BDE: Books, Dating and Everything

Life updates, life coach doms and the fundamentals of being a good girl

Books, Dating & Everything: House Hunting, Spicy Reads, and the “Life Coach Dom” Idea Rachel and Jessica introduce their podcast BDE, sharing their love of spicy books, chaotic dating stories, and deep conversations. They catch up on real life—Jessica is exhausted from staying up reading, and Rachel shares the excitement and stress of buying her first house and moving after 10 years, including decluttering while juggling work, workouts, and basic routines. They discuss motivation, ADHD/neurodivergence, and jokingly brainstorm a “life coach dom/workout dom” concept inspired by romance tropes and Fundamentals of Being a Good Girl by Julie Murphy and Sierra Simone. They review the book’s themes—age-gap professor romance, domination/submission dynamics, body image, healing after a degrading relationship, healthy co-parenting, and feeling safe in love—plus talk about older romance novels like The Windflower. They mention a possible summer podcast break and planning in-person events. 00:00 Welcome to BDE 00:44 Sleepy Bookish Banter 01:36 Buying a First Home 03:04 Moving Chaos and Decluttering 04:24 Offline Life and Social Media Breaks 06:26 Busy Days and Basic Needs 08:24 The Life Coach Dom Idea 15:04 Soft Dom Preferences 16:21 Book Talk Wreck Me 17:13 Body Image and Representation 18:52 Plot Setup Age Gap Nanny 20:26 Dom POV and Healing Themes 24:26 Toxic Trauma Bonds 25:25 Death by Sarcasm 27:18 Healing Through Love 28:42 Power in Submission 29:38 Letting Him In 34:29 Safe Space Breakdown 38:00 Books That Heal 40:13 Roleplay and Neurodivergence 41:44 Secret Romance Era 44:01 Mom's Spicy Classic 47:43 Mafia Enemies Tease 48:11 Summer Break Plans 48:36 Reviews and Goodbye

Brat Kinks and Spider Hijinks

But first let’s be friends: Instagram TikTok Spiders, Online Dating Chaos, and Our Game On (Navea Allen) Book Talk | BDE Podcast Rachel and Jessica introduce their podcast BDE, a weekly show about books, dating, and relationships, then spiral into a long, funny conversation about spiders—Rachel claims she can “feel” when one is nearby, recounts finding a huge spider after a bath, and admits she vacuums spiders up and has thrown away multiple vacuums afterward. They shift to online dating, discussing how exhausting apps feel, the difference between quantity and quality of likes, and a recent date that went well, plus ideas for better first dates like activities, laser tag, and group singles events. They also discuss the viral “catching print” concept and then review Navea Allen’s Game On, praising the banter, forced proximity plot, and unexpectedly hot brat-kink dynamic, rating it highly and comparing it to Lights Out and Caught Up. 00:00 Welcome to BDE 00:44 Hair Talk and Bonnet 02:11 Today’s Topics Setup 03:14 Spider Whisperer Bath Story 06:07 Vacuum Method Chaos 08:48 MySpace Spider Trauma 13:55 Spider Line and Men 14:13 Online Dating Burnout 18:22 Roster Talk and Energy 23:43 Serial Monogamist to Apps 25:47 Wild First Date Ideas 27:28 Worst First Date Idea 28:10 Activity Dates Win 28:31 Peewee Golf Debate 29:32 Laser Tag Singles Night 30:26 Laser Tag Play Styles 32:21 Catching Print Explained 36:19 Growing Up Different 37:04 Game On Book Review 39:52 Brat Kink Breakdown 47:44 More Audiobook Recs 50:12 Wrap Up and Outro

Dark romance, things that embarrass us and pet names that make us cringe

But first let’s be friends! Instagram TikTok Embarrassing Things, Cringey Pet Names & Why Dark Romance Isn’t Shameful | BDE Podcast Rachel and Jessica introduce BDE, a podcast about books, dating, and life, then dive into “things that are embarrassing for no reason,” including small talk, paying with cash, nail salon chair massages, bowling walk-backs, parallel parking, checking mail with someone behind you, being ID’d, ordering under pressure, and awkward doctor-gown moments (plus a debate about what to put on first after a massage). They play a pet-name yes/no game (favorites include “good girl” and “baby,” while “baby girl” is a strong no) before discussing dark romance: how they started with Feather So Vicious/Shadow So Cruel, their reactions to Haunting/Hunting Adeline, and why Lights Out works as a funny gateway. They also mention Hitched, Dance with My Demon, God of Malice, and Under Your Scars, and explain dark romance as a controlled space to explore taboo desire, safety, power, and transformation. They end by requesting anonymous “Messy Mondays” dating stories via DM and asking for reviews and follows. 00:00 Welcome to BDE 00:44 Fake Spring Banter 01:42 Today’s Agenda 02:58 Embarrassed by Everything 04:22 Cash and Germs 05:49 Nail Salon Awkwardness 08:35 Bowling and Parking Panic 12:48 Doctor Gown Dilemmas 14:10 Massage Naked Debate 19:40 Pet Names in Romance 23:26 Yes No Pet Name Game 27:31 Cringey Pet Names 29:19 Dark Romance Confessions 31:20 Feathers and Shadows Deep Dive 35:43 Haunting Adeline Reactions 39:28 Lights Out Gateway Pick 40:55 Hitched and Other Recs 43:27 Why Dark Romance Works 52:57 No Shame Reading Tastes 55:38 Messy Mondays and Wrap

Dr. thick thighs and why Harry Styles is a walking green flag

Follow us on our socials Instagram TicTok Dr. Thick Thighs & Why Harry Styles Is a Walking Green Flag Rachel and Jessica introduce their BDE podcast about books, dating, and real-life relationship talk, then share a chaotic story about Rachel’s first chiropractor visit in 15 years at Jessica’s office, where she arrives sweaty in a sweatsuit with no underwear, gets unexpectedly intense adjustments, and is stunned by the attractive “Dr. Thick Thighs,” but leaves feeling better with improved neck movement and fewer headaches. They pivot to Harry Styles, discussing why he feels like a “walking green flag,” including his confidence, kindness, boundaries, respect for women, and authentic self-expression, then react to his new album, compare how they listen to albums, name favorite tracks, and announce they’re traveling to New York to see him at Madison Square Garden in late September while asking for NYC recommendations. 00:00 Welcome to BDE 00:59 Today’s Topic Tease 02:32 Chiropractor Storytime Begins 03:06 Sweatsuit and Spicy Lunch 07:19 Meet Dr Thick Thighs 11:45 The Adjustment Chaos 22:06 Aftermath and Shoutouts 22:38 Harry Styles Green Flag Era 24:32 ChatGPT Breaks Down Harry 26:06 Mysterious Yet Safe 26:58 Humble Fan Connection 28:54 Masculinity and Expression 31:31 Respecting Women in Action 34:31 Album Art Shock 35:20 Dingleberry Definition Detour 37:25 How We Listen to Albums 39:40 Favorite Tracks Breakdown 41:54 Pop Lyrics Explained 43:42 NYC Concert Plans 47:03 Joyful Fangirl Energy 48:50 New York Tips and Wrap Up 49:47 Final Thanks and Reviews

Neurodivergent Food Situations and Wuthering Heights Movie Review

Panic Ordering Pizza, The Grapes Debate, and Our Unfiltered “Weathering Heights” Review (Spoilers!) Rachel and Jessica introduce their BDE podcast, then Rachel shares a night out with coworkers at psychic comedian Peter Antonio’s show, including her panic-ordering and a disastrous sticky chicken-slab pizza that made her realize she “builds” perfect bites and is picky about textures (sparking a debate about saving the best last bite and squeezing grapes before eating them). They then give a spoiler-filled, unfiltered discussion of the new “Weathering Heights” film starring Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi, praising the acting, cinematography, music, and unsettling sexual tone while calling it a dark, tragic, toxic love story with disturbing scenes, miscommunication, and an unhappy ending. They close by chatting about current reads, including the smut-heavy “For the Fans,” the fantasy “Dawn of the North,” and the nonfiction “Journey of Souls,” and ask listeners to review and follow. 00:00 Welcome to BDE 00:47 Today’s agenda 01:40 Psychic comedian night 04:34 Panic ordering chaos 07:42 The pizza disaster 12:34 Ideal bite debate 16:05 Thanksgiving fry trauma 20:33 Grape texture showdown 24:29 Weathering Heights setup 26:18 Saltburn detour 27:56 Cinematography and vibes 28:42 That opening scene 31:06 Shocking Opening Scene 31:54 Meet Catherine and Heathcliff 36:13 Barn Voyeurism Awakens Desire 38:43 Rock Encounter and Obsession 40:32 Gothic Aesthetics and Costumes 41:46 Marriage Money and Betrayal 47:59 Heathcliff Returns and Chaos 48:59 Dirty Passion and Jealousy 53:44 Tragic Ending and Aftermath 55:18 Was It Love or Toxicity 59:38 Dark Romance Book Talk 01:05:20 Wrap Up and Farewell