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#82 - She Was Giving 70 and He Gave Nothing Back

1 h 14 min · 24. juni 2026
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This week, we're talking about what happens when one person in a relationship sets every standard, gives everything, and then gets blamed for wanting equal effort back. The real-life frustration of realizing someone got comfortable on your generosity, and why the people in your corner telling you to give less might be saying more about them than about you. Whether you have been the one giving 70, the one who got comfortable, or the friend watching it happen from the outside, this episode will feel like sitting with two people who are not afraid to say what nobody else will. We also play a full round of Asking for a Friend covering mental health days, sex ed, overpayment ethics, ghosting, 90s R&B opinions, and the true cost of partying like you're 21 when your body is very much not. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. Show Notes: •       Reddit story: man upset his girlfriend stopped doing 70 percent of the relationship effort and now wants 50/50 •       Who actually sets the standard in relationships and what happens when you change it •       Jealous friends vs. genuinely bad advice: how to tell the difference •       Asking for a Friend cards: sex ed (parents vs. schools), mental health days, overpayment ethics, choosing your baby's sex, stalking your partner's ex, partying in your 30s, baby name theft, ghosting, Backstreet Boys vs NSync, marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection between friends, culture and sex talk, couples therapy •       The viral graduation split, the withheld diploma, and the scholarship she may have lost •       Jocelyn's personal mid-30s highway story and why they do mimosas now •       Why couples therapy works only when both people actually want to be there Timestamps: •       [00:00] Donell Jones, f***boys, and 90s R&B we still know every word to •       [12:00] Reddit: She gave 70, he gave nothing, now he's upset it's 50/50 •       [19:00] When your friends tell you you're doing too much •       [23:00] Asking for a Friend: sex ed, parents vs. schools •       [25:00] The graduation split that may have cost her a scholarship •       [31:00] Zero red flags: suspicious or just lucky •       [32:00] Mental health days and why powering through is a lie •       [36:00] If you get overpaid, do you return it •       [39:00] Choosing your baby's sex •       [40:00] Stalking your partner's ex and Jocelyn's personal cautionary tale •       [44:00] Partying like you're 21 when you're in your 30s •       [49:00] Baby name theft •       [51:00] Is ghosting ever okay •       [55:00] Backstreet Boys vs NSync •       [55:30] Marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection •       [1:05:00] Does your culture talk about sex enough •       [1:07:00] Couples therapy ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

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This week, we're talking about what happens when one person in a relationship sets every standard, gives everything, and then gets blamed for wanting equal effort back. The real-life frustration of realizing someone got comfortable on your generosity, and why the people in your corner telling you to give less might be saying more about them than about you. Whether you have been the one giving 70, the one who got comfortable, or the friend watching it happen from the outside, this episode will feel like sitting with two people who are not afraid to say what nobody else will. We also play a full round of Asking for a Friend covering mental health days, sex ed, overpayment ethics, ghosting, 90s R&B opinions, and the true cost of partying like you're 21 when your body is very much not. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. Show Notes: •       Reddit story: man upset his girlfriend stopped doing 70 percent of the relationship effort and now wants 50/50 •       Who actually sets the standard in relationships and what happens when you change it •       Jealous friends vs. genuinely bad advice: how to tell the difference •       Asking for a Friend cards: sex ed (parents vs. schools), mental health days, overpayment ethics, choosing your baby's sex, stalking your partner's ex, partying in your 30s, baby name theft, ghosting, Backstreet Boys vs NSync, marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection between friends, culture and sex talk, couples therapy •       The viral graduation split, the withheld diploma, and the scholarship she may have lost •       Jocelyn's personal mid-30s highway story and why they do mimosas now •       Why couples therapy works only when both people actually want to be there Timestamps: •       [00:00] Donell Jones, f***boys, and 90s R&B we still know every word to •       [12:00] Reddit: She gave 70, he gave nothing, now he's upset it's 50/50 •       [19:00] When your friends tell you you're doing too much •       [23:00] Asking for a Friend: sex ed, parents vs. schools •       [25:00] The graduation split that may have cost her a scholarship •       [31:00] Zero red flags: suspicious or just lucky •       [32:00] Mental health days and why powering through is a lie •       [36:00] If you get overpaid, do you return it •       [39:00] Choosing your baby's sex •       [40:00] Stalking your partner's ex and Jocelyn's personal cautionary tale •       [44:00] Partying like you're 21 when you're in your 30s •       [49:00] Baby name theft •       [51:00] Is ghosting ever okay •       [55:00] Backstreet Boys vs NSync •       [55:30] Marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection •       [1:05:00] Does your culture talk about sex enough •       [1:07:00] Couples therapy ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

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