#82 - She Was Giving 70 and He Gave Nothing Back

#82 - She Was Giving 70 and He Gave Nothing Back

This week, we're talking about what happens when one person in a relationship sets every standard, gives everything, and then gets blamed for wanting equal effort back. The real-life frustration of realizing someone got comfortable on your generosity, and why the people in your corner telling you to give less might be saying more about them than about you. Whether you have been the one giving 70, the one who got comfortable, or the friend watching it happen from the outside, this episode will feel like sitting with two people who are not afraid to say what nobody else will. We also play a full round of Asking for a Friend covering mental health days, sex ed, overpayment ethics, ghosting, 90s R&B opinions, and the true cost of partying like you're 21 when your body is very much not. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. Show Notes: •       Reddit story: man upset his girlfriend stopped doing 70 percent of the relationship effort and now wants 50/50 •       Who actually sets the standard in relationships and what happens when you change it •       Jealous friends vs. genuinely bad advice: how to tell the difference •       Asking for a Friend cards: sex ed (parents vs. schools), mental health days, overpayment ethics, choosing your baby's sex, stalking your partner's ex, partying in your 30s, baby name theft, ghosting, Backstreet Boys vs NSync, marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection between friends, culture and sex talk, couples therapy •       The viral graduation split, the withheld diploma, and the scholarship she may have lost •       Jocelyn's personal mid-30s highway story and why they do mimosas now •       Why couples therapy works only when both people actually want to be there Timestamps: •       [00:00] Donell Jones, f***boys, and 90s R&B we still know every word to •       [12:00] Reddit: She gave 70, he gave nothing, now he's upset it's 50/50 •       [19:00] When your friends tell you you're doing too much •       [23:00] Asking for a Friend: sex ed, parents vs. schools •       [25:00] The graduation split that may have cost her a scholarship •       [31:00] Zero red flags: suspicious or just lucky •       [32:00] Mental health days and why powering through is a lie •       [36:00] If you get overpaid, do you return it •       [39:00] Choosing your baby's sex •       [40:00] Stalking your partner's ex and Jocelyn's personal cautionary tale •       [44:00] Partying like you're 21 when you're in your 30s •       [49:00] Baby name theft •       [51:00] Is ghosting ever okay •       [55:00] Backstreet Boys vs NSync •       [55:30] Marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection •       [1:05:00] Does your culture talk about sex enough •       [1:07:00] Couples therapy ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#81 – We Finally Admitted Our Most Toxic Traits

This week, we're talking about toxic traits, the real ones we will actually admit to out loud, from anger problems and decision fatigue to talking over the people we love. It is an honest, funny, unfiltered conversation about self-awareness, work stress, and the adulting moments nobody warns you about. We also get into a wild job offer story from Reddit, whether you would warn a coworker who keeps coming back from break late, and the one-warning management policy that keeps everything fair. Whether you're navigating career burnout, learning to set boundaries, or just trying to figure out your own patterns, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. SHOW NOTES •       The Reddit question: if you were honest, what is your most toxic trait? •       Jocelyn's confession: anger, injustice, and the laptop that almost did not survive •       Jade's confession: getting over things too easily and fearing nothing •       Decision fatigue, overthinking, and procrastination in a suit •       The job offer that came in 18,000 below the agreed floor •       Would you warn a coworker who is about to get herself fired? •       Jocelyn's management policy: one warning, unlimited PTO, full accountability •       Corporate burnout vs physically demanding jobs •       The craziest thing a customer ever said at work •       Would you date yourself? •       Life is not meant to be figured out, just lived Timestamps: 00:00 Can we just chat 00:50 The neighbor's kid is at it again 06:05 A boss who actually had her back 09:50 Sisterlocks and Jade's bald head campaign 12:25 Would you date yourself 16:25 What we've figured out about life 20:25 Reddit asks: your most toxic trait, honestly 23:20 The laptop story 33:30 The job offer that came in 18k short 40:20 Corporate vs pharmacy, pick your struggle 45:05 The craziest thing a customer ever said 46:10 Work shirts we had no business wearing 50:25 Warn the new coworker or mind your business 57:55 One warning and unlimited PTO, Jocelyn's policy 1:02:50 Rotary phones and going unreachable 1:06:20 Kids, Florida, and Disney guilt 1:14:25 Wrap-up and Pride Month love ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#80 – Two Years Later She Finally Told the Truth

This week, we’re talking about the friendships that fade without warning, and what it really looks like when someone shows you they’re done, even if they never say it. We’re also into one of the messiest moral dilemmas we’ve ever stumbled across: she wasn’t technically cheating, but the full story is a lot. Whether you’ve been on the receiving end of a fading friendship, had to sit with a complicated relationship situation, or just need two friends to say the quiet part loud, this episode is that conversation. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen. Show Notes: •      The Reddit post about a friend who went ghost — canceling plans, ignoring texts, but hanging with everyone else •      What you’re actually entitled to ask for in a friendship •      The moral dilemma: girlfriend leaves the exclusivity conversation, comes back hours later — what happened in between? •      “Technically not cheating” — where that argument holds and where it completely falls apart •      He was a backup and didn’t know it •      Would you tell your friends if you committed a crime? Taking it to the grave. •      The catcalling confession that went wholesome — and why words have more power than people admit •      Flirting when you’re not single — where’s the line, and what about unintentional flirters? •      The HOA sidewalk story and the petty move that actually worked •      Are Canadians “American”? The argument nobody needs to be having right now •      ChatGPT frustrations, Stray Kids, and the upcoming Michael Jackson documentary on Netflix Timestamps: 0:00 — “I suppose we’re not friends anymore” — the Reddit story that started it all 4:00 — Jocelyn’s personal experience with a fading friendship 6:00 — not every friend is meant to make it to the end 9:00 — the moral dilemma: she left to see someone else before saying yes 13:00 — was it cheating? the “technically” argument 16:00 — she came back with the boombox — he was a backup 19:00 — would you tell your friends if you did a crime? 21:00 — the catcalling confession: five seconds that changed everything 26:00 — flirting in relationships — where’s the line? 31:00 — the HOA sidewalk saga 37:00 — are Canadians “American”? the debate nobody asked for 42:00 — ChatGPT lies, Stray Kids, and the Michael Jackson documentary ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#79 - She Helped Plan The Wedding… Then Said NO

Your ex showing up to your wedding trying to stop the ceremony sounds like something out of a movie… until you realize there are people actually living through situations like that. This week’s conversation turns into a debate about toxic relationships, crazy exes, revenge behavior, workplace sabotage, former opps becoming friends, and whether venting about your friends counts as talking behind their back. Jocelyn shares the story of trying to get a coworker fired before karma immediately came back around at another job, including finding out she got passed over for a promotion because the VP hired her own daughter instead. Jade explains why she refuses to deal with people with crazy exes, and somehow the conversation turns into stolen pets, emotional burnout, social batteries, and why adult friendships can feel exhausting even when you genuinely love your people. If you’ve ever dealt with messy relationships, toxic workplaces, exhausting friendships, or feeling like adulthood is just one long chaotic group chat, this episode is for you. A Girls Perspective, AGP, In My Opinion, Hot Takes, Friendship struggles, Vibe Tribe, Friends yapping, Black Girl Podcast, Adulthood struggles, Single Life, Friendship Problems Podcast, Toxic Friends Podcast, Adulting Podcast, Finding your people, Build a community. Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation. Timestamps: 00:00 Weekly Reddit: The Spreadsheet Girlfriend Story 02:00 Is He Dating A Scientist Or Being Studied? 05:10 Weekly Relationship Check-In Meetings 06:10 The Kidney Snatcher & Toilet Snatcher Callbacks 06:35 Hot Take: Free The Sag? 08:00 The History Behind Sagging Pants 10:00 Why People Care Too Much About Other People's Opinions 11:15 Asking For A Friend Begins 11:40 Unfollowing Friends On Social Media 13:55 When Spending Habits Become A Problem 15:20 Separate Accounts In Relationships 15:50 Friendship At First Sight 17:05 Should Kids Always Come First? 19:15 Telling Your Friend What Happened During A Wild Night Out 20:15 If You Could Commit One Crime And Get Away With It 21:30 Traveling To Another Country Alone 23:45 Accidentally Ending Up In North Korea 24:20 Drifting Away From Family 25:10 Is Not Eating Vegetables A Red Flag? 28:45 Being A Role Model For Younger Siblings 30:05 When Should You Cancel Your Gym Membership? 33:50 Is It Harder To Make Friends As An Adult? 37:10 Can Men And Women Really Be Friends? 39:30 Destination Weddings: Yes Or No? 40:30 Weekly Reddit: The Child-Free Wedding Friendship 43:20 Did She Handle The RSVP Wrong? 47:00 Why The Bride Was Probably Upset 49:45 Destination Weddings vs Destination Honeymoons 51:00 Are Weddings Worth The Money? 52:00 Wedding Debt And Credit Cards 54:45 Honeymoons Matter More Than Weddings? 55:15 Marriage As A Business Agreement 57:00 Wedding Dresses, Vow Renewals & Marriage 59:00 Jade's Villain Era 01:02:00 Facebook Comment Drama 01:04:00 Final Thoughts ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

#78 - She Showed Up To His Wedding… To STOP IT

Your ex showing up to your wedding trying to stop the ceremony sounds like something out of a movie… until you realize there are people actually living through situations like that. This week’s conversation turns into a debate about toxic relationships, crazy exes, revenge behavior, workplace sabotage, former opps becoming friends, and whether venting about your friends counts as talking behind their back. Jocelyn shares the story of trying to get a coworker fired before karma immediately came back around at another job, including finding out she got passed over for a promotion because the VP hired her own daughter instead. Jade explains why she refuses to deal with people with crazy exes, and somehow the conversation turns into stolen pets, emotional burnout, social batteries, and why adult friendships can feel exhausting even when you genuinely love your people. If you’ve ever dealt with messy relationships, toxic workplaces, exhausting friendships, or feeling like adulthood is just one long chaotic group chat, this episode is for you. A Girls Perspective, AGP, In My Opinion, Hot Takes, Friendship struggles, Vibe Tribe, Friends yapping, Black Girl Podcast, Adulthood struggles, Single Life, Friendship Problems Podcast, Toxic Friends Podcast, Adulting Podcast, Finding your people, Build a community. Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation. Timestamps: 00:00 Crazy ex crashes wedding with restraining order 03:20 Would you fight someone at your wedding? 04:48 Would you ruin your ex’s wedding out of spite? 07:00 How much blame does the ex-boyfriend deserve? 08:45 Dealing with people who have crazy exes 11:15 Being toxic vs being genuinely crazy 13:35 Getting attacked in the comments section 14:05 Thoughts on the Michael Jackson movie 17:00 Why the movie felt like a cash grab 20:10 Nintendo Wii nostalgia & useless purchases 21:45 Jocelyn donating jewelry to Riley Hospital 26:10 Arguing with men in the comments 29:05 Confession: stealing a neglected cat 32:30 Is rescuing an animal still theft? 33:00 Jocelyn’s stolen dog nightmare story 39:50 Karma, villains, and being blamed for everything 48:10 Can you trust someone who used to be your opp? 49:30 Jocelyn admits she tried to get someone fired 55:00 Workplace sabotage & toxic coworkers 59:00 Getting passed over for a promotion 1:03:40 Finding out the VP hired her daughter 1:07:00 Why Jocelyn was always “the villain” at work 1:11:00 Do friends secretly talk behind your back? 1:14:00 Venting vs secretly hating your friends 1:16:00 Friends draining your social battery 1:17:00 The Ruffles chips betrayal story 1:20:00 Building a 3D puzzle & ending the episode ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.