Muse Yourself

What if you could show up in your relationships feeling completely secure? What if you could know that you’re enough, exactly as you are? Chances are you’ve come across the term ‘attachment style’ before - whether we’re aware of it or not, most of us default to one of 4 main attachment types: secure (the holy grail!) anxious, avoidant or anxious-avoidant (also known as fearful avoidant, or disorganized.) If you’ve ever found yourself caught in unhealthy relationship cycles, repeating the same patterns over and over and not understanding why, chances are your attachment style is to blame. The good news? We CAN change. In this episode, licensed therapist Lauren Walsh is back to explain attachment theory and break down how understanding the root cause of our behaviour is the key to finally being able to rewrite the patterns keeping us stuck. Because we ALL deserve healthy relationships - with others and most importantly, with ourselves. TOPICS WE COVER: -The main attachment styles and the different characteristics of each -How starting to truly understand our attachment style can help us begin to rewrite unhealthy relationship patterns  -Inner child healing and the role understanding our attachment style plays in helping heal childhood wounds -People pleasing - the role attachment style plays in people pleasing tendencies both in and out of romantic relationships -The common signs that someone is giving too much or losing themselves in a relationship because of an anxious attachment style  -How we can set - and maintain - proper boundaries when we have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, particularly when we get pushback from the people around us -Navigating a dating scene that’s more geared towards short-term connections if you’re someone who’s anxiously attached -How to spot the early signs of unhealthy attachment patterns in new relationships and start to course-correct -How we can take charge of our own healing and take steps to become more securely attached, so that we can attract healthy love, and become the best version of ourselves, FOR ourselves And SO much more! If you enjoyed this episode, catch up on part one HERE [https://gemmaj.substack.com/p/25-fear-of-being-single-forever-dating] Until next time X RESOURCES: Find Lauren’s Instagram HERE [https://www.instagram.com/bekindtoyourmindcounselingnj/] Connect + work with her for coaching or therapy HERE [https://www.bekindtoyourmindcounselingnj.com/] Listen to the ‘Let’s Go Girls’ Podcast HERE [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/lets-go-girls-podcast/id1720570244] Find the book ‘Attached’ HERE [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Attached-Identify-attachment-style-perfect-ebook/dp/B0050CJNJC] Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6crrBEwJRMHt5k5YvYFhNn] JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ [https://gemmaj.substack.com/] if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/hsowx27UFe4eo1pC6] Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe [https://gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

PSA: Your toxic traits aren’t that toxic In this episode I’m getting into why it’s so important that we remember the difference between working on being the best version of ourselves, and trying to CHANGE all of the things that make us, US. If you’re overwhelmed and tired of the personal development and coaching industries making you feel like every single trait that makes up your entire personality is something that needs to be ‘healed’ from - then this is the episode for you! Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6crrBEwJRMHt5k5YvYFhNn] JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ [https://gemmaj.substack.com/] if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/hsowx27UFe4eo1pC6] Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe [https://gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

I know you want to build a better life. I know you have big goals. I know you want to create your world. I see you… BUT, if like me, you’ve been guilty of demanding WAY too much from yourself, setting expectations that you’d never expect someone else to meet, then feeling like a failure when you inevitably burn out? Today's episode is the mindset shift - and the pep-talk - you need to hear. Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6crrBEwJRMHt5k5YvYFhNn] JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ [https://gemmaj.substack.com/] if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/hsowx27UFe4eo1pC6] Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe [https://gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

How far have you come in the last 12 months…really? How much have you actually stopped to give yourself credit for? If you’re an over-thinker, an overachiever, always in a hurry to get to where you’re going and forgetting to give an occasional glance backwards to see how far you’ve come - this episode is for you… I’m also sharing the one trick that never fails when you’re caught in the spiral of feeling like you’re not making progress on your goals fast enough and need a reality check on how far you’ve ACTUALLY come! Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6crrBEwJRMHt5k5YvYFhNn] JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ [https://gemmaj.substack.com/] if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/hsowx27UFe4eo1pC6] Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe [https://gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(There is SO much goodness packed into this episode it was literally impossible to think of a title that does it justice.) In what’s been one of my favourite episodes to record so far, I’m talking to licensed therapist, couples counselor and relationship coach, Lauren Walsh. Through Lauren’s extensive career in mental health and her own private practice, she helps women heal from past relationship trauma so that they can choose healthier love and become the highest version of themselves. We cover so much ground in this episode but ultimately it all comes back to how to build the best relationship with yourself first so that we can get to a place of making healthier choices… So whether you’re trying (successfully or unsuccessfully) to navigate the dating world, you’re in a relationship, you’re married, or you just want to build a stronger relationship with yourself - there will be something in this conversation for you! TOPICS WE COVER: -Fear of being single - how we can start to shift our mindset around being single so that we can avoid making fear-based decisions that won’t make us happy long term -Self-love: How to overcome the feeling of being ‘lost’ when we aren’t in a relationship and build a solid foundation in ourselves so that we never feel pressure to settle for a situation that isn’t right -Getting to know YOU, the first steps of building a relationship with yourself when you have no idea where to start! -Dating after heartbreak - how to balance self-protection with still allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and open to finding love again after heartbreak -When to stay and when to go - knowing when you’re ‘settling’ versus making healthy compromises in a relationship -Can we really find love on dating apps?! -Attracting HEALTHY love - habits to look for in a healthy relationship - and how to maintain one! And SO much more!  Enjoy! X Resources: Find Lauren’s Instagram HERE [https://www.instagram.com/bekindtoyourmindcounselingnj/] Connect + work with her for coaching or therapy HERE [https://www.bekindtoyourmindcounselingnj.com/] Listen to the ‘Let’s Go Girls’ Podcast HERE [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/lets-go-girls-podcast/id1720570244] Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whats-your-story/id1725984271] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/6crrBEwJRMHt5k5YvYFhNn] JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ [https://gemmaj.substack.com/] if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ [https://forms.gle/hsowx27UFe4eo1pC6] Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe [https://gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]