Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting

2908: How to Deal With Extreme Family Dependency AND Spotting Codependency in Friendships by Sara Stanizai on Balanced Connection

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com [https://oldpodcast.com/]. Episode 2908: Sara Stanizai explores how extreme family dependency and codependent friendships often masquerade as closeness while masking deep dysfunction. She outlines clear signs to look for, like blurred boundaries, emotional fatigue, and unhealthy control, and offers tools like journaling, boundary-setting, and therapy to help you reclaim your autonomy and build healthier, more sustainable relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.prospecttherapy.com/blog/2023/1/27/how-to-deal-with-extreme-family-dependency [https://www.prospecttherapy.com/blog/2023/1/27/how-to-deal-with-extreme-family-dependency] & https://www.prospecttherapy.com/blog/2023/1/20/part-1-spotting-codependency-in-friendships [https://www.prospecttherapy.com/blog/2023/1/20/part-1-spotting-codependency-in-friendships] Quotes to ponder: "You can't choose your family. It's fair even to say that you can't choose what qualities and characteristics you inherit from your family." "Dependency can take on a form of loving and passive behavior, but also anger and manipulation." "Neither the victim nor the fixer are sustainable roles in a friendship."

2907: Beautiful Beneficial Boundaries by Shana Olmstead on Healthy Limits

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com [https://oldpodcast.com/]. Episode 2907: Shana Olmstead explores how setting compassionate, firm boundaries can radically improve emotional well-being and transform relationships, even the most complicated ones with children or parents. Learn how honoring your own needs not only liberates you from guilt and resentment, but also supports the growth of others by encouraging self-responsibility and mutual respect. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://shanaolmstead.com/2019/05/07/beautiful-beneficial-boundaries/ [https://shanaolmstead.com/2019/05/07/beautiful-beneficial-boundaries/] Quotes to ponder: "Boundaries help relationships stay healthy." "If you continue to sacrifice yourself too much in service of other people you aren't allowing yourself to grow and shine that beautiful light you have inside of you in order to help others." "You can do this with love and compassion, but if you don't you will continue feeling resentful and that is not healthy for the relationship."

2906: How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself by Rose Lounsbury on Self-Compassion

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com [https://oldpodcast.com/]. Episode 2906: Rose Lounsbury reflects on the deeply ingrained habit of self-criticism and how it's often hidden beneath a polished exterior of achievement and productivity. By asking herself the deceptively simple question "Was I kind to myself?" each day, she reveals how cultivating self-compassion can radically transform how we define success and emotional well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://roselounsbury.com/how-to-stop-being-mean-to-yourself/ [https://roselounsbury.com/how-to-stop-being-mean-to-yourself/] Quotes to ponder: "Being kind to myself is Good Day Metric #1 because it's the big daddy of them all, the one that I must do if I want any of the other ones to matter." "Much of what people perceive as self-confidence in me is simply the clever way I've learned to deal with feelings of inadequacy." "I've gotten so good at playing 'well functioning and successful adult' that I can even fool myself most of the time."

2904: Breaking Our Addiction to Home Updates - The Hidden Money We Saved by Selling Our House by Chris of Keep Thrifty

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com [https://oldpodcast.com/]. Episode 2904: Chris from KeepThrifty reveals how selling their home helped his family break free from an endless cycle of remodeling projects that drained time, energy, and money. By embracing the limitations of apartment living, they discovered a surprising sense of peace, contentment, and financial freedom, allowing them to redirect resources toward meaningful experiences together. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.keepthrifty.com/breaking-addiction-home-updates/ [https://www.keepthrifty.com/breaking-addiction-home-updates/] Quotes to ponder: "Every one of these updates would have increased the value of our home but they would have seriously interfered with our financial ability to pursue other dreams." "Our lack of ability to take action has left us feeling freer than we did before." "Home isn't about a building, the walls, the furniture, or finishes. It's about the people, the time together, and the life we are able to live."

2905: The One Question You Can Ask to Stop Fighting With Your Partner by Dr. Margaret Rutherford on Healthy Connection

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com [https://oldpodcast.com/]. Episode 2905: Dr. Margaret Rutherford reveals how one simple shift in perspective can defuse recurring conflict and bring more compassion into your relationship. By challenging the instinct to take things personally, you can interrupt destructive cycles and reconnect with your partner's humanity, even in moments of stress or misunderstanding. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/the-one-question-you-can-ask-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/ [https://drmargaretrutherford.com/the-one-question-you-can-ask-to-stop-fighting-with-your-partner/] Quotes to ponder: "You interpret their actions to be about you, maybe even to the point you think they are intentionally attempting to hurt you." "Most of us want to get along and have the best assumed of us, to be given the benefit of the doubt." "You don't wake up and hope you can make your partner miserable…"