After Inlove: Your Intimacy Survival Guide

The 4-Step Fix for Any Relationship Fight

We all argue—but most of us were never taught how to actually repair after a fight. Without proper repair, relationships suffer death by a thousand papercuts, with every unresolved hurt piling up over time. In this episode, I’m breaking down the four essential steps to repairing after conflict—without defensiveness, blame, or another round of the same argument. You’ll learn: Why conflict isn’t the problem (but lack of repair is) When not to try and fix things (hint: when you're still heated) The exact words to use for a repair conversation that works The biggest mistakes we make in making up—and how to avoid them If you want to stop walking on eggshells and start actually moving forward after fights, this one’s for you.

Why you keep fighting (and how to actually make up)

Ever feel like you and your partner are stuck in the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone. Conflict is a natural and necessary part of any relationship - but the way we handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, I explore why we argue, what we’re really fighting about (hint: it’s not just the dishes or being late), and how to navigate conflict in a way that strengthens your connection instead of tearing it down. I break down the hidden dynamics at play, the most common mistakes we make when tensions rise, and how to move from gridlock to understanding. Fighting doesn’t mean your relationship is broken—it means you care. Tune in to learn how to make your conflicts work for your relationship, not against it. Resources: https://www.afterinlove.com/ https://www.instagram.com/afterinlovetherapy/

Erectile Dysfunction: Breaking the Silence & Finding Solutions

Erectile difficulties happen to so many penis owners, yet it’s still one of the most misunderstood and anxiety-inducing challenges in the bedroom. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons behind erection struggles—beyond just physical causes—and explore the psychological, relational, and emotional factors that play a huge role. We’ll cover: Why erectile issues are not just about aging or testosterone The mind-body connection—how anxiety can be the biggest erection killer How to talk to your partner about it without shame or pressure Practical, science-backed ways to rebuild confidence and pleasure Whether this is something you’ve personally faced or you’re supporting a partner through it, this episode will help you understand what’s really going on—and what you can do about it. My hope is this will take the fear out of the conversation and bring connection back into your bedroom. Resources: My website https://www.afterinlove.com/ Lori Brotto's meditations https://www.loribrotto.com/mindfulness-recordings

The Sex Talk Every Couple Needs to Have

Talking about sex can feel awkward, but it’s one of the biggest predictors of a satisfying sex life. In this episode, I break down why open communication about sex is essential for intimacy, connection, and pleasure. We’ll explore common barriers that make it harder to talk about sex (and how to overcome them), plus what research tells us about the link between sexual satisfaction and communication. I’ll walk you through key topics to discuss with your partner, from sharing fantasies and reflecting on peak experiences, to exploring preferences, curiosities, and boundaries. I’ll also give practical strategies for having these conversations—whether through words, touch, or playful experimentation. If talking about sex feels intimidating, this episode will help you start the conversation in a way that strengthens your relationship, deepens intimacy, and improves your sex life. Resources: Mojo Upgrade - the sex communication checklist: https://mojoupgrade.com/ Sex Zine to work through with yourself/ your partner: https://megjohnandjustin.com/sex/intro-to-our-make-your-own-sex-manual-zine/

4 Relationship Lessons That Changed Everything

Real intimacy requires openness—but how do we stay open to love while also protecting ourselves from inevitable pain? In this episode, I break down four key ways to stay open in your relationships: ❤️ Open Heart – True connection comes from emotional vulnerability. Saying "I love you," admitting "you hurt me," and letting yourself be truly seen are the risks that deepen intimacy. 🧠 Open Mind – Love thrives on curiosity. Understanding your partner’s world, embracing differences, and letting go of rigid expectations can transform how you connect. 👀 Open Eyes – Denial won’t save a relationship, but truth can. Seeing things as they really are—both the good and the hard—allows you to navigate love with honesty. 👐 Open Hands – Holding onto love too tightly can stifle it. Learning to love without control, embracing change, and trusting the flow of relationships keeps love alive. If you’ve ever struggled with fear of vulnerability, conflict, or loss in love, this episode is for you. Let’s explore how staying open can lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships. 🎧 Listen now!