Saying Things You Don’t Mean 58:04 Setting Boundaries That Actually Stick  01:00:37 What to Do When a Coworker Keep Interrupting You 01:03:15 Overexplaining Undermines Your Confidence 01:06:06 Breaking the Us vs. Them Mentality 01:11:25 Jefferson on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/ [https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/]   Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher/ [https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher/]  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXjnpu6lK0HoUyOMh2ZBwhQ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXjnpu6lK0HoUyOMh2ZBwhQ]  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson [https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson]   Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/ [https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/]   X | https://x.com/jefferson_fishr [https://x.com/jefferson_fishr]  LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

If You’re Going Through a Breakup, Listen To This

If a breakup has ever left you feeling physically sick, emotionally lost, and not feeling like yourself, nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving. Today, Jay speaks directly to anyone navigating the quiet devastation of heartbreak, reminding them that nothing is “wrong” with them for feeling the way they do. He explains that breakups don’t just hurt emotionally, they activate the same neural pathways as physical pain and withdrawal. What you’re experiencing isn’t weakness or failure; it’s grief. Jay reframes the end of a relationship not simply as losing a person, but as losing a future you imagined, the routines your nervous system depended on, and the version of yourself that existed within that relationship. Jay walks us through the five stages of breakup grief, showing how numbness is a form of protection, why the mind gets stuck in rumination after loss, and how anger can signal the return of self-respect. Rather than rushing to “move on,” he encourages simple practices like building small routines, writing down obsessive thoughts, setting boundaries, and resisting the highlight reel your mind creates that makes you only remember the good. The stages aren’t a straight line, but a map that helps you move through uncertainty with more grace and self-compassion. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Rebuild Your Routine After a Breakup How to Break the Cycle of Rumination How to Express Anger in a Healthy Way How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Healing How to Move Through Sadness Without Rushing It How to Create Meaning After Loss Be gentle with yourself in this season. Lean on the people who show up for you. Rebuild your routines slowly. One day, this chapter will no longer be the center of your story, it will be the turning point that makes you wiser, stronger, and more secure in who you are. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:19 Biggest Mistake Made During a Break Up 02:34 You’re Actually Experiencing Grief  07:40 Stage #1: Shock and Denial 10:12 2 Ways to Overcome the Shock 12:58 Stage #2: Bargaining and Obsession 17:45 Stage #3: Anger and Protest 21:49 Stage #4: Sadness and Depression 24:33 Stage #5: Acceptance and Meaning 26:24 This is How You Heal See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

WORLD’S TOP OBGYN Dr. Aliabadi: The #1 Hormone Problem Affecting Millions of Women (And The 4 Changes That Can Reverse It)

For many women, the real challenge isn’t just unexplained health problems, it’s being heard when they seek help. Jay sits down with Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi, or "Dr. A", to unpack a silent crisis affecting millions of women around the world: undiagnosed PCOS and endometriosis. This isn’t just a discussion about fertility, but a masterclass on hormones, inflammation, mental health, and the painful reality of medical gaslighting. PCOS, a condition shaped by insulin resistance, hormonal imbalance, chronic inflammation, and neurological disruption, is often overlooked, leaving women struggling with anxiety, depression, weight gain, irregular periods, and infertility without answers. Dr. A shares how insulin resistance acts as the “first domino,” triggering a domino effect that impacts everything from ovulation to mood, and emphasizes that true healing requires addressing all four pillars, not just masking symptoms with birth control. Dr. A challenges the outdated belief that painful periods are “normal,” explaining that severe pain, painful sex, chronic bloating, bladder symptoms, and bowel discomfort are signs something deeper may be wrong. She reveals that diagnosis takes an average of 9–11 years, and that many women are told their pain is psychological before they’re ever taken seriously. Through both science and lived clinical experience, she makes it clear: when inflammation and hormones are out of balance, mental health suffers too. Anxiety, depression, brain fog, and eating disorders are not personal failings, they are often physiological signals that something deeper is happening in the body. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Recognize the Signs of PCOS Early How to Reduce Insulin Resistance Naturally How to Tell if Your Period Pain Is “Normal” How to Protect Your Fertility in Your 20s and 30s How to Balance Hormones Beyond Birth Control How to Spot Hidden Symptoms of Endometriosis How to Lower Inflammation Through Lifestyle Changes If there’s one thing to take away from this conversation, it’s this: your body is not working against you, it’s communicating with you. Pain is not weakness. It is a signal and you deserve to have those signals taken seriously. To learn more about Dr. A’s advocacy on women’s health, check out: https://www.shemdpodcast.com/ [https://www.shemdpodcast.com/]  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:58 Are We Facing a Fertility Crisis? 03:58 What Is PCOS? 07:13 Why PCOS Often Goes Undiagnosed 09:15 The Impact of Insulin Resistance 15:06 Making PCOS Patients Insulin-Sensitive 19:37 The Nutritional Effects of GLP-1 Medications 22:14 High Androgens and Chronic Inflammation 25:39 How Hormonal Imbalances Affect the Brain 29:25 Why Birth Control Alone Isn’t Enough 31:23 How to Know If You Have PCOS 35:01 Painful Periods Are Not Normal 36:47 What Is Endometriosis? 46:07 The Most Effective Treatment Approach for Endometriosis 49:20 The Risks of Ignoring Endometriosis 53:09 How to Use Birth Control Strategically 56:04 What to Do If Egg Freezing Isn’t an Option 57:53 The Link Between Endometriosis and Leaky Gut 01:00:33 Potential IVF Complications Explained 01:04:38 A Scientific Approach to Infertility 01:10:01 What to Do If You’re Not Getting Pregnant Episode Resources: Website: https://ovii.com/ [https://ovii.com/]  Website: https://www.draliabadi.com/ [https://www.draliabadi.com/]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrej0PO97bg8GRMogtcKbbA [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrej0PO97bg8GRMogtcKbbA]  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThaisAliabadiMd [https://www.facebook.com/ThaisAliabadiMd]  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drthaisaliabadi/ [https://www.instagram.com/drthaisaliabadi/]  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

HILARY DUFF: The Human Behind the Headlines (Her Most Honest Chapter Yet)

Today, Jay sits down with cultural icon Hilary Duff for a raw and honest conversation about  growth, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to evolve in public. Having grown up alongside an entire generation, Hilary reflects on what it means to return to music after more than a decade with her sixth studio album, Luck or Something. She opens up about shedding politeness in favor of truth, embracing maturity without losing the joy of her past, and finally feeling rooted in who she is, not just as an artist, but as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a daughter. Jay and Hilary explore the hidden weight of fame, the loss of anonymity at a young age, and the resilience required to stay grounded in an industry that constantly defines you before you can define yourself. Hilary speaks vulnerably about navigating eating disorders, divorce, co-parenting, estrangement with family, and the reality of loving people through complicated relationships. Through it all, she shares how motherhood reshaped her priorities, how love taught her to accept stability over chaos, and how creativity became a necessary way of reconnecting with herself. Hilary’s reflections reveal a powerful truth: what the world often calls luck is usually years of quiet strength, hard choices, and inner work.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to Trust Your Intuition Over “Luck” How to Grow Without Rejecting Your Past How to Accept Healthy Love (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar) How to Break Family Patterns Without Losing Compassion How to Balance Motherhood and Personal Ambition How to Hold Joy and Pain at the Same Time How to Reinvent Yourself Without Losing Who You Are You are allowed to choose steadiness over chaos, truth over politeness, and peace over performance. Growth isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s simply deciding you don’t want to repeat the same pattern again. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:04 The Joy of Being Celebrated 02:46 Choosing Truth Over Politeness 05:15 What’s a Childhood Memory That Keeps You Grounded? 06:56 The Truth About Growing Up in the Public Eye 11:38 Learning to Feel at Home in Your Own Skin 14:22 Where Real Confidence Comes From 19:08 Opening Your Heart to Love Again 21:28 Understanding the Weight of Marriage 25:03 Deciding to Fully Commit 26:24 Trusting Your Intuition 27:28 Owning the Work Behind Your Success 30:36 The Burden of Being the Family Peacemaker 36:18 Navigating Divorce with Intention 38:26 Sharing Your Story on Your Terms 43:50 Holding Joy and Hardship at the Same Time 46:44 Healing and Connecting Through Music 51:49 The Hilary Duff Renaissance  54:50 Staying Attuned to Your Children’s Needs 01:00:59 Building Confidence as a Parent 01:02:26 How Did You Name Your Kids? 01:04:27 Disney-Era “Would You Rather” 01:08:42 Hilary on Final Five  Episode Resources: Website | https://www.hilaryduff.com/ [https://www.hilaryduff.com/]  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw]  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/ [https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/]  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/ [https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/]  TikTok | https://x.com/hilaryduff [https://x.com/hilaryduff]  X | https://x.com/hilaryduff [https://x.com/hilaryduff] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

6-Step Science-Backed Morning Reset (Boost Focus, Lower Stress & Improve Your Mood All Day!)

So many of us wake up and immediately feel behind. We reach for our phones, scroll through other people’s lives, and start reacting before we’ve even chosen how we want to feel. Today, Jay shares a powerful truth: the first 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up are the most programmable moments of your day. Your brain is in a unique, highly impressionable state and instead of using that window intentionally, most of us give it away. Jay breaks down six simple, science-backed habits that can transform your mornings without extreme routines or unrealistic expectations. He explains why hitting snooze actually makes you more tired, how morning sunlight boosts your energy and improves your sleep later that night, and how just 60 to 90 seconds of cold water can build stress resilience. He also shares the benefits of seven minutes of movement, a short handwritten journaling practice to clear mental clutter, and why delaying your phone for the first hour protects your focus and emotional baseline. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Hitting Snooze for Good How to Reset Your Nervous System in 90 Seconds How to Activate Your Brain in 7 Minutes How to Increase Focus Before 8AM How to Protect Your First Hour from Distractions How to Reprogram Your Mind Before the Day Begins Start with one habit. Let it be simple. Let it be sustainable. Because when you protect your mornings, you strengthen your mindset. And when you strengthen your mindset, you change the direction of your days and eventually, your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:13 Here's Something Nobody Tells You About Your Morning 02:09 Step #1: Stop Hitting the Snooze Button 06:01 Step #2: Sunlight in Your Eyes 09:35 Step #3: The 90-Second Cold Shower 12:59 Step #4: Move for 7 Minutes not 60 16:10 Step #5: The Brain Dump Journal 19:56 Step #6: Delay Phone Scrolling in the First Hour See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.